Olympic champion Gu Ailing mom: single mother, do not complain, to the child to set a good example

When I used to work in a law firm, the most common cases I came into contact with were divorce cases, because the divorce cases we represented at that time had the highest winning rate.

Once, a young woman came in with a little boy who was about 5 or 6 years old. Her main appeal was that her ex-husband had not delayed paying child support and asked if there was any way.

In the process of our communication, the child is a little naughty, and the mother always yells "Don't make trouble, in this way, I am like your father, I don't want you anymore!" "

The child returned to God, honestly for a while, and after a while began to be naughty again. Mom finally burst out "Like your dad, no ears!" "。 In the end, both mother and son were in a very bad mood.

It can be seen that after the divorce, this mother's heart is full of anger and resentment, and she also sprinkles this resentment on the child.

Single mothers are bitter and tired, but a positive attitude will take life in a better direction.

On the one hand, most single mothers do not accept the pursuit of the opposite sex because of their distress for their children; on the other hand, they throw the resentment of life at the younger children.

What is the mother of the same single product, the mother of Olympic champion Gu Ailing?

As we all know, in the 2022 Winter Olympics, Gu Ailing is undoubtedly the most eye-catching one, and she won two gold and one silver at the age of 18 when she participated in the Winter Olympics for the first time.

Her impressive achievements are inseparable from her mother's education. Gu Ailing's mother, Gu Yan, graduated from the world famous Stanford, she is independent and has not given up her career; she also gives Gu Ailing better love.

Although Gu Ailing lives in a single-parent family, her mother still cultivates her optimistic personality, and at the same time does not put pressure on her, but supports her hobby from childhood to adulthood - skiing.

It is with such a confident, independent, open-minded, and non-complaining mother who has become today's Olympic star.

As a single mother, you don't always have to stay on your child,Properly keep it to yourself, let yourself get back on your feet, complain less, and set a good example for your child. Children will naturally feel the power of positivity.

Before I saw a parenting program "Super Parenting", about family parenting to help parents, how to better communicate with children.

There is an episode where the single mother indulges the child infinitely, so that the child can not be controlled at all, always has no fear, and is in a rage.

What I see is a single mother in the midst of guilt for her child, wanting to endlessly compensate for the lack of paternal love. The mother is always in a deep self-blame for not giving the child a complete family.

I think at this time, the mother needs psychological comfort the most, because only when the mother gets rid of the psychology of guilt and compensation, faces the current facts, and corrects the mentality, can she give the child positive guidance.

In fact, the single-parent family is also a variety of family models, in the face of it, maintain a good attitude, do not blame yourself too much.

The marriage that ended before shows that the mutual is not suitable, find your own suitable marriage, and the person's life is happy.

I am Rain Cultivator, share my story with you.