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This article is for people with flattering personalities, and I was also a flattering personality, so I know how painful and difficult it is to get rid of a flattering personality.
In the original family, a child is suppressed and bullied by parents from childhood to adulthood, then the child is easy to form a flattering personality, and my flattering personality is also formed.
Such a child is not liked from childhood, from childhood by the parents of the blow and depreciation, in order to get the recognition of parents, so he is always currying favor with parents, doing things that parents like, obeying parents, but even so he still can not get the recognition of parents.
Because the parents do not do well and do not recognize him, but his parents are self-righteous and poor, so even if he does well, everything obeys the parents and becomes honest, the parents still will not recognize him.
It can be said that poor parents can always pick out a bunch of problems from excellent children, if this child is not strong in heart, then this child will let such parents ruin.
Children from childhood to adulthood are suppressed by parents, the child is likely to form a flattering personality, and the flattering personality is to please others indefinitely, and whoever is with them will please whom, even if they can't get along with others, they must be hard together to constantly please those who are not good to themselves.
In the original family is like this, the child of the pleasing personality, the more the parents are not good to them, the more they want to get the approval of the parents, so from childhood to adulthood, they continue to please the parents who are not good for themselves, and slowly form a pleasing personality.
People with pleasing personalities are particularly afraid of falling out with others, afraid of not getting the approval of others, especially afraid of not getting the approval of relatives, the more they are suffering, thinking that all relationships cannot be broken, always using the way of pleasing to maintain all relationships, the result is not only not to get the likes of others, but also to make others look down on!
Today, I want to tell myself, but also to tell you who are pleasing to the personality, in fact, our life is to fit in, not to come together, there is no need to be so low and low, others will not have a better relationship with you because you are low, but will be more disrespectful to you because you are low.
Therefore, don't abuse yourself badly, be cruel in your heart, be strong in your heart and live well, some things are more understood, more worried, more accommodating, before I was kinder than anyone, but many people regarded me as a fool.
Don't be afraid to fall out with others, the more flattering you are, the more tired you are in the relationship with others, the relationship between you and most people is actually a fit, can not come together, there is no need to be entangled alone, this will only tire yourself.
You should be kind with sharpness, weakness with strength, don't be too soft and always think of interacting with people in a flattering way. You must know that your interaction with others is like cooperation, cooperation is cooperation, cooperation is cooperation, cooperation is not successful, goodbye or friends, or it does not matter if you don't see each other.
To be a person, you should put down, let go of your own flattering personality, pick up your own attitude, strengthen your heart, live well, and many of the relationships in life are: fit together, and if you don't come together, you will scatter. The key is to put your own mentality well, live hard, study hard, work hard, there is a sentence in "Skin Bag" that says it very well: give yourself back to yourself, and return others to others.
Have you returned yourself to yourself and to others?