The French writer Albert Camus wrote in The Outsider: "The days, of course, are long, but they procrastinate, day after day, year after year, and finally they are confused." ”
Life seems to be very long, very long, and we repeat our lives day after day, as if we can't see where the end is.
But in fact, reason tells us that this life is only a short hundred years, and it will turn into weather and rain, scattered in the end of the world, and can no longer be found.
The Japanese poet Toshitaro Tanigawa said in "Alive": "The so-called living now is the spread of wings by birds, the turbulent waves, the crawling of snails, the love of people, the warmth of your hands, and life." ”
Or alive is good, even if people have reached middle age, they can still eat food and wear beautiful clothes, watch the beautiful scenery and do beautiful things, who does not linger on this beautiful world?
But we understand better that after half the journey of life, the rest of the journey, we must live a little "stingy", in order to live a little longer.
After all, only by spending every day as the most precious day can life not be easily disappointed.
【1】
Be stingy with your body and learn to love and care.
I once read a saying: "Having health is not having everything, losing health will lose everything." ”
Yes, a healthy body is the premise of everyone's existence, without the body, no amount of fame, fortune, win or lose is meaningless.
Some time ago, a 27-year-old young man in Tianjin, "net red" Tang acne was exploded because of acute severe pancreatitis unfortunately died.
In fact, all this has long been a sign, in the video taken before Tang Acne, he said that he had a fever and felt very uncomfortable.
But the family did not take it seriously, tang pimple himself also thought that he could carry it, after all, he was still so young, who could have imagined that he would die?
Such a young life can dissipate in an instant, not to mention that when we reach middle age, our physical functions are already on the decline.
After the age of 35, what I am most afraid of is the annual physical examination, I dare not go to the physical examination, but I dare not look at the physical examination report sheet that is getting thicker and thicker every year.
Breast hyperplasia, thyroid nodules, blood sugar, blood lipids exceed the standard, I don't know why many indicators are not normal?
Now I no longer dare to stay up late to brush my mobile phone, and I dare not eat barbecue in the middle of the night, turn off the lights at 10 o'clock every night to go to bed, and get up at 7 o'clock in the morning to run.
Eat three meals a day and keep a good mood at all times, because I know that the more I am stingy with my body, the better I can protect it.
Someone once suggested: "Sound your body and maintain a reasonable and regular life is the material basis for self-cultivation." ”
In order to slow down the rate of aging, we must put the body first, in order to prolong life and get more time of our own.
【2】
Be stingy about time, and know how to cherish it.
We always think that the longer we live, we will have more time to squander at will, but in fact, wasting time is tantamount to chronic suicide.
As the British novelist Maugham said: "Because time is fleeting and irretrievable, it is said to be the most precious treasure in the world, and the abuse of time is undoubtedly the most meaningless way for people to spend." ”
Mo Yan, the first Chinese writer to win the Nobel Prize in Literature, was born in 1955 and is now a 67-year-old man, but he has never stopped working.
In the 2021 annual summary video, Mo Yan proudly said: "Exceeding the task." ”
After more than half a hundred years, Mo Yan's creative concept gradually matured, and his creative ideas became more open, especially the publication of the novel "Frog", which made his works more widely known.
In the process of conceiving a work from conception to completion, Mo Yan never wastes a little time, but always arranges the time of the day to the fullest.
If Mo Yan hadn't been so stingy with time, maybe we wouldn't have read more of his works!
There was an inspirational motto on the wall of Harvard University: "Time will not wait for you, only those who cherish time can take the initiative everywhere." ”
After walking through this half of life, we understand even more that life is only 30,000 days, and not cherishing time is to live up to this precious life.
To do what you should do, but also to pursue the life you want, do not wait until time is running out and then regret it.
After all, we can't control the length of life, but we can cherish each day's own time and make life more meaningful.
【3】
Be stingy about money, and know how to save.
The American writer Mark Twain said, "If you know how to use, money is a good slave; if you don't know how to use, it becomes your master." ”
Maintaining material bases such as food and clothing is inseparable from money, and we are busy just to earn money and live a better life.
Hold your palms tighter, don't waste the hard-earned money, this should be the consciousness that middle-aged people should have.
However, my great-aunt's eldest cousin, a 45-year-old man, was cheated out of 200,000 yuan because he collaborated with others to do engineering projects before the New Year, and he was still fantasizing that others would return it to him.
When the eldest cousin wanted to invest this money, the family advised him that this year's money is not easy to earn, we must be stingy, even if we really want to vote, you can first invest less.
The eldest cousin resolutely refused to listen, believing that if he invested more, he would return more in the future, and he stubbornly invested 200,000 yuan.
However, after the New Year, the eldest cousin could not contact the contractor, and the family rebuked him, and he also said with vigor and words: "Maybe people have been busy lately!" ”
When the eldest cousin's son started high school, and the eldest cousin asked him to borrow money, he regretted saying, "Oh, I knew I didn't throw all the money out!" ”
The English dramatist Shakespeare said: "Money is a good soldier, and with it you can make people a hundred times more courageous." ”
In today's social situation, it is difficult to move without money, but it has become more difficult to make money, and we who have lived for half a lifetime should all know this truth.
Every penny we work hard to earn, we must save and use, and have enough money in our hands to not panic or worry about the rest of our lives.
【4】
Stinginess towards love is long-lasting.
Hong Kong actress Tong Ling said: "In everyone's life, there is a place that must be visited, a person who must be seen, and a feeling that must be faced squarely. ”
People are emotional animals, and we always want to find a happy love when we are young, and accompany each other until we are old.
However, after people reach middle age, whether everyone can withstand the test of the outside world mainly depends on whether we are stingy with love.
Zhou Bingkun, the protagonist of the hit drama "The World of Man", after reaching middle age, his life was a little better, but he was looked at by Sun Xiaoning, the sister of a good brother.
But Zhou Bingkun did not become complacent, but directly rejected Sun Xiaoning and did not give the other party a chance to take advantage of it.
Zhou Bingkun said, "If your sister-in-law doesn't want me, I don't even have a place to cry." ”
A sentence shows that the position of his wife Zheng Juan in his heart is unshakable, and it also expresses his loyalty to the feelings of the husband and wife, and what is revealed in the words is the expectation of long-term marriage.
We are all no longer stunned, knowing that if we want to maintain a love and run a family well, we must be careful.
The Russian poetess Akhmatova wrote: "You breathe the sun, I breathe the moon, but we grow in the same love." ”
Holding the hand of the son and the son growing old is the most firm commitment to each other, and it is also the incomparable romance of holding hands together to grow old.
Love is sacred, not only the feelings we get after walking through the storms of half of life, but also the emotions of our lives.
【5】
The modern painter, writer and poet Mu Xin said in his Literary Memoirs: "Human happiness does not depend on reason, computers, or matter, but comes from emotion, intuition, instinct, and happy action." ”
Throughout our lives, we all aspire to have a happy and happy life, which is human instinct.
Then from this moment on, love the body and cherish the time, be stingy, that is the basis for our happiness.
Then, we also have to save money and maintain feelings, and being stingy is the meaning of our happiness.
May this be the case, until the end of the journey of life, that we can be happy to old age at will and at will.