No matter which film, if it can win the Oscar, it usually has something outstanding.
The famous "Shawshank Redemption" was very popular that year, but it did not get a piece of the Oscars.
The film "Mr. and Mrs. Kramer" that I want to share with you today won 5 Oscar awards that year. To this day, when I revisit it, I will be in tears.
Moreover, as soon as the film was released that year, the divorce rate in the United States was greatly reduced.
The story takes place in the United States in 1979.
The male protagonist, Mr. Kramer, works creative design in an advertising agency, and he is very capable, and in order to make his wife and children live better, he works overtime every day.
One day, he won a big customer for the company, and the president of the company was overjoyed and announced that Mr. Kramer would be the next creative director.
As soon as Mr. Kramer got off the job, he rushed home excitedly, trying to tell his wife the good news.
Unexpectedly, the wife was not in the mood to feel her husband's pleasure at all, and told him straight away: "I want to leave this home." ”
At first, the husband did not take it seriously, thinking that his wife was having a small temper, but looking at his wife's serious face and seriously handing over the keys and passbooks of the family, the husband had to apologize to his wife: "I'm sorry, I'm late again, but I'm busy earning money outside to support the family." ”
The wife was not moved, turned and grabbed the door and went out.
The gentleman realized that his wife was in a bad mood and rushed out to stop her and begged her not to leave.
However, the wife was determined to leave, and at the moment when the elevator door was about to close, the wife left a sentence with tears: "I don't love you anymore." ”
After his wife left, the gentleman couldn't believe that all this was true, and he didn't understand what was wrong with him.
The gentleman went back to the bedroom and saw that his wife's clothes had not moved at all, so he was sure that his wife would not go far.
The gentleman called his wife's girlfriend, but the wife was not there. The angry gentleman asked the girlfriend whether his wife's run away from home was instigated by the girlfriend.
The girlfriend felt that the incident was sudden, and soon came to the home of the Kramers.
As soon as the gentleman saw his wife's girlfriend, he poured all his anger on her: "All day long you like to say bad things about your husband behind your back, saying that I don't accompany my family, can you make money and support your family?" ”
Her girlfriend replied firmly, saying that she had never encouraged her friends to do anything, but she knew that her friends were unhappy every day.
Mr. and Mrs. Kramer have a 7-year-old son, and as soon as his wife leaves home, the first thing the husband has to face is to take care of his son himself.
The next morning, the troublesome watch did not call the gentleman up. Finally, the son stood by the bed and woke up his father.
The son kept asking, "Where has Mom gone?" ”
The husband had to explain to his son: "Mom and Dad have a little conflict, Mom wants to stay alone for a while, and before long, she will come back." ”
After settling his son, the gentleman began to make breakfast, but the seemingly simple breakfast made a mess: the egg shell fell into the egg liquid, the milk spilled everywhere, and the bread was baked...
In the end, the father and son had to go out on an empty stomach.
The husband hurriedly sent his son to the kindergarten, and when he arrived, he found that his son had already graduated, but he was late for work.
The husband had to entrust his son to the parents of his son's classmates he met on the road.
When the gentleman arrived at the company, the first thing he did was to call home, hoping that his wife had returned, otherwise he would be in big trouble.
The president of the company learned of Mr. Kramer's family situation and advised him that it was best to keep the child in a relative's house, after all, the customer was too important.
Mr. Kramer had to assure the president that he would not go wrong.
But that same night, the gentleman encountered something angry.
He sat on the couch and worked overtime, his son playing alone, making noise and spilling drinks on dad's important drawings.
The angry and corrupt father could only sulk alone, how he hoped that his wife would come back quickly.
Gradually, the son vaguely felt that he would never see his mother again.
Loss and sadness often spread over his son's little face, and Kramer accepted reality, but he didn't have time to be sad.
He had a lot of work to do and children to take care of. He put away all the pictures of his wife in the house.
Since then, the husband's schedule has all changed, he has to go to the children early in the morning, and he can't work overtime after work, rushing to pick up the children.
Parties and small talk in the company, he never had time to participate.
Despite this, the son is very dissatisfied with his father's frequent late arrivals, and what makes the son even more dissatisfied is that the meals made by his father are too coping.
