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For parents who want to have two children, the age difference between the two children is also a factor to consider. In the end, how many years are the difference between the two children, I believe that each has its own considerations.
Once in a show, I saw that Mao Buyi and Papi Sauce both expressed their views on this. Mao is not easy to say: "I think it is still densely grown, densely packed." ”
Papi Sauce said that she saw in the book that the best age difference between the first child and the second child was 3.5 years old, at this time the child's self-awareness has begun to grow, and it is not so sticky to the caregiver. And many two-year-old children are in the Terrible Two, the child's first rebellious period, everything must be according to their own wishes, the acceptance of new children is low, etc., the specific book how to say she also forgot, you can go to the book to see.
I think the papi sauce and Mao's easy views are both reasonable, and each has its own advantages and disadvantages.
It is not easy for mao to grow densely in dense areas, provided that someone helps to carry it
If there are people with children at home, the mother's body can also be, and it is better to give birth intensively. In this way, the two children play together without remembering, live and grow up together, and the two children are accompanied by someone to play with every day, not alone or bored. Although the two children are noisy and noisy together, there will not be too many differences in the situation of competing for favors and not getting along well.
Moreover, a baby is also a belt, but also tired. Two are also belts, tired is also tired of those years. When both children are sent to school, the family will be relaxed and liberated.
But densely grown, densely packed, hurt mom the most. First, the damage to the body is more serious, and it is too late to recover and begin to give birth to a child. Moreover, it is too tired, my mother is very tired after dragging her feet, and it is very likely that she will not take care of any of them. So the premise of this is that someone must help bring it at home.
The point of view of papi sauce is more about the education of parents
The point of view of papi sauce is professionally proven. According to studies, children around the age of two or three are at the critical end of the development of self-awareness, and children at this stage are accustomed to being self-centered and asking their families to focus all their attention on themselves, and they are not easily accepting new members of the family.
So the two litters are about four years apart. Every child can enjoy the care and pampering time of an only child, which can reduce the burden on adults and children. Mom's body has been restored after several years of repairs. And the boss has understood things, and has his own social circle, will not feel unbalanced in his heart, will not find ways to compete for favors, and can become a small helper under the guidance of his family. At the same time, the age difference between the two children is not too large, resulting in a generation gap.
But the older and more sensible, the more he needs the attention of his parents
It is precisely because the boss is relatively sensible, they tend to be more sensitive and think more. Many parents think that the boss understands things, and after having the second brother, they will consciously ignore the boss, which will make the boss very insecure, and feel that the parents will not want him after they have younger brothers and sisters.
Therefore, if you plan to have a second child, you must pay more attention to the emotions of the boss, and after having the second child, you cannot ignore the boss.
【Topic Discussion: How much do you think is the age difference between the two children? 】
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