Text | Rice grain mother
In the past few days, a 30-year-old single mother has been "hot" on the hot search, and some people show off the lower limit, which also makes the rice mother marvel.
Her originally peaceful and warm little home was ruined by her husband, who was in debt to gambling.
After divorcing her husband, who could not support the wall, she lived alone with her son, and she was also burdened with a common debt of up to 200,000 yuan.
The bitterness and anxiety accumulated in her heart had nowhere to vent, so she quietly updated her "pleasure in suffering" every day on social platforms.
Like all mothers, even if the conditions are so poor that the mother and son only have 600 yuan a month for food, she still wants to provide the best life for her children.
A special price of 6.8 yuan pork hearts and 3 yuan lean meat, with 2.1 yuan of hollow vegetables and 1.4 yuan of potatoes, is a vegetarian dinner.
The 1 yuan oil wheat vegetable plus the fish brought back from my grandmother's house is hearty and nutritious.
Occasionally take the son out to "rub a meal", and the mother and son eat a bowl of 13 yuan lamb powder together.
Of course, there are times when you can't bear it.
Because work became full-day, she was anxious that she couldn't cook for her children.
Obviously putting in a lot of energy, but the days are still passing more and more difficult moments, she resists the feeling of powerlessness to encourage herself, "I will definitely survive!" ”。
Flipping down her homepage one by one, Mother Miri's eyes were moist. The resilience and optimism in her make people feel both distressed and admired.
There are many people who have moved her and left heart-warming footprints.
Use your own experience of breaking through the cocoon and rebirth to cheer up single mothers:
There are self-deprecating jokes encouraged:
There are also those who reach out and want to send some souvenirs to their children:
But unfortunately, human nature has never divided the two poles of good and evil, and some people empathize and encourage, and some people fall into the well.
The further you go, the more you can see the harsh sound that comes out of the middle of the originally warm comment area.
Those cold and caustic statements expose the ugliest side of human nature.
Excess "superiority"
What do those eye-catching comments say?
Some people asked "why not eat minced meat": "I have to pay 3,000 a month for food alone, so I save my children and are malnourished." ”
The blogger replied helplessly and bitterly: "Because there is no money." ”
Some people point their fingers at their own heights:
"People in their thirties, why is cooking so unsold?"
"Bragging, how can anyone still live such a life?"
There are even people who pose for show-off regardless of the occasion, and send two in a row: today's meal, yesterday's meal;
Rice grain mother really does not understand, what is the difference between the act of showing superiority under the post of other people's difficult lives and pouring salt on other people's wounds?
The scary thing is that this phenomenon is not an isolated case.
I've seen some embarrassing comments underneath many posts that confide in pain.
A new mother felt helpless and depressed because of unsightly abdominal stretch marks and obvious scars from the caesarean section.
As a result, someone in the comment area posted that he did not hold the small man's waist after the cesarean section.
Some people shared photos of themselves in the gym, saying unimpressedly: "There is no stomach after confinement, there is no difference from before death, don't be anxious if you are not born." ”
(Mother Migrain rolled her eyes: I don't know who is expanding fertility anxiety.) ）
I also saw a little girl in her early 20s, because she looked a little old, she said self-deprecatingly in the video: "The other post-zeros are really young, I am an exception, don't be like me~"
As a result, some people in the comment area thought that they were humorously shaking their wits and stepping on the sore spots of others:
"You didn't say 22, I thought it was 42."
"Haha, thought you were a post-eighty."
"But you don't look good."
There are also people who post beautiful photos of themselves: I am also zero-one, and I look so childish.
A netizen commented pertinently and accurately on this phenomenon:
"Talking about your pride when others are frustrated is too much to do.
This is a kind of delicate stupidity, pretending to be naïve malice. ”
Rice Mother couldn't agree more.
Will these people who show off themselves regardless of the occasion not know that these words will block others? Do you know that this gap makes people more frustrated?
They knew it well, but they still sent it out without care.
There is a concept in sociology called Social Darwinism, which gives the name to the evil of these people's ignorance.
They base their happiness on the suffering of others, and are complacent about the inexplicable superiority of "one person higher and so on".
As everyone knows, people who trample on the self-esteem of others so much will one day be maliciously eaten back.
Vicious, unaware
Seen such news before.
A disabled netizen voiced for help on the Internet because he took a less convenient elevator.
He said with an embarrassed wry smile in the video: "Oh, this is too difficult. I hope that the elevator in public places can be more humane in the future. ”
As a result, a group of people who stood and talked without back pain gathered in the comment area.