The gentleman doesn't know how to cook, so he just leads his son to eat fast food and bento boxes from the supermarket every day.
One day, when my son couldn't eat and wanted to eat ice cream, he was rejected by his father.
However, this quarrel became the trigger for the outbreak of conflict between father and son.
The son kept testing his father's bottom line, and when his father warned him to put down the ice cream, the son stared at the father with his eyes and put the ice cream spoon into his mouth.
The father decided not to accommodate his son anymore and picked him up and locked him up in his own room.
The son cried bitterly for his mother.
It turned out that this day was the son's birthday, but the father was negligent.
When the father remembered, he went into his son's room and helped him tuck the quilt. In fact, the son was not asleep, he turned over and asked his father:
"Was it because I was too naughty to listen to my mother that she left?" Will you not want me anymore? ”
The gentleman soon realized that this was a sign of his son's insecurity after his wife left. The son deliberately provoked himself, but also to attract attention.
He explained to his son: Mom left not because of you, but me.
After this day, the relationship between father and son improved significantly. The son is willing to cooperate with the father, and the father also puts more energy into the son.
One day, Mr. Li had a major flaw in his work, and he missed the labeling of key links in the program for important customers.
The president was furious, and just then his son called Mr. Kramer again: "Can I watch a little more TV?" ”
The president looked at Mr. Kramer in disappointment.
Unconsciously, the wife has been away for 8 months. Mr. Kramer has gone through a chicken and dog jumping life, and his relationship with his son has gradually become harmonious.
Take time out of his life to watch his son's stage plays at school;
From time to time, he will accompany his son to play in the park;
He also personally taught his son to ride a bicycle, which is not only a memorable moment in his son's growth, but also an unforgettable moment for mr. as a father.
Another day, the husband took his son to play in the park, and happened to meet his wife's girlfriend.
The girlfriend saw Mr. Kramer's change, and the two of them froze off their previous suspicions and sat on a bench to chat.
Just as the adults were chatting, the son suddenly fell off the ladder, the child fell to the head and bled, and the father was in a hurry.
He picked up his son and ran breathlessly to the nearest hospital.
The doctor examined his son and said he needed more than a dozen stitches. The father hugged his son tightly, constantly encouraging, watching his son's painful expression and almost hoarse crying, and every stitch the doctor made was like a needle in the father's heart.
Just as the father's and son's lives were getting better, his wife called.
She asked her husband to meet.
The gentleman rushed to the agreed restaurant, and the conversation between the two people took place in the joy of being politely reunited with a long farewell. The husband and his wife chatted about the bits and pieces of their time with their son, and also mentioned the recent fall of their son.
The wife explained to the husband that she had not quit at the beginning:
"I used to be just a wife and mother, and I've been married to you for 8 years and I've never lived for myself.
Then I went to a psychiatrist and started a new life again, and now I feel better than ever.
And the only one who reassured him was his son. ”
Hearing this, the gentleman understood that the original wife was not reunited with himself, but to fight for the custody of his son.
The gentleman was very angry, and he accused his wife of saying that he would leave a year ago, regardless of the family or the children. Finally, he asked his wife, "Why are you sure your son is willing to live with you?" ”
In the end, the two ended up meeting with displeasure.
The gentleman soon went to see the lawyer, who thought that it would be easy to fight for custody of the child, after all, the child's mother had "abandoned" the family first.
But the lawyer told him that any case involving custody is not simple, especially if the child is so young, the average judge will tend to award the child to the mother.
After returning home, the husband weighed the pros and cons of a single father according to the lawyer. He found that if he took his son, he would have to spend money, he didn't have personal space, and most importantly, his work was affected.
But even so, the husband did not hesitate to choose to fight for custody. There was only one reason: he really loved his son.
Just as the husband was trying his best to fight for custody of his son, he was fired by the company.
On Christmas Day, everyone is celebrating the holidays, and Mr. Kramer is still interviewing for a new job. Because, if he loses his job, it is impossible to win custody of his son.
Finally, in order to find a new job before the trial, Kramer took the initiative to cut his salary and find a position.
The job was guaranteed, and the day of the Kramer couples' court court was coming.
