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I saw a video of a boy somewhere in Anhui Province going out with his mother and sister.
Because of some small things, the boy and his sister had some quarrels, and unexpectedly, the mother directly began to scold the boy.
The boy felt that his fragile self-esteem was completely shattered at that moment, and he could not think for a moment and jumped.
Fortunately, the boy was still rescued by the firefighters, and after calming down, he followed his mother home.
1. You are the older brother and want to let the younger brother
Many netizens on the Internet are saying: "Today's children are really fragile in their hearts, and if they don't agree, they will die or live." “
Indeed, in the current social environment, the psychological problems of adolescents are a very serious problem that deserves attention.
However, is the psychological fragility of children really only because their own ability to bear it is too poor?
Back in the days of my parents, many families had several children, the eldest with the smallest, and the parents worked outside.
At that time, the parents did not give love, but more often, the parents gave equally.
In this day and age, when only children are in charge, after having a second child, more parents are accustomed to favoring the smaller one.
However, they ignore the feelings of the first child, knowing that the love they should have received has been deprived, and the adults still ask them to be generous.
2. He only has a piece of sugar
In "Strange Story", there was once a topic: if you have a second child, do you want to get the consent of the boss?
Fu Seoul once said: "When a child has a hundred candies in his hand, how can he mind sharing?" When he only has two candies in his hand, why do you ask him to be generous? ”
In reality, we have also seen brothers grow up guarding their sisters, and sisters accompanying their brothers' families, and they are not non-existent.
Why do these children obviously not have the love of their parents, but they never complain. Or even parents taught them to share?
Because the parents of these children are always relatively fair in their way of education, rather than letting one child become an appendage to another child.
When they educate their children, they never tell their children to give everything good to their younger siblings, but teach them to do what they want to do.
Taking the initiative to learn to be humble and sharing is completely different from being forced by parents to give up what they like and even love.
Small children need to be guided and feel loved, and they need to teach by example, not blame.
3. Baby, I love you forever
Remembering that she once watched a mother and her child discuss about the second child, she gently told the child:
"Baby, the baby in Mom's belly is just like you, it's our baby, it's Grandpa's Grandma's Grandpa's baby."
Once, we also waited with great anticipation and greeted your arrival, and now we must do the same to the child in the mother's belly.
Rest assured, Mom and Dad will not ignore your feelings because they have a new baby, and in our eyes, you are also a gift from God.
Maybe, in the beginning, we will be in a hurry and will not be able to take care of you as we used to, but we promise that we will still love you.
We don't ask you to let the baby go for everything, but if you're willing to take care of him with us, we'll be happy.
Because, in this world, only we are a family, and the four of us are the most valued and beloved people of each other. ”
The education of love is sometimes a little bit of penetration, although the child is a child, but he must also have his own ideas.
Adults can not understand, but can not fail to understand, and even blindly impose their own ideas, forcing them to accept.
We didn't want our parents to treat us this way, and now we want you to do the same to your children.
4. He grew up, but he was also a child
Older kids, just a little younger kids, become your kids a little earlier.
However, this does not mean that he can only be humble and acceptable, he also needs to be loved and cared for.
So, please let him know that he is loved and not a forgotten being.
Even if you can't completely level the bowl of water, at least don't hurt him with age.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.