The worldly eye always has a bias against divorced women. If a woman is divorced, for whatever reason, someone will judge her by worldly standards and insult her with some unnecessary insult. Even in this era of soaring divorce rates, divorced women are under far more pressure than divorced men. Especially some women with children, most of them will have inseparable feelings for children, after all, they are pregnant in October, flesh and blood, and they will definitely leave with their children when they divorce.
The vast majority of men will choose to divorce childless women, and they can reluctantly accept divorced women with daughters, while for divorced women with boys, they cannot accept it. Many men have worldly prejudices, thinking that they can't help others raise sons, is that what all men think?
Mr. Li, aged 32, male, unmarried
Although I am a short, poor and older leftover man in the eyes of many women, I am also a woman who cannot accept remarriage with her son.
Generally, women with sons are more spoiled for their children, not to mention that after marriage, they will cause contradictions because of the discipline of their children, and they also need to spend money to raise this son together, and they also have to earn money to help him get married and buy a house. The problem is that this son is not my blood and bones, and I am not willing to pay for it.
If it is a daughter, it is okay, when it is time to get married, give some dowry, do not have to worry about the house or anything. And the daughters are more well-behaved and sensible, and most of the daughters still remember their mother's family after marriage.
And if we still have a son in the future, then it will be more difficult to get, a bowl of water is always difficult to level, if she is eccentric, everything to her and her ex-husband's children, then our children are not very bad. A man would not be willing, and the son would have to be his own.
Mr. Lin, 43 years old, divorced
My own son just went to college this year, and it was hard to relax, if I want to marry a divorced woman with a son, then I will definitely not do it.
Now how much energy and money to raise a child, not to mention that it is still a boy who is half old, not to mention the child's personality, how to get along, in terms of education costs, it is also a big expense. Although it is now nine years of compulsory education, the cost of high school and university is not low. I had a hard time breaking my own children up and helping others raise them, and this kind of chore was still left to others.
My son is now in college, he will get married later, there are still many places to spend money, and his mother does not care about him, it all falls on me. So, even if I don't marry again in my life, I wouldn't consider marrying a divorced woman with children, let alone a boy.
Mr. Wang, 34 years old, remarried
If I like this woman very much, even if she has a daughter, I may not care, but if it is a son, I think I will not accept it.
When I met my current wife, she was also newly divorced, her ex-husband was too personal, grumpy, drunk and gambling, unlucky to drink too much, and often beat her. At first, I also looked at her very pitiful and comforted her, after all, it was not her fault that the marriage was unhappy.
She and her ex-husband have a 5-year-old son, which she wanted to take away at the beginning, but the ex-husband's family is three generations of single transmission, and she refuses to give her the child, and she has no way. But if she had taken a son, I don't think we would have been together, after all, the child has begun to remember, and it will be involved with the ex-husband's family.
After a woman's divorce, life is not easy, and with a child, life will be more difficult. Not to mention a son? All men will not want to help others raise sons, after all, it is not their own flesh and bones, and they do not kiss at all.
Mr. Liu, 30 years old, is married
I'm never married, and I'm definitely going to have kids of my own, and I never wanted to help someone raise kids.
This year, just married to her wife, she is a good woman, has a son, left to the man. If the child had been with her at that time, I would certainly not have married her.
My mother died early, and when my father remarried, my stepmother also brought a son. My father was honest and kind, and he was better to the stepson than to my own son, and everything was good to him. Later, he graduated from college and had a successful career, only to take his mother to enjoy the blessing. After his mother died, he did not go back to see my father once, and when my father died of illness, he said that he wanted to see him, and he actually said that he was busy and did not have time to come back. After my father left, he came back falsely and said that he would share the cost of his father's death, and I directly said that I did not need to, I was not filial piety before I died, and it made sense to do these things after death?
Therefore, in this life, I will not raise other people's children, especially my son, which is really too chilling.
Mr. Qin, 45 years old, remarried
My ex-wife and I had daughters, and if it was a son, I wouldn't let her take her, it's too hard for a divorced woman to remarry with a boy, and it's easier for girls.
I've been remarried for almost a decade, and my sons are 8 years old. I'm still living happily. Before remarrying, my wife and I said that for the two children before, she and her ex-husband, me and my ex-wife, we all treat each other equally, the living expenses that should be borne are the same on both sides, and everyone is balanced in their hearts.
Our main energy is on our common son, who is, after all, the bond of our family now. Sometimes on weekends or holidays, we would take the two children in front of us and take the three children out to play together, and the three children got along well.
If she had a son with her ex-husband, I don't think we would have had our family today. Speaking from the heart, no one is willing to give everything, under pressure to raise other people's children, but also a son, when he grows up, he will go back to recognize his biological father, he will not read you half a bit, this kind of thing I have seen a lot.
Mr. Xu, aged 35, divorced
I am divorced without children, it is naturally best to find an unmarried woman, if I can't find it, divorced women are also OK, but I can't have children, I have no intention of being a stepfather.
My friend married a divorced woman with a boy, and the whole family had objected to it before, but my friend decided that he loved the woman and wanted to marry her. Less than a year after marriage, he left again, the reason is that the boy is particularly dependent on his mother, and he is a small ghost, afraid that his uncle will rob his mother of his love for himself, always creating a lot of trouble, provoking the relationship between the two adults. He also often mentioned his father in front of my friends, saying that one day, he and his mother would return to their father. In the end, the friend couldn't stand it, and strongly asked his wife to send the child to her ex-husband to live, but the wife refused, and the two people left.
Friends are married for the first time, tossing a time is nothing, I can divorce once married, can not withstand the toss, remarried, must be the right conditions.
The man's words are very heartfelt, but very realistic. Divorced women with children, if they want to remarry, it is indeed too difficult. "Life is not easy, and do and cherish", may women in the world meet good people! May all the children of the world be able to grow up happily!