Under the guidance of the lawyer, the wife made a tearful statement:
She was also previously highly educated and previously worked for a well-known publishing house. But she wasn't happy with her husband, she lost her job because of her marriage and she also lost herself. However, her husband has long been indifferent to her, and she can only choose to leave home and leave the man.
Now, she has undergone psychotherapy, has come out of the mud, and she has also found a job with an annual salary of 30,000 yuan, which is much higher than her husband's current income. Therefore, she is fully capable of taking care of the child, and the child needs the mother even more.
The lawyer hired by the husband was aggressive and questioned his wife in court: Your husband is extremely loyal to you, but in the end he still exchanges your "betrayal".
When the wife was poked by the lawyer, her eyes looked at the husband, and at this time, the husband shook his head and told the wife: You are not so bad.
Later, the wife's girlfriend was also invited to the court as a witness. The girlfriend had witnessed her wife's previous unpleasantness, and at the same time saw the gentleman's changes after his wife's departure. So, in court, she hoped that her friend would give her husband another chance.
Finally, it was Mr. Mister's turn to make a statement. He admits to his previous neglect of the family, and he also believes that his wife's love for the children is real, but he says that the most important thing at present is how to solve it is the best for the children.
He said:
"Even though I wasn't yet a perfect father and sometimes I wasn't patient enough to forget that he was just a kid, we were always together.
Eating together, going to school together, I read to him and tell stories.
We talked almost everything, and my son and I both loved each other deeply.
Since the son already has a home full of love and companionship, why tear it apart? ”
The wife sat in the courtroom, listening to the husband's statement, and felt that the husband and the previous sentence were two people.
At this moment, the wife's defense lawyer seized on the injury of the child while playing with the child, accusing him of not being a competent father.
Mr. Kramer did not expect that what he had inadvertently talked about with his wife not long ago was now regarded as fatal evidence.
Soon, the verdict came out and the son was awarded to his mother.
When that day came, Kramer was very sad. He knows to accept reality, as he said in court: "What you do is what is best for your child." ”
The lawyer gave advice: appeal, as long as the son appears in court, let the son prove how inseparable he is from the father, then there is still a chance of victory.
But Mr. refused. He didn't want his son to tear his face between his parents in court.
All that's left is communication between father and son.
He tried to explain to his son that he was separated from him, and was glad that he could live with his mother.
In order to ease the atmosphere, the husband also specially stressed to his son: Dad is very lucky to be able to have dinner with you once a week, and he can spend weekends with you twice a month.
Although the gentleman tried to beautify the harsh facts as much as possible, the son who seemed to understand it understood that he was about to be separated from his father.
Dad will never kiss himself before going to bed again, and the child can't cry when he thinks of this.
The gentleman kept comforting his son: Mom really loves you.
Finally, the son begged his father to call himself as soon as he had time.
On the day when the mother picked up her son, Mr. Made an early breakfast for his son early in the morning, and also packed up his son's clothes and toys.
Father and son sat on the couch, waiting for the moment of separation.
The doorbell rings and the father asks his son if he is ready? The son nodded.
The gentleman opened the door, but his wife called him downstairs, and she said to the gentleman, "Actually, I have arranged my son's new room, which is exactly the same as the current room, and suddenly I realized that he already has this home." So I didn't take him with me, but I loved him very much. ”
The gentleman hugged his wife and comforted her.
Before leaving, the wife wanted to go upstairs to see the children. The gentleman stayed downstairs, hoping to give his wife and children some time alone.
With the elevator doors closing, the whole movie ends.
This film is undoubtedly a bright pearl in the history of cinema, the film revolves around the issue of child custody after the failure of marriage, but it is more about how the husband and wife in the marriage should get along.
Many people use the grave to describe marriage, but after entering a marriage, the relationship between two people will undergo various tests, and the most common is the coordination of work and family.
Emotionally for the audience, there may be more sympathy for Mr. Kramer, who believes that he has never betrayed his family and has always worked hard.
But what about the origin of these "sufferings"? If there is no wife's maintenance for 8 years of marriage, how can the husband go all out to fight for his career?
Therefore, there is no such thing as "who is more important" and "who has value" in marriage.
Without either party, the other will not be able to get along.
Back in reality, especially in China, the dual-career family model may be more common.
This requires more people to take care of the family and care for the children.
Entering a marriage requires caution, and divorce requires caution.