Author | Lin Xiaoxi
Source | Lin Xiaoxi (ID: mrlinxiaoxi)
01.
Hello wow, I'm Lin Xiaoxi.
Dickens wrote in A Tale of Two Cities:
It's the best of times, it's the worst of times;
It's an age of wisdom, it's an age of stupidity;
It's a season of light, it's a season of darkness;
This is the Spring of Hope, this is the Winter of Disappointment;
People have everything in front of them, and people have nothing in front of them;
People are on the way to heaven, people are going to the gates of hell.
If you look at the past, perhaps no era has ever reached the heights we are today, and everything seems so fast and efficient.
Everyone is like a small gear under the high-speed operation of this society, non-stop, even day and night, actively or passively wrapped up in this society.
We've heard too many statements like this:
"Don't let your child lose at the starting line"
"You should work hard to make money in order to buy a house and a car, get married and have children early"...
They always feel that you should live as they say you want, as your neighbor's child, to achieve worldly success.
In this increasingly impetuous and fast-paced environment, most people are in a hurry to tell us:
"Take advantage of the young, you have to work hard to fight, you can beat most of your peers, live a car and a house, have achievements, and to put it bluntly, it is a good life with money." 」
But few people tell us:
"Ordinary ordinary life is also a miracle day after day."
"If you live every day in your rental house, you can be very happy."
02.
I am reminded of a healing movie "Spiritual Journey" released before.
The protagonist, Joey (the same name as Joey in "Friends"), has an ordinary appearance, a mediocre birth, and a mediocre job, and is an ordinary middle school music teacher. It is such an ordinary person, but he has a jazz dream that is not ordinary for him, and wants to have his own musical stage.
Middle-aged Joey, while being a teacher, strives to pursue his musical dreams.
Finally, one day, he got a chance to perform on the same stage with the famous jazz musician idol.
Seeing that his lifelong dream was about to come true, Joey died in an unexpected well a few hours before the performance.
At this point in the story, is it a hasty end?
As Joey later lamented, "My life is meaningless." ”
Yu Juan once wrote in "This Life Is Not Completed":
"At the critical point of life and death, you will find that any overtime (staying up late for a long time equals chronic suicide), giving yourself too much pressure, the need to buy a house and a car, these are all floating clouds."
If you have time, spend time with your children, give the money to buy a car to your parents to buy a pair of shoes, don't desperately try to change into a big house, and be with the people you love, the snail house is also warm. ”
Perhaps only when people face death do they suddenly wake up and realize what is most important to them in this world.
03.
Spoilers are involved, except that Joey later came back from the dead and fulfilled his musical dream of performing on the same stage with idol Dorothea.
Joey had thought that his life would change drastically after this concert, but his real life didn't change much.
After the show, Joey couldn't help but ask Dorothea, "I've waited all my life for this day, and I thought I would be different, but I found that it was no different from the past." ”
Dorothea tells Joey a little story:
The little fish told the old fish that he was going to go to the sea. The old fish said, You are in the ocean now. But the little fish said, no, this is just water, I want to go to the ocean. ”
Seeing this, my expression is the same as Joey's.
Be blown away by this simple little story.
We are constantly pursuing the meaning and dreams of life, but it is often easy to ignore the things we have every day.
04.
Zhou Guoping said that there are three growths in life:
The first time is when you find yourself no longer the center of the world; the second time is when you find that no matter how hard you try, you can't do anything; the third time is when you accept your ordinariness and enjoy the ordinary.
I always think of the july of the year I graduated, when I was looking for a job day and night, when I thought life was really too hard, but in fact, looking back now, it is just that.
During that time, walking on the street, I saw salesmen running on the road in suits and ties, middle-aged people squatting on the teeth of the road smoking cigarettes, sanitation workers on the side of the road, takeaway brothers riding motorcycles, and countless souls who passed by and did not know where to go...
When I have this past and experience, I begin to realize my own ordinariness and accept my own ordinariness. Whenever I walk on the street, I feel that this full of human fireworks constitutes the whole meaning of life.
