Big Bull Busy Marriage Emotional Case Series
Keywords: second marriage, divorce, remarriage
Article length: 4500 words
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I love you, not because you're good to me, but because we're husband and wife, and I respect the marriage.
Just because I don't love you doesn't mean I don't think you deserve me. Just because I still have worries in my heart, I don't deserve you, you are a good person, I can't hurt your heart anymore.
I don't want to hide it forever, I still love my ex-husband and can't rest assured of him and the children. You and I shouldn't have been together in the first place, the fate was insufficient, divorce was the only option...
The above is from a marriage case, and its linguistic logic is helpless. Women want a divorce, men are reluctant to do so. In the face of her husband's retention, she said the above "bitterness".
This marriage case illustrates the realistic logic of the collision of a "classic marriage" and "contemporary love".
When I love you, I really love you. When I don't love you, I really don't love you. I don't want to explain more, but also please be decent, don't force yourself, don't force me to turn my face...
Sometimes marriage is like a series of cold sentences. Many couples come to the end to find that all the love added together can not explain the string of ellipses at the end.
One wants to divorce, one wants to keep, no matter what the outcome, after all, there is one person who is the saddest.
Husband and wife accompanied each other, which should have been the most precious time in life. But talking about love is all bitterness, and talking about marriage is strange and shallow.
Some people, knowing that there is no friendship between husband and wife, are reluctant to let go. And in the end, when I had to let go, I still loved each other, obviously full of sorrow, but I still had to say something precious...
First, the fate of single men and divorced women
In the following, I will tell you about this marriage case, some marriages can only be explained by fate. Speaking in the tone of this man's voice, I will only tell the truth, and make a little arrangement to improve readability.
I was married for the first time, my wife was second married, and she was 4 years older than me. Married for about 2 years and have a 3-year-old girl.
Not surprisingly, we had children first and then got married. This is the fate of the underworld, let us come together. Thinking about this relationship, sometimes I feel particularly emotional in my heart.
At that time, she had men to worry about, and I also had women to chase. If it weren't for this child, we wouldn't have been husband and wife in the first place...
Please don't get me wrong, I didn't destroy her marriage and family. Long before we met, she had been divorced from her ex for months and was single.
It was an early morning 5 years ago when we met on the side of the road. I walked so fast that I knocked her phone off with a flick of my hand.
Seeing the cracks on the screen, I was overwhelmed. She said that there was no big problem, but the tempered film was broken, and she turned around and left.
I can't owe someone else, otherwise I will feel that I have made a mistake and always have a heart. The slightly heartache in her eyes as she turned around reminded me that it must have been a broken screen. Even if she didn't care, I couldn't just walk away like this.
I caught up with her and apologized to her and offered to compensate her.
She said that after several years of use, it should be replaced without compensation. She repeatedly refused, but I still insisted on compensating her losses according to the new machine, and the 799 was the beginning of our fate.
Do I think I have too much money to spend?
Of course not, I am also a part-time worker, and the family conditions are very ordinary. After 5 years of graduating from college, I haven't bought a house, and I don't want to compensate. If you pretend not to see it, you will have nothing to do if you walk away.
But seeing her dressed plainly and her easy-going personality, some of the emotions in my heart were touched by her. There is a feeling that there are not many good women like her who are frugal...
She's not pretty, but she's very temperamental. No matter whose wife or girlfriend she is, I sincerely admire her and don't want her to suffer a little loss.
My wife and I met in this way and slowly developed into friends. Some moods are difficult to explain clearly, the initial appreciation slowly becomes love, which can only be explained by fate...
Second, it turns out that love is a difficult choice
Before I met my wife, I actually had a woman in my heart. We lived together for half a year, and I treated her like a girlfriend, but she was so far away that she never seriously talked about love.
In the process of dividing and merging, I experienced the pain of loving someone. Even though I truly loved her, she was still very perfunctory.
She said she had a new boyfriend and made me forget about her. I had no choice but to break up with her like this. Although we still had contact later, and occasionally we could have a meeting, it was limited to skin kissing, and we could never talk about love again.
What kind of relationship is this?
In the eyes of my ex-girlfriend, I was just a spare tire for her. I understand my situation, but I can't change this helplessness. Not only was I filled with pain, but I was also mentally stressed.
It wasn't until my wife showed up that I was slowly freed from the pain of lost love. We chatted on our phones, and the more we talked, the more familiar we became, and we developed from friends to lovers...
Speaking of my love for my wife and me, it was really not easy at the beginning, and I faced many tests and setbacks. Initially I didn't intend to pursue her, after all, I didn't know her emotional situation, and she never talked about her past.
But as I got to know her better, I unconsciously fell in love with her.
I guess she was emotionally hurt and often took the opportunity to chat with her to confess. She always politely refused, saying that we were only suitable for being friends, not suitable for lovers...
She had a completely different attitude from her ex-girlfriend, and even if she rejected me, she would say it very euphemistically. The more she did this, the more I wanted to understand her past, even as a spare tire, I wanted to protect her.
I confessed again and again, and she refused again and again, always unwilling to meet. I was sad, but I didn't know that she was sadder than me.
We met again that day in a coincidence, the first time we had met since we had met. I invited her to dinner, and she didn't refuse.
When she told me in person that she was not only 4 years older than me, but also divorced and had children, I understood her embarrassment. She felt inferior for her emotional experience, and she thought she didn't deserve me...
That night, she sent a message: Thank you for inviting me to dinner today, I treated you as a friend, and told you everything. We should respect each other and stop saying things like "I love you." Although the ex-husband is an ungrateful man, I still have some feelings for him and hope you can understand.
We talked until 3 o'clock that night, and for the first time we talked unreservedly.
She admits that she does like me, but fate is not arranged that way. She had only one wish, to remarry her ex-husband when he repented.
I finally understood that sometimes love is a tough choice. We already have feelings, but we can't make a choice bravely...
Third, love is actually a selfish heart
We had to get along as friends, caring for each other but keeping our distance. It's not so much a friend as a confidant. When it comes to relationships, we see each other as talkative people.
There are too many common languages, and after only 3 months of acquaintance, we have developed to the point of not saying anything. If you don't chat every night, you will feel that life is boring.
That day she said: "My ex-husband came to me again and apologized to me." He begged me to go home, and I almost agreed to him. Thinking about the things he did, I was still in pain and had to reject him again. You say, will I regret it in the future?
My heart was very sour, and I regarded her as a friend on the surface, but in fact, my love for her became deeper and deeper, almost as the only pillar of my faith in love. Because I love her and don't want her to think about other people, even ex-husbands.
I told her: Men who have cheated are not to be trusted, and you should not be naïve. He hurt you once, and there will be a next. I want you to be happy, and even if you want to remarry him, you must calm down and make a decision.
Since then, whenever her ex-husband asked her to remarry, she complained to me. If I hadn't "persuaded her", she would have remarried a long time ago.
Love is something that is inherently selfish, and maybe my presence interferes with her choice. I admit that I was wrong, but my love for her is bright and unashamed!
The feeling of silently loving someone is more painful than the loss of love, and after more than 5 months of acquaintance, I can't hold on any longer. I confessed to her again, I don't want to just be friends, I love you, can you forget your ex-husband?
She said: "I always knew you were good to me, but I couldn't accept you. The divorce was just to punish him for gambling, not really wanting to leave him forever. You don't have to say it again, I'm sad, and apologize to you.