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Birth, old age, illness and death is a process that everyone must go through. Some people say that the faster they enter the old age stage of life, the more afraid of getting old.
In fact, it is not terrible to be old, what is really terrible is that life will be very bitter when you are old.
Although suffering is a practice that must be experienced in life, the meaning of suffering at different stages of life is completely different, and suffering at a young age is experience, in order to live a good life in the future, that is, to not suffer in the future, but in old age, it is really desolate life.
The end of each of our lives is the same, but some people are different, some people are bitter, and some people are desolate at night.
People with desolate evening scenes always like to complain, they always feel that life is unfair to them, as everyone knows, in fact, life is the same for everyone, but some people have unconsciously made choices for their lives.
Some words and deeds that may seem less important can play a vital role in our lives.
Some people always like to be willful when they are young, thinking that their lives are still very long, and the future is still far away for themselves, so they like to squander their lives in a free way, in fact, they are going farther and farther on the wrong path.
In fact, for everyone, you can take forty years old as a watershed, forty years old before the age of life everything has the opportunity to start over, but after forty years old is not the same, at this time you should show the maturity and stability that an adult should have, absolutely can not be as wanton as before, you must make more plans for the second half of your life.
Forty to fifty years old this stage of life, in fact, has entered the second half of life, although not old, but also no longer young, if you do not want your life to be desolate, you should lay the foundation for your future life.
It doesn't matter if the first half of life is hard, as long as you take every step now, the second half can also live very comfortably.
Some people say that some people suffer because they have been thinking about others, and they have to swallow all the suffering silently for the sake of life, for work, for the sake of their families and friends.
The reason why people are willing to suffer is nothing more than a desire to be able to work hard, but life is not something that can be exchanged for bitterness by suffering, if you blindly suffer and seek perfection, it may be exchanged for a lifetime of bitterness.
Therefore, after the age of forty, we must think more about ourselves and learn to talk to our hearts, so that we can make ourselves more comfortable.
In fact, the age stage of forty to fifty years old is a good time to adjust your own state, at this time you have experienced the baptism of life, the mode of thinking is more mature, as long as you can think clearly about what you need, and what kind of road to take in your future life.
If you don't want to suffer for a lifetime, learn to reject three things from the age of 40 to 50, especially the third:
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First thing: reject internal friction:
In fact, people are often unhappy because they think things are too complicated.
Many times, it is clear that one thing has not happened, or it is useless to think so much, but you still can't help but think about it, to worry excessively, which will often make yourself and the people around you feel very tired.
This situation is very easy to occur in the age of forty to fifty years old, because at this time, people may be in a downward phase of work, and children will leave them because of study or work, so it is easy to feel lonely and anxious.
Anyone in a state of loneliness or anxiety is prone to overthinking, such as worrying about their children's study and work, and even the problem of choosing a mate in the future, and they will also worry about various health problems that will occur in their bodies next.
The result of this is that the more you think, the easier it is to let yourself fall into a state of paranoia, and then it is easy to let yourself and the people around you have conflicts, so that your relationship with them is getting worse and worse, you think that you are thinking about them, but unconsciously caused them some troubles, especially as a parent, to understand that the children's life path should let the children go on their own, parents as long as they take care of themselves are accumulating blessings for them.
Second thing: refuse to please the personality:
The so-called flattering personality is what people commonly call rotten good people, this kind of person in order to make others comfortable, sometimes even aggrieved themselves and their families.
Such people seem to be very popular, but they are actually just being used by others.
This kind of person with a flattering personality is generally a relatively cowardly and inferior person, and they are using this way of pleasing others to brush up on their sense of existence and show their own value.
But the sad thing about people with this personality is that their efforts are often taken less seriously by others, or even thrown away when they are used up.
If it is before the age of forty, there is still capital to bear the consequences of making mistakes, but after forty years of age, you must refuse to please the personality, otherwise you may make yourself, or even your family, suffer for a lifetime.
Third thing: refuse to over-consume in advance.
Nowadays, many people have the concept of spending in advance, and they feel that spending tomorrow's money today is a very enjoyable thing.
A person who has such a concept before the age of forty is still quite confident, but if a person from the age of forty to fifty still has such an idea, it is a very immature performance.
Because the mature concept of consumption is not only responsible for themselves, but also responsible for their families.
After the age of forty, people will face a variety of relatively harsher realities, such as the gradual decline of their own and their spouse's physical functions, various medical expenses that may occur in the future, and the reduction of job opportunities, followed by a decline in income, and everyone will be under greater pressure between this rise and a drop.
Therefore, it is important for people after the age of forty to have a mature concept of consumption.
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People after the age of forty are the most mature in their minds, so it is also the most critical period for a person, and often the decisions made at this age will effectively affect the quality of life in the future.
Therefore, people at this age must think about what they should accept and what they should reject
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