They are ordinary and ordinary, but they are so unique.
I think of the family at the end of "Thirty Only", where dad delivered the courier, smiled and came to his wife and son, helped his wife clean up the pancake stand, and prepared to finish work and go home.
In such a picture, I feel the happiness that I have been missing for a long time.
Have you found a problem, the older we get, the harder it is to be happy.
The life filled with work, the incomprehension of those around us, the chatter of parents and neighbors, began to envelop us.
Let us slowly forget, lose the ability and willingness to enjoy the present, and be wrapped up in the whole environment to move forward, out of our own track.
05.
"The Little Prince" says: All adults were once children, although only a few people remember.
Don't forget, we used to be a kid who could watch ants move all day.
The more we grow, the more we seem to lose the ability to perceive happiness.
The seemingly ordinary life we are experiencing every day is forgotten and abandoned by us, and life is only left with endless money and busy work.
But it is those ordinary and ordinary moments, those fragments of life, that constitute our daily, incapable of rewinding life.
Life is a miracle day after day.
Those trivial fragments and beauty of the everyday are enough to support all the meaning of life.
Mr. Yu Hua said in "Alive": People live for the sake of living itself, not for anything other than being alive.
What is the meaning of being alive?
Maybe the movie gives us an answer: to be alive is meaning in itself.
We will always look for the meaning of life, or be asked this kind of question, but in fact, to live is to live, and under the appearance of those bland and undisturbed lives, there is the true meaning of living.
We often feel unhappy, in fact, just like the little fish in the story, we are too accustomed to the current life, even numb, it is easy to ignore the small luck that is within reach.
06.
Perhaps most of us, throughout our lives, have lived ordinary and ordinary lives, and even in the eyes of others, we have not achieved success in the secular sense.
But what matters is whether we live the way we want to be.
"Head Text D" said: There is only one kind of success in this world, that is, to be able to spend your life in the way you like.
Most of our lives, we will always live in the expectations and eyes of others, afraid of taking a wrong step and deviating from the route they have planned.
However, people who strive to live their own lives may be truly successful.
Like Charles in The Moon and Sixpence, one day he suddenly responded to his inner call, leaving a note saying, "Dinner is ready." "He abandoned everything and ran away from home, pursuing his love of painting, and went to Tahiti in the South Pacific to live with the indigenous people, and did not look back when he was poor and sick.
Charles dared to become an incomprehensible madman in the eyes of others, many people said that he was a fool and even irresponsible, and only he knew the passion of his heart and the ideals he pursued, and chose his own life path in the way he liked.
But in real life, how many people just timidly look up at the moon and continue to chase the sixpence they rely on for food?
The world is too much for "fast", quickly acquiring a certain skill, quickly completing cooperation with customers, and even not wanting to experience pregnancy in October and "fast" having a baby...
But most of the time that is saved is spent on things that don't mean much to life.
We always complain that living is not interesting, life is too boring, but we forget to slow down, stop, wait for our soul, and ask what it wants.
07.
Sanya Lüpomisky, a professor of psychology at the University of California, has shown that only 10% of our happiness depends on the reality we face, and the remaining 90% has nothing to do with everything that happens in the world, but on the way we see the world.
We could have felt happiness in our daily lives: walking on the road, stopping to look up at the clouds in the sky; leaning over to smell a flower; looking up at the moon in the sky on a quiet, sleepless night...
Self-media author Liu Piaopiao said a sentence that I think is very reasonable:
Life is not only about chasing dreams and looking at the distance, but also walking, eating, waiting, meditating... And countless reasons to be happy at your fingertips.
In this high-speed world, there may be sixpence all over the place, but I still hope you slow down, stop, and look up at the moon.
In fact, it doesn't matter if you slow down.
You have to know that the blossoming flowers and fruitful fruits all need a process, take your time, and what should come is on the way.
You are only a child of the universe, no different from plants and stars.
You always have to wait for your soul to look at the moon in the sky.
Author: Lin Xiaoxi. The ground is full of sixpence, but you look up and see the moon.
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