We can't stop the wheel of time from moving forward, but we can sit in the car of time and watch the scenery out of the window contentedly.
The Tang Dynasty literary scholar Liu Yuxi wrote in the "Collected Works of the Tang Dynasty Xiangguo Gifts sikong Linghu Gong":
"Treat others with self-discipline with frugality, treat others with kindness and faith, dispel doubts with Yitan, and eliminate misery with courtesy."
To be a person, we must be honest and frugal, self-disciplined, self-disciplined, and generous and honest.
In this way, we can be frank and fair, polite and humble, and become a just and benevolent person.
Therefore, if one wants to become a highly respected person, one must understand the importance of self-discipline.
Especially for a middle-aged person, it is more important to know the role of self-discipline.
1: Have a ruler in your heart, and keep your precepts
Do you know why a person gradually becomes mediocre?
In the final analysis, it is that such people have always liked to have no scale in trivial matters and no principles in major matters.
In life, there are always too many people, for the sake of a temporary small profit, for a little ill-gotten gain, do not hesitate to exhaust their minds, exhaust their means, and eagerly become a greedy and cheap person.
Sanmao once wrote such a passage:
"Forgiving others' mistakes is not necessarily all virtue.
Ignoring one's own mistakes is the most irresponsible release.
To be excessively self-serving is to be selfish. To completely abandon me is to abuse a living being— oneself.
Self-pity, narcissism, self-suffering, conceit, self-contempt, self-abandonment, self-harm, self-hatred, self-interest, selfishness, self-care, self-reflexiveness, self-deception, are all because of oneself.
Self-use, self-reliance, self-help, self-sufficiency, self-confidence, self-discipline, self-love, self-sufficiency, self-realization, and nature are also still out of themselves. What are you? Who are you? Are you your own? ”
People are alive, in fact, is a journey, in this journey, we will always have ups and downs, miscellaneous emotional fluctuations.
These fluctuations will drive a person's thinking, judgment and choice.
And it is in these choices that there is a gap between people, and even embark on different tracks and different lives.
However, no matter what, our hearts must always understand that life is only once, rather than ignoring their own mistakes, not thinking of making progress, or even never being responsible, it is better to take the initiative to know themselves, bravely change themselves, and then invest in themselves to create a wonderful life.
In fact, these beautiful goals are estimated to have been expected, desired, and worked hard in everyone's heart.
However, people who can really achieve these goals are bound to have such a good habit, that is, self-discipline.
Only self-discipline can achieve a ruler in the heart, wherever you go, or do anything, there is a degree, there is a ruler.
Then, through consciously keeping the bottom line, after a long period of self-discipline, and creating with heart, we can really get close to the goal and achieve the ideal.
Good things always require you to wait a long time, pay patiently, and insist on self-discipline.
Talk with a ruler, do things with moderation, self-discipline and self-awareness, sober and calm, insist on being brave, do these well, and the beauty that belongs to you will come as scheduled.
2: Self-discipline growth
When people reach middle age, you will find that the best growth of a person is self-investment.
Buffett said this at the april 30, 2022 shareholder meeting:
"The best way to fight inflation is to invest in yourself, you have the ability that others can't take away, it can't be because of inflation.
Others will always make deals with you, and what you trade is your abilities, so one of the best investments is to develop yourself. ”
A simple sentence summarizes how we in the middle age stage can truly live with dignity and value in this world.
To put it bluntly, each of us often aspires to some non-existent, or some untrue answer, such as who I am, what should I do, what can I do, and what kind of person can I become?
Eager to hear that people who mix better and have a better life than themselves can generously tell themselves an answer.
As a result, we are always happy to do so, and even quite anxiously search the Internet for some answers that the general public thinks are too tall.
Then, I slowly believed it myself, fell into it, and without thinking about it, I compared it and did it against it.
It's just that I have paid for myself and done it according to the so-called successful methods and methods, but in the end I have achieved nothing.
Why is that?
Because you have never recognized your position, nor have you recognized yourself as a person, let alone what kind of person you want to become.
You don't know anything, you don't know anything, you understand everything, and then you go to the battlefield with your bare hands and deceiving yourself.
How can you not lose?
When people reach middle age, the most taboo thing is to blindly seek resources, pull connections, and find relationships.
Then, drinking and socializing every day, staying up late to maintain interpersonal relationships, not knowing that in the end the stomach is broken, the body is broken, and the network not only does not work, but also intensifies their calculations.
Such a you, in such a middle-aged state, how can you afford to raise a family, filial piety to your parents, or be worthy of yourself?
Therefore, when people reach middle age, the best growth is to eat, sleep, exercise, and improve self-discipline.
Take the initiative to increase insight, strive to improve your horizons, work hard to polish your profession, and strengthen your original intention.
Ouyang Xiu wrote in the Preface to the Biography of Lingguan:
"Sorrow can rejuvenate the country, and Yiyu can die."
A person's worries and labor can make a family prosperous, and if you choose decadence, it is easy to harm others and harm yourself.
If a person is accustomed to laziness and likes to covet pleasure, he will slowly fall into the difficulties of life.
Many people think that momentary laziness is comfort, rest, and blessing.
But as everyone knows, the laziness of adults is boring, boring, tired, and even more depressed.
Therefore, when people reach middle age, they must first be diligent and self-disciplined, and must not live too comfortably.
3: Self-discipline to become a talent
When people reach middle age, they can achieve self-discipline and become talents.
As zeng guofan, a minister of the late Qing dynasty, once said:
"When a mortal does something, he must devote himself to it with all his spirit, and he must be unremitting, and he will not see any thoughts, do this, think like that, sit on this mountain, look at that mountain. Man is eternal, and he has achieved nothing in his life. ”
When people reach middle age, they need to do one thing with one mind and one thing, do one thing with one heart, and then persevere and put an end to different thoughts.
Always maintain the spirit of self-discipline, self-conscious style, confident mentality, prefer to be alone, rather than strong.
In our own small world, even if it is embarrassing and difficult, we must believe that as long as we pay and persist in our own bits and pieces, one day, we will be able to polish a strong self in the years of solitude.
At that time, with a broad mind, long-term vision, vast pattern, and high wisdom, to create their own wonderful, high-quality life.
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