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Since giving birth to a child, I have understood the phrase "for the child". Before marriage, the mother is a swallow, want to fly where you want to fly, after marriage the mother is a pigeon, can fly but fly not far, after having a child, the mother is a duck, the wings have become a decoration. The only thing the child is tied to is the mother, and the only thing the mother will not compromise is the child.
When the mother queen has a deep feeling for these. Many women in life become mothers, but they repeatedly compromise and tolerate for their children. But many mothers give everything for their children, but in the end, the children may hate the most. Many mothers dare not face up to the cruel truth: compromise for their children in marriage, and finally attract hatred.
Many mothers reluctantly maintain their marriages in order to give their children a complete home
Many people say that if it were not for the children, the two classes of divorce run by the Civil Affairs Bureau would not have been busy. It can be seen that children are the most effective weapon for maintaining marriage.
Many women know that they are not human, they are not happy in marriage, and if they do not have children, they have already thrown off their sleeves and left easily. But with children, they can only compromise again and again for the sake of their children's growth and swallow all the grievances in marriage.
But many children grow up and can't understand the mother's compromise and sacrifice in marriage, and will only say, this is your choice, why didn't you let go of some in the first place and choose divorce.
For many women, choosing divorce is easier, but they are more worried about children. If you fight for child custody, if the man does not have a new family at the beginning, he may still be concerned about the child, give child support and visits. But once a new family is formed, the child will soon be forgotten.
But in reality, many mothers don't get custody of their children at all when they divorce. Some men are still bad fathers during marriage, not to mention that after divorce, most of the children are thrown to the elderly in the family. If there is a new family and a new child, then the father may become the stepfather of the original child, and the living situation can be imagined. So once they have children, many mothers will not go to the step of divorce until they have to.
Because many mothers regurgitate their bad emotions to their children
Some mothers, because they have been wronged in marriage, are accustomed to compromise for the sake of their children, and they have accumulated a lot of dissatisfaction and grievances about marriage and their other half. Therefore, put all your hopes on the child, when the child is slightly dissatisfied with his own heart, such a mother is easy to erupt, and the negative emotions accumulated in the heart are regurgitated into the child.
Some mothers have children with them when they get divorced, and life is more difficult. I feel that I have sacrificed too much for my children, and my mother's love is great, so that my children can accept this greatness. So in the process of growing up, keep instilling in the child, the mother sacrificed too much for you, the mother is because of your life to live like this, if you did not take you to wait for my current life do not know how dashing and so on. Even some mothers will lose their temper with their children when their lives are not satisfactory.
The child has been under the negative oppression of the mother for a long time, and the relationship with the mother is not much better, let alone understand the mother, and it is not bad not to hate the mother.
If the parents are not happy in marriage, the mother will be super unhappy, the child will not be happy, and the emotionally unstable mother will have to face. So women must think about this clearly before entering marriage and becoming a mother.
[Topic Discussion: Do you think it is worth it for mothers to compromise for their children? 】
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