Nurture neighborly dreams
Netizens asked: Children are not well-liked in school, have been fighting alone, as parents can not integrate into the parent circle, how to deal with other parents to deal with the relationship, help the child?
Reply: Why is it that after urbanization, children's overall social skills have weakened?
Life is endowed with a combination of natural substances with the ability to reproduce + growth cycle + a small part of the self-healing function that damages itself. Plants absorb water-soluble microminerals from natural substances combined with photosynthesis to produce life nutrients, animals feed directly or indirectly on plants, microorganisms live in plants or animals... In the natural material world, the comprehensive survival of all living individuals must be passively adapted and actively claimed after birth.
A long time ago, Darwin noticed the fact that no natural life could survive alone. Starting from the intergenerational reproduction needs of the service species, each natural life is endowed with the underlying physiological genes that grow in harmony with its companions at the beginning of its creation. As a result, plants grow in patches, animals multiply in flocks, and there is no species in the natural life system that can reproduce on their own.
Grade 1 Text "Together"
Little yellow chicken, little black chicken,
Rejoice and rejoice together.
Planing the soil, catching insects,
Play games on the grass.
People often use "people are clustered, things are grouped" to describe the natural physiological properties of people who gather together with affection and affection, and things that are gathered in the same kind. Play table tennis, badminton, basketball, running and playing... No matter where they are, children can find their own play companions according to their own interests and hobbies. So, why is it that after urbanization, children's comprehensive social skills have weakened as a whole?
First, urban eugenics and eugenics have seized the free time that originally belonged to children
Professional childcare, 3 years old into kindergarten, 6 years old to go to primary school, a bunch of interest special classes outside the classroom... Children born in modern towns have been planned to grow up from the moment they are born. Therefore, looking at the current situation of urban life, children under the age of three are mostly led by their parents to play, occasionally children under the 6th grade of primary school play by themselves, and children above the 6th grade of primary school are almost not hanging out alone.
As the saying goes: "Once born, two times cooked, three times four times are friends." "When a human baby is born, it knows nothing about the things around life. However, over time, they develop perceptual memories of things that often appear around their bodies. As a result, the memory of the human brain easily identifies family, friends, or strangers. Of course, if children are always focused on learning cultural and homework knowledge, then their time for independent social interaction will be greatly reduced, and their comprehensive independent social skills will be forced to be discounted.
Personal social skills are played out
Second, the increasingly rich personal virtual entertainment has tied the hands and feet of children who love sports
The Tao Te Ching: "The Tao gives birth to one, one life to two, two to three, and three to all things." "Human beings, like other natural beings, were completely dependent on the "natural ecological food chain" for survival, and there was no entertainment activity other than to satisfy daily survival. However, since the days when humans learned to obtain relatively stable food supplies through the cultivation of plants, because they did not have to worry about finding food all the time, humans had more time to innovate leisure and recreational activities.
Dance, music, painting, sports... Human beings organize and gather according to the experience of daily life to form a systematic and complex comprehensive way of entertainment. Of course, the above comprehensive entertainment must be a multi-person collective participation to be fun, until humans master the electronic information transmission & storage technology.
Television sets can be watched by one person, video games can be played by one person, Internet virtual games can be played by one person, internet boring videos can be brushed by one person... Since the advent of electronic toys, children's active nature is like being magically cast. With the deepening of the popularity of electronic products, more and more children are obsessed with electronic toys, and children's sports-loving hands and feet are as if they are bound by electronic virtual entertainment.
Third, towns and cities centered on economic interests do not leave enough space for children to move freely
Commercial centers, residential quarters, museums, libraries, palaces of culture, parks, schools... The town has built all the daily life services needed by modern humans. However, as children without full independent civil capacity, there is hardly a place in the town where they can play freely, such as the timely billing of amusement facilities in commercial centers, the purchase of housing by yard families in residential areas or the rental of residency rights, and even the non-teaching hours of schools for children to study are not open to anyone.
The good boy next door, Gu Ailing, said that her overall growth confidence comes from skiing. Because everyone likes to make friends with people who are better than themselves, when a child has a certain motor skill that can make his peers "impress", he can gather a bunch of friends around him. Of course, all children are not born with a certain athletic talent, they must learn from a stronger peer, integrate later, and finally become a relative core figure in an interest group.
The great trees in the wilderness are leafy in every direction, so that they do not reserve gaps to grow in harmony with any of their companions. Similarly, children are like a seedling, if they are young to limit their free time to play with their peers, then it is extremely difficult for them to get along with other peers when they are adults, for example, in recent years, the comprehensive divorce rate in the mainland has become higher and higher, including many only children who are self-centered in everything.
The mission of nurturing neighbors: to be a sparring partner and consultant on the road to children's growth.
The vision of nurturing neighbors: let there be no small and difficult old people in the world.
Children's growth is like a century-old tree, which needs to experience wind and rain, need selfless companionship from the family, and need sincere teaching from the school and society. Nurturing neighbors: Explore the use of neighborhood friendliness to promote social harmony, promote social moral education and indoctrination, and promote the healthy and happy growth of everyone, with a view to "tailoring" children's growth plans with parents and building an educational service ecosystem where neighbors help each other in the community.