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Aging is a necessary stage for everyone, but it is still a worry for many people.
Not afraid of getting old, but afraid of life after aging.
People get old and many things become powerless.
Some people say that when you are old, don't care about other people, just live well.
Being alone may seem reasonable, but it's actually a little overly optimistic.
In real life, many people are old and have a bad quality of life, not because they don't know how to be alone, but when they are young, they don't run their own families well.
Just as the so-called no rules are not squares, everything must have rules, otherwise you will lose your measure and embark on a crooked road.
But in real life, some people disagree, believing that there is no need to make rules between family members.
As everyone knows, families without rules often have endless troubles.
Know that a lot of etiquette, upbringing, and morality are not innate and need to be guided by parents.
Establishing rules is not to limit personality development, but to establish a good family style and cultivate correct values.
In a family, if the family style is good, it must be friendly and warm, in such a family atmosphere, the old can also enjoy the old age, otherwise people are old, it is inevitable to worry about various trivial matters in the family, and even family members will turn against each other because of this, such an old age life, it is inevitable to be miserable.
Therefore, no matter how good the relationship between family members, they must make good rules.
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First: Respect for parents, unity and fraternity for brothers and sisters
In a family, if there is no respect for parents, there will be no gratitude, and most of them will be selfish.
If children take their parents' efforts for granted, there will be situations where they arbitrarily make various demands on their parents, they cannot think differently, and they do not understand the truth that if they want to get what they want, they must first pay.
In a family, in addition to the relationship between relatives, it is also a parental relationship, a brother and sister relationship.
Although parents have the obligation and responsibility to raise their children, children should not use this to make excessive demands on their parents.
Parents love their children, will not bear to punish their children, will try to meet the requirements of their children, all out of love for their children, but will inadvertently stimulate the selfishness of their children, subconsciously put parents in the position of pleasing and pandering to themselves, lack of minimum respect for parents, often dislike, and even scold parents.
Brothers and sisters also have difficulty in loving each other, and will use each other, accuse each other and shirk responsibility for each other in order to get more love.
Growing up in such a family style, they often become selfish, mercenary, do not know how to respect their parents, and brothers and sisters will also turn against each other for the sake of profit.
If you want to count on your children when you are old, most of them cannot be counted on, in real life, such children not only cannot be counted on, but also live a life of eating the old with peace of mind.
Parents need to love their children, but they don't need to coddle.
While loving children, it is reasonable to establish the rules of respecting parents and uniting brothers and sisters, so that when children grow up, they will become a responsible, grateful and loving person, and will not worry about their children when they are old.
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Second: No matter how poor or rich you are, you cannot betray your faith
The influence of parents on their children is subtle, and all parents should regulate their own behavior and set a good example for their children.
But in real life, many people ignore the impact of their actions on their children.
A more obvious example is the betrayal of marriage.
Some people say that the marriage of parents has nothing to do with their children, and parents have the right to decide their own marriage, which is true, but it is equivalent to saying that betraying marriage is right, you can not love, you can also choose divorce, but betrayal is a matter of character and three views.
People with families, strictly demanding themselves, do not touch the bottom line of marriage, not only as a husband's responsibility and obligation, but also as a parent's responsibility and obligation.
If parents do not agree, even if the children do not follow suit, they will form distorted values and views on marriage, which will have a major negative impact on the marriage of their children and even their later lives.
If the children are not even managing their own lives, how should they take care of their parents?
To establish a view and values of marriage that no matter whether they are poor or rich, they cannot betray their faith, not to interfere in their children's marriage, but to teach their children by word and deed, which can not only regulate their own words and deeds, but also have a positive impact on their children.
Family members, their marriages are happy, the family will be full of warmth, people are old, they can also feel full of happiness.
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Third: No matter how poor you are, you cannot do anything against the law
As a parent, the expectations of their children are inseparable from getting ahead and getting better and better.
But wishes belong to wishes, not all wishes can get what they want, many times it is the best effort, still nothing.
In educating children, we must not rush to achieve quick success, let alone abandon our principles and bottom lines for the sake of interests.
But in real life, many parents will ignore this.
In the face of their children's failures, when they fail to meet their expectations, they are not encouraged, but full of accusations and denials.
Some parents think that they are motivated by doing this to motivate their children, but they do not know that such a family style will make their children form wrong values, thinking that only success can be recognized, and only then can they have their own sense of value, and when such ideas reach the extreme, they will touch the bottom line and do things that violate the law.
People are not afraid of poverty, they are afraid of people who are poor and short-minded, and what really destroys a person and destroys a family is not poor, but in order to get rid of poverty without means, disregarding the law, the result is not only failed to get rid of poverty, but even ruins the reputation of a family, and when they are old, they have to bear the consequences of their children's mistakes.
Liu Bo's son once made him proud, not only took the money to go home to build a villa, but also bought a luxury car, old Liu felt that he raised his eyebrows and breathed a lot, and also felt that his life was worth it, but he did not expect that all this was like a dream, and soon, his son also paid a corresponding price because he touched the law.
When people are old, they want their families to be safe and happy, and everything else is good with fate.
It is right to be a parent and motivate children to be self-motivated, but it is also necessary to establish the rules of being poor and not touching the law, which is a principle and a bottom line, otherwise, it is inevitable to be desolate when you are old.
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It is a good thing that families get along well, but no matter how good the relationship is, there is also a fragile side, in the face of the weakness of human nature, once the vigilance and requirements are relaxed, they will be led away by desire for profit, thus ignoring family affection, and only selfishness and greed in their eyes.
Therefore, no matter how good the relationship between family members, they must also establish rules.
In the face of rules, there will be clear actions and inadvertences, and it will not easily take a crooked road, ruin your life, and ruin a home.
Some people think that when they are old, the juniors have to listen to themselves.
If you don't set rules when you are young, when you are old, you will have delusions that your children can listen to you.
You know, when people get old, their words and deeds and ability to deal with things will decline, and their children's autonomy will become more and more intense, and if they do not even have the most basic respect and gratitude for their parents, how can they listen to their parents' advice?
At this time, when people are old, they can only watch their children live in a mess.
Therefore, don't wait until you are old to understand that the establishment of three rules between your family is a guarantee of worry-free in your old age.