There are about 10 million potentially abused children in China, and as many as 74.8 percent of children have experienced different forms of abuse before the age of 16.
Every year on April 30th, is the "International Day of Not Playing Children", Sugar Mom wanted to find a chance and nag with Little Candy, but the little guy woke up early in the morning and smiled and said to me: "Mom can't beat the child today."
Don't misunderstand, sugar mother usually does not have the habit of hitting children, throw away all kinds of reasons and do not talk about it, it is really reluctant to start.
The International Day of The Non-Playing of Children is a day that many people do not know
At the end of April, everyone is most looking forward to the May Day holiday, which can be launched since 1998, the "International Day of No Children", and there are still many people who do not know the existence of this day.
The main purpose of the festival is to promote the education of children against corporal punishment through various activities, with the participation of hundreds of countries.
If from the time of this festival, parents can pay attention to the way of educating their children, and the post-90s and post-00s can already enjoy the changes brought to them by this festival. But the truth is that many people do not attach importance to this festival.
Sugar mom circle of friends, there are many post-90s and post-00s complaining, early let me know this day, I have a reason to stop my parents from doing it.
The slogan of the International Day of No Children is "Please try it, at least don't hit the child today, you may find that you don't need to hit the child in the future".
However, parents understand the reason, but it seems to be difficult to do, and this festival has caused many parents to complain.
When the day of not hitting children came, parents said that they could only endure for one day
Sugar Mom chatted with parents in the group about this matter, and many people said: "Understand, don't fight today and then fight tomorrow, when can there be an "International Day of Parents".
It seems to be an angry word, but it also reflects the helplessness of parents when educating their children today.
The survey "Investigation and Research Report on Cases of Domestic Violence by Minors" found that in the cases of children being beaten, step-parents or adoptive parents committed violence accounted for about 10.04%, while biological parents committed violence as high as 74.75%.
The class teacher of Little Candy once said a word to everyone half-jokingly at a parent-teacher meeting, and everyone should remember a truth when educating their children - gentlemen do not move their hands.
Many parents couldn't help but laugh when they heard it, saying they could only endure for a day unless they tied their hands.
For many years, this method of stick education has always existed. I thought that the violence that children endured might come from schools and society, but I didn't want many children to be beaten in their homes often.
There are even many parents who believe that filial piety under the stick is the most reasonable way to educate their children. Hitting a child for the sake of the child? This sentence is not right to hear.
Why the flesh that falls from the parents themselves will bear to beat it, there are only the following reasons.
Why do parents love to do things when they manage their children? The reason is not necessarily pure education
Adults have an absolute advantage in body shape and strength in the matter of hands-on. Not only naughty children in life will be beaten, well-behaved children sometimes can not escape the slap of their parents, and the reasons why parents do it are not simple.
Parents want to "shock" their children with violence
Many times it is not when the child does something wrong that the child is beaten, but when the parent says that the child is not enough, he uses the hands-on way to shut the child up.
When parents want their children to have authority in front of them, they think that reasoning with their children is inefficient, and their children are afraid to be honest. In fact, the child who is opened is only unconvinced, and it is likely that there will be more and more muddy situations.
Angering a child is the most incompetent manifestation
One of the most infuriating reasons is that the child has not done anything wrong at all, but still has to be beaten. It is said that the adult world is very helpless, and many parents will vent their helplessness, grievances and anger on their children.
Because you are in a bad mood, amplify your child's mistakes, pick a bone in the egg, and beat the child for disciplinary reasons, in fact, you are angry with the child. Especially for parents with bad habits such as alcoholism, their children often suffer.
You can't control your child with your mouth, and parents are too anxious
Of course, there are still some parents who really want to discipline their children well, but they find that it is useless to move their mouths and realize reasoning, and they lose patience or cannot manage, and they will do something to their children.
Another part of the parents, found that their children were infected with more serious bad diseases, such as contact with dangerous goods and stealing forbidden fruits, etc., were very anxious and angry for a while.
Parents want their children to be well, but in the final analysis, whether it is on the International Day of Not Hitting Children, hitting children is not the right way to educate, and parents try to make changes.
After the International Day of No Children has passed, don't do anything to children easily
Stick education may really have a deterrent effect on children under the age of 6, but invisibly children are affected by violence, and the negative effect is greater than the positive effect.
Because the child has no ability to resist, he will temporarily obey and obey. But when the child grows up slowly, the height and strength become larger, and the help education will no longer have an effect on him.
Parents often beat their children, which will make children think that violence is the way to solve problems and learn to treat others in a violent way.
Children who have been beaten often have the behavior of dropping things, hitting children of the same age, and even hitting their parents, and they are beaten very well when they are young, but they have various problems in adolescence.
It is normal for children to be naughty and disobedient, and if you want to solve your child's problems, parents must learn to think differently. Children cannot be asked exactly by the standards of adults.
Not hitting the child is not to make the parent swallow, but to encounter things, care about the emotions - ask the reason - find out the problem - solve the trouble.
Candy Mother's Heart:
The International Day of No Hits is launched to protect children, and after this day, not hitting children is still a lesson for parents to learn. Getting angry and blaming the child directly when encountering small things will only make the parent-child relationship rigid.
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