The child is about ten years old, and he has to procrastinate in everything, get up, eat, go to school, and do homework for half a day, saying that he can't listen to it
I understand very much that parents are worried about the anxious mood, during the epidemic period, every day at home online classes, the child's every move is in the eyes, see the anxiety, Cui does not listen, it is really bad
There is a saying that parents may not be so receptive to listening, procrastination is urged out, and behind the rubbing child, it is likely that there is a nagging and preaching parent standing
Recall:
The interaction mode with the child is not more demanding on the child's control, if the parents are not in the learning, life, the parents are not big and small, for the child to decide, let the child do it. If the child does not listen, is it possible to criticize education, blame the child, say a bunch of big truths.
In this mode of education, what is the child's heart? What are your inner thoughts?
Not listening to it means that the child's heart is very disgusted, disgusted with the feeling of being controlled and commanded, why should I do things according to your ideas, why should I listen to you? The child can't resist, so he uses procrastination, grinding and rubbing to resist, with his own actions to explain, you say it is useless, I want to follow my rhythm, I want to obey my own.
On the other hand, the more parents urge, the more they slowly develop the problem of "parents shouting deafness". Because the child knows that the parent will not shout once, so there is no need to worry. Wait until the parents are in a hurry, it is not too late to act, anyway, the parents will worry about it and will tell me what to do. After a long time, the driving force of children to do things will be exhausted, and they will also develop the habit of laziness, procrastination, and laziness, anyway, there are parents staring, parents are worried, I just do it.
Don't let the child drag and grind
First of all, we must let go of the control of the child, people will only be very cooperative when they are respected, and on the contrary, they will instinctively resist or escape. Teenage children have entered a period of adolescent rebellion and are more resistant and sensitive to command and control. Now is the time to adjust and change the patterns of interaction with your child. When the child is older, when the desire for freedom and autonomy is stronger, if the parents still control or command the way, the parent-child relationship will be more tense and the child will be more difficult to discipline.
Secondly, more with heuristic questions, "What are you going to do now when you start online classes on time at eight o'clock?" "You have to submit your assignment before 6 o'clock, how do you plan?" Guide the child to think, return the child's responsibility to the child, and the child may take responsibility for himself. Command and tell children to put their left ear in and out of their right ears, and heuristic questions to cultivate responsible, self-disciplined children.
Secondly, more with heuristic questions, "What are you going to do now when you start online classes on time at eight o'clock?" "You have to submit your assignment before 6 o'clock, how do you plan?" Guide the child to think, return the child's responsibility to the child, and the child may take responsibility for himself. Command and tell children to put their left ear in and out of their right ears, and heuristic questions to cultivate responsible, self-disciplined children.
Secondly, more with heuristic questions, "What are you going to do now when you start online classes on time at eight o'clock?" "You have to submit your assignment before 6 o'clock, how do you plan?" Guide the child to think, return the child's responsibility to the child, and the child may be responsible for himself. Commands and instructions will make the child's left ear in and out of the right ear, and heuristic questions will cultivate responsible, self-disciplined children.
Finally, we should pay more attention to the advantages of children and pay attention to what is achieved. Even a little progress in the child told him, "I see that you got up two minutes earlier than yesterday, there is progress", "I saw that I did my homework at noon today, I don't need to be reminded by my mother", let the child feel his progress and ability, he will be more willing to do better! Do things and praise children more.