#头条创作挑战赛#
There is a saying in the Tao Te Ching: "Those who win are powerful, and those who win themselves are strong." This phrase has a profound meaning, revealing that the true meaning of strength is not just about overcoming others, but about being able to transcend oneself and achieve inner strength.
Everyone has a heart that longs to be strong, looking forward to breaking the waves in the ocean of life, and going smoothly. However, the voyage of life often depends on the attitude and attitude of the individual, and how to steer the sails of life determines what kind of scenery we will experience.
In the face of various situations in life, wise people know how to adjust their posture at the right time: perseverance and fearlessness in the trough, and in trivial matters, they can uphold tolerance and patience, and deal with everything calmly and calmly.
Always maintain a normal heart, let the outside world be turbulent, but the heart can not be shocked.
In this way, no matter how unpredictable the external environment is, the boat of life will eventually be able to find a new way out between the peaks and loops, and meet unexpected surprises in the bright spots.
Struggle for the lower order
The ancients said: "If you want to become a big tree, you don't fight with the grass, and the general has a sword, but you don't cut flies." ”
Those who have lofty aspirations do not need to compete with those who are not equal, and those who are truly talented do not disdain to make enemies with those who are inferior. However, life is short, the grass and trees are autumn, and my generation is all ordinary people, living ordinary days.
If others encroach on my interests and touch my bottom line, should I be upright or silent? Sometimes, when I am in a low position, my good heart is regarded as cowardly and incompetent.
The reason why people have gained an inch is because you have repeatedly backed down and lowered your standards for being human. If we understand human nature, we will know that the weak are not justified, and they should not depreciate themselves to dust.
True love for oneself means making wise judgments and moving forward steadily while respecting the needs of one's heart. In the past, when Confucius disciples went out and encountered drowning, they immediately provided assistance, and those who were rescued were rewarded with cattle.
When he returned, the disciples charged him with receiving gifts, but Confucius praised him for doing the right thing. Since then, people have followed suit, and the people's customs have improved. Fu Seoul, the debater of "Strange Sayings", said: "If the strong don't shut up, how can the weak have the opportunity to argue." "Regardless of status, one must act according to one's ability, and those who know themselves will never be inferior.
People are born different, with different growth environments, education and life backgrounds, so there are also differences in cognition. Disputes are not to divide the winners and losers, but to seek common ground while reserving differences to create a win-win situation.
Only high-pitched communication can attract the attention of the other party, and only powerful conversation can open up the road of development. True empathy comes from making the other person give in.
Sun Tzu's Art of War has a cloud: "Those who are good at fighting are invincible, and they will not lose the defeat of the enemy." "Those who are good at fighting will not only ensure their own invincibility, but also do not miss the opportunity to defeat the enemy.
The meaning of contention is not inertial refutation, nor is it unreasonable, but convincing people with a positive attitude. Competing with the masters and debating with the wise is also a good opportunity for self-growth.
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Shinobu Kojigami
In "Zengguang Xianwen", it is written: "Endure the anger of the moment, so as not to worry about a hundred days." "A lot of times, we don't lose because we don't have talent and ability, we lose because we lose to our emotions. can't tolerate small things, often affecting the overall situation and losing.
We all know that in "Three Kingdoms", Sima Yi not only defeated Zhuge Liang, but also defeated Cao Cao's three generations with "forbearance", and finally won the world. Forbearance, a knife in the heart, even if there is the pain of cutting the heart, those who become big things also understand the truth of "small forbearance is chaos and big scheme".
The last battle between Sima Yi and Zhuge Liang can be said to have interpreted "forbearance" to the extreme. At that time, Zhuge Liang's troops went out of Qishan and attacked Cao Wei, and Sima Yi was ordered to meet the battle. The confrontation lasted for 100 days, during which Zhuge Liang challenged many times, but Sima Yi was not Zhuge Liang's opponent, so he did not move and ignored it.
In desperation, in order to provoke Sima Yi to fight, Zhuge Liang sent an envoy to give Sima Yi a woman's headscarf and a woman's filial piety clothes.
It means to humiliate Sima Yi as a general of Cao Wei, and he did not dare to fight on the battlefield, but instead curled up in the village every day, like a woman who guards filial piety.
Sima Yi couldn't help but be furious in front of his arrogant soldiers. But he quickly calmed down: How can such a trivial matter as sending a woman's clothes mess up my overall plan?
Sima Yi not only restrained his emotions, but also set up a banquet to entertain the envoys. With this move, the envoy relaxed his vigilance and told the truth about Zhuge Liang's lack of food and his own efforts in big and small affairs. Sima Yi immediately laughed, Zhuge Liang was dying.
Sima Yi endured what ordinary people couldn't bear, cautious and calm, while Zhuge Liang couldn't bear the fact that "the enemy was not fooled and leaked the secret of heaven", and died of illness a few days later.
Endure a momentary insult and win without a fight. After that, Sima Yi gained unprecedented prestige and gradually took control of the Wei state, laying the foundation for the Jin dynasty.
