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It is rare to see single mothers with a daughter and single mothers with a son.
Is it that having a daughter affects family happiness and increases the divorce rate?
Of course not, we rarely see single mothers living with their sons for two main reasons:
1. The man does not give in when divorcing
Couples divorce, girls follow their mothers, boys follow their fathers, the general in-laws will not let the daughter-in-law take the grandson away.
It is not that the divorce rate is low after the birth of a son, but in this case, the custody of the child usually falls into the hands of the man.
Therefore, in our daily life, it is relatively rare to see single mothers living with a son.
2, if there is a son mother reluctant to have a child, will continue to endure
When a relationship survives to the end, only when there is a quarrel, both parties will consider divorce.
In one case, the mother can't bear to divorce, because it is really reluctant to the son, if it is a daughter, the mother's chance of obtaining custody will be greater, but the weak mother, the chance of obtaining the custody of the son will be smaller.
Under the trade-off, it is better not to divorce.
There are such examples around, the husband and wife have been separated, not even living in the same city, but there has been no divorce, because the custody of the child has not been negotiated, the two sides do not give in, considering that they may not get the custody of the son, even if they get the custody, it is difficult for a person to remarry with a son, and there is no benefit to the child and himself, so the two sides have been silent.
Single mother with son, why is it so difficult to remarry
In fact, single mothers with daughters will also affect the mother's remarriage, but the degree of impact will be much better.
But single mothers with sons are basically difficult to find good people.
Several real-world questions lie ahead:
First, the problem of the caravan when the child gets married
People often say that as soon as a boy is born, parents feel great pressure in addition to happiness, living in small cities with lower housing prices or slightly better rural conditions, in large cities with house prices of more than 30,000, a son represents 5 million, otherwise it is difficult for sons to marry their daughters-in-law.
The problem of the son marrying the son is a big problem, because the son follows the foreign surname, even if the surname is changed halfway, the man's family will be taboo, it is for others to raise a son.
Even patriarchal families are afraid of this.
Second, the issue of dowry and cost of the child's marriage
The house and the car are on the one hand, the boy gets married, the parents have to provide the bride price, the cost of the wedding, which is a big expense.
Men and the family behind them, preparing the bride price for their sons and the cost of marriage, although stressful, but tired and happy, but few people are willing to provide this fee to other people's sons.
Different from the adopted son, if the remarried family, the wife brings a daughter, it is completely different, the girl gets married, the man's family can also receive a bride price, and the girl gets married, the parents have no hard requirements, the dowry can be followed, anyway, there is no pressure.
Why the "hard" one is always the woman
After a man divorces, whether he has a son or a daughter, as long as the conditions are in place, the remarried woman will not mind whether she has children or the gender of the children.
But after a woman divorces, whether she has children or not, and the gender of the children, will become the conditions for the woman to be selected again.
In fact, in the end, it is still related to the family's economic income, men are the main source of economic income of the family, men will be in the active position, if the woman's economic income is relatively high, naturally it will not become a problem.
Li Xiang divorced with daughters, not worried about marriage, Dong Jie divorced with daughters do not worry about marrying, because they are not bad money, as long as they are willing, at any time can find the right person to marry and re-establish a family.
Either communicate harmoniously to keep a home, or make yourself strong
What kind of woman can be at ease?
Women who are strong enough on their own, and there is a kind of woman who has a good husband.
Both kinds of women can live freely and maintain an elegance, the difference is that one is on their own, and the other is because of their own efforts to get the favor of their husbands.
Maintaining the stability of a family and keeping a family environment in a harmonious state is not an easy task in itself, and requires the wisdom of a woman.
Two people to form a family, want the family harmony, continue, the key is to both sides are in one direction, each other can be understood, tolerant, can sit down to communicate well, family members also need brains, not the product of emotions.
If a woman is completely disappointed in her marriage, for the sake of her children, she can't make choices under impulse, want to make choices, make herself strong first, when many things are not done, never believe that she can, and when we do, we will become more and more confident.
When we are strong enough, we will have more initiative, in the current marriage, in the custody of the children, in the future marriage.