Some people "speak in a long way" and preach: "Society is for the public, the public is normal, and you have no right to demand that everything be blind."
Someone sarcastically said: "You want a city to serve you? ”
Some people stand on the moral high ground and speak rationally and objectively:
"If the elevator is added with voice prompts, will it make noise to others?"
"It's just survival of the fittest."
Some people even viciously asked:
"You're blind, what are you out for?"
"People with disabilities still don't go out and cause trouble for society."
Rice grain mother in these people, do not see a little empathy.
If the netizens who posted were unfortunate and physically handicapped, then these indifferent keyboard warriors are naked lack of moral sense and are truly despicable "weaklings" in human nature.
Even if you haven't been in the rain, trying to tear someone else's umbrella is not low emotional intelligence, it's really vicious.
Moderator Meng Fei said: "All superiority does not come from appearance, figure, knowledge, family, wealth, status, achievement and power, it only comes from lack of insight and compassion."
But how many people in this world can have a smooth life?
Rice grain mother has seen a special "schedule".
At 21:42, the aunt in the bathroom was just about to leave work;
21:54, ride-hailing is waiting for customers;
At 22:03, the sanitation truck was still cleaning up the day's garbage in front of the garbage can;
At 22:49, the delivery boy is still delivering supper to people who work overnight;
At 23:23, the doorman of the community was still opening the door for people on the night shift;
At 00:14, people who were unconscious at dinner were sent home by friends;
At 02:26, the porter began to move the goods to the car;
At 03:40, the lights are on in the breakfast shop and the owner is busy preparing breakfast;
At 04:55, the sanitation workers had swept half of the deserted street;
At 06:23, the neighbor's aunt got up to prepare breakfast for her children who went to school...
See?
Every ordinary us is living hard and persistently.
In the corners we can't see, how many people have done their best just to survive the dawn.
So, those who trample on the sore spots of others, where is your sense of superiority?
The noble are compassionate
Zhuge Liang once said, don't be a pariah with your wealth.
I think so.
Truly cultured people never lack empathy.
Cai Kangyong once talked about an experience when he was a child on the show.
That day, his mother took him to play at the house of a rich friend. At mealtime, the host treats them with the treasured mountain and sea delicacies at home.
That was the first time Cai Kangyong had eaten shark fin, and he was amazed and wondered: "It's delicious!" What is this thing? ”
The owner smiled gently and said, "This is a fan." Then added another bowl to Cai Kangyong: "If you like to eat, eat more." ”
After growing up, Cai Kangyong participated in countless dinners, and every time rare ingredients were served, the people who invited the banquet always sold themselves on the sidelines, for fear that others would "not recognize the goods".
For example: "This is Kobe beef, you have to do massage and listen to music when raising cattle, it is very expensive, thousands of pieces!" ”
In contrast, Cai Kangyong later realized the gentleness and patience of the owner at the dinner table when he was a child.
As the saying goes, "I have learned a lot of things, and I have special mercy on the grass and trees."
Truly knowledgeable people do not elevate themselves by "bullying" the weak, on the contrary, they can understand the difficulties of others more deeply, and they will be considerate and kind to everyone.
The matter of upbringing has nothing to do with status, only about people's hearts.
I remember watching a news that was inconspicuous at first glance, but it was particularly heartwarming.
On a rainy day, a delivery man rushing to deliver orders was scraped to the ground by a car on the road.
The pedestrians on the street are hurried, and passers-by hurry forward at most cast a glance.
At this time, a boy carrying a bag passed by, and he walked straight to the delivery man who fell to the ground, holding his umbrella to protect him from the rain.
The rain did not stop, and the boy kept holding his umbrella, bent over and half squatted on the side of the road, and accompanied the delivery man silently until the ambulance came to pick him up.
In the interview afterwards, the teenager said a little abruptly: "It's not easy to come out to deliver takeaway on rainy days." ”
In this teenager, Mother Mi saw gentle empathy and just the right amount of compassion.
Snuggling up to warm up in this big world, that empathy may be the only reason we are close.
Of course, as the so-called "human joys and sorrows are not connected", we cannot ask everyone to empathize with the suffering of others.
If you can't reach out when passing by someone else's darkest moment, you can at least choose to remain silent.
Finally, Mother Migrain wants to say that if a society really needs "Darwinism" of survival of the fittest, then the most important people who should be eliminated are definitely those selfish, numb, and unreasonable "people with excess superiority".
And those who are sincere, kind, and empathetic will be left behind for a long time, and live a warm and just world with everyone.
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