Xunzi once said: "If you are angry, you can't be happy." "Interpersonal exchanges, take a long-term view, have a big picture in mind, and don't affect the direction of life because some sesame small things are unsatisfactory.
Being able to control emotions and hold back not to get angry is not only a kind of cultivation, but also a way of life.
There are many people who have achieved great things in ancient and modern times, but they are all masters of patience, and they know the power of forbearance in their hearts.
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Peace-of-mind
Charles Dickens, the great English realist writer, once used typical brushstrokes to depict the myriad faces of life. He said, "The soundness of the emotional state of mind is more powerful than a hundred wisdoms." "The philosophy is profound, and the truth of life is in it.
Looking at the floating clouds in the sky, boundless, fluttering like silk; Feel the rotation of all things, all kinds of changes, and be constant like washing.
On the long road of life, there are laughter and tears, mountains and rivers and plants, but only a peaceful state of mind is the compass that points to the happiness of life, and the sparkle of wisdom ignites the torch of hope and guides the direction of the vast search for a way out.
This reminds me of Su Dongpo, a writer of the Song Dynasty, who had gone through ups and downs in his life and walked a long road to exile.
But this talented man did not give up his love of life because of the bad luck of his life, but praised life in a unique optimistic way, and lived a wonderful life more than disaster.
Mr. Dongpo is looking for the strength to move forward in the midst of torture, but when he is degraded and exiled due to external factors, he makes people feel that kind of unexpectedly natural, peaceful summer wilderness, this powerful force even makes people ignore his embarrassing situation in adversity.
He faced the downfall with a positive attitude, he sought insight from the pain with the courage to face the facts, and he left a vivid poem in the pain with the technique of peeling off the cocoon. Moreover, although he was exiled to Lingnan, he did not choose to bow to fate, but forged a sword with words, turned a halberd into a halberd with words, faced life, and fought calmly. With dense poems, the unique way of singing history shows his stirring pride and fearless spirit.
For example, he wrote in "Jiangchengzi": "I have been suffering and haggard for a long time, and I have been suffering from drought for a long time. A metaphor for the ups and downs of his life, his fate is like silk, bitterness and joy coexist, he remains optimistic in the face of difficulties, and he is unyielding in the struggle against the harsh environment.
Or his "Huizhou Zhanyang Cave Poem": "When you are so poor that the withered elm leaves fly, you smile and look at the masculine and dangerous hills." He is described as having the courage to move forward even in the face of setbacks, and his strength and open-mindedness are vividly displayed in it.
Everyone has adversity times, and everyone should learn from Su Dongpo's optimistic mentality and face the ups and downs of life with a peaceful attitude. After a while, the five elements change, and life is just like a play, which is amazing and helpless.
But have you ever remembered that when you are independent on the top of the world, what you see is not thousands of worlds, but miracles in your heart. This is life, this is spirit, this is our attitude and belief.
It can be said that Su Dongpo is our role model, and his spirit can inspire us to fight against all bad luck, to fight against all hardship and adversity. Everyone should be like him, with an indomitable spirit to face life and face their own destiny.
As Caigen Tan said, only people with a peaceful heart can always be optimistic in life, can see hope in difficulties, and find the motivation to move forward in difficulties.
Only a person with a normal heart can be radiant everywhere in life, can break out of the cocoon into a butterfly in the setback, eternal ups and downs, and unchanging tenacity.
To this end, we must always maintain an optimistic attitude, face life with wisdom and courage, and accept the tests of life, so that no matter what kind of setbacks we encounter, we will have the courage to face them, and no matter how difficult life is, we will have the determination to overcome them.
Life is an attitude, mentality determines behavior, and behavior affects fate.
Only with the right mindset can we have a happy life. If the heart lake is calm, everything will be clear naturally. So, let's learn to adjust our mindset and face everything in life calmly, so that life will be better.
04
At the beginning of the huge work "Awakening Hengyan", the true meaning of life was revealed with cautionary words: "No one is good for a thousand days, and no flower is red for a hundred days." It means that the journey of life cannot be all smooth, and there will always be all kinds of twists and turns, and even sometimes fall into the situation of "the phoenix is not as good as a chicken".
At this moment, if you choose to blame fate or others for your predicament, then the problem will still be with you and you will not be able to get rid of it. On the contrary, if you can introspect inwardly and ask your heart, you may be able to find an opportunity to break out of the cocoon and become a butterfly.
When you are at a low point, do not grovel and feel sorry for yourself, only by maintaining a posture of neither humility nor arrogance can you win the favor and favor of life;
People who have the big picture in mind tend to pay attention to the whole rather than the trivial, they are not disturbed by small things, and they know that patience is the greatest wisdom;
Adhering to a positive and optimistic attitude towards life and not easily compromising in the face of challenges, in this way, the turning point will come quietly.
We sincerely invite you to pay attention to it, and wish your life to be full of wisdom and happiness, and walk on the road of life.