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I saw a story shared by a netizen on the Internet, a friend he knew, who died in a car accident some time ago.
Ironically, when he was in a car accident, when he had just finished the divorce formalities, he thought he was about to start a new life.
Unexpectedly, a disaster and a car accident brought his life to an abrupt end, which was really regrettable.
1. I give more than you think
In the eyes of friends, this boy is a rare three good men, the Gu family can earn money, can pay and never shirk responsibility.
Everyone said that if anyone could marry this man, he would definitely live a good life in the future. Slowly even he felt this way.
So later, although he and his wife met through blind dates, he always took his feelings very seriously.
From love to marriage and children, the sense of ceremony that should be given, the sense of security that should be given, and everything that should be done, he tried to do his best.
But when time passes slowly. He found that his wife was going out more and more often, and the reasons for the two to quarrel were becoming more and more insignificant.
Until he saw the scene of his wife cheating, he still couldn't believe that he could actually encounter such a thing.
He has no shame in his family and marriage. However, the wife wanted much more than that, so she chose to cheat.
Obviously he already knew all this, but the man did not divorce, he was for the sake of the children, but also to maintain the family, until the day the wife filed for divorce.
Looking back on his life, he didn't do anything wrong. The only thing wrong was to choose such a wife, and she ruined his life.
2. Betrayal, no need to be forgiven
In fact, in response to various marriage news on the Internet, there has always been such a view: 'Should betrayal be forgiven?' “
Some people, when they first started together, loved darkly. It was as if in their eyes to each other, there was only one person left.
But with the passage of time, the freshness of the two is constantly weakened, and with the understanding of each other, more shortcomings are discovered.
After that, people started to get bored and even started to have the idea of running away from each other, so their relationship began to crack.
Whether it's unwarranted suspicion or a big fight that erupts at any time, this is something that is very likely to happen.
The crux of the matter is never love itself, but in the fact that people are no longer the ones they just met.
He has a new mind, he has met a new person, then, for all your previous efforts, he will take it for granted.
Whether it is such a love or a marriage, no matter how much you maintain it, it is just an empty shell, and when a gust of wind blows, there is nothing left.
3. Get married, not to make you afraid of marriage
Someone said: "I have watched so many news on the Internet about betrayal in marriage, and I think that not getting married is the best life." “
But in fact, if you don't get married, you will be happy? Maybe it was at the beginning, but people are not only now.
A friend once told me about an experience of my own, when my family was sick, the aunt in the same ward was alone.
She had never been married in her life, and when she was young, she lived happily every day. It was only when she got older that she began to regret it.
When others are accompanied by people around, they are only alone, not unable to take care of themselves, but feel inexplicably desolate.
When our parents are there, we probably never feel how important it is to have someone to be there, until they leave, and that emptiness is really deadly.
Of course, nothing is absolute. It's just that if you might meet someone and start a new story, why do you have to give up.
In this world, nothing is absolute. Marriage is likely to bring misfortune, but it is more likely that you chose the wrong person.
4. Don't insist, don't refuse
Everyone has the right to choose how they live their life, and that doesn't mean that everything has to come with the worst.
Zhihu has a question: "Is it possible for an ordinary person to meet happiness in the eyes of others?" “
The answer is yes, because happiness is not about whether a person is ordinary or not, but how he faces life.
Whether it is marriage or celibacy, the key is not to make a decision easily on a whim.
It's not terrible to love someone, it's terrible that you marry for the sake of getting married and waste the rest of your life for the sake of making it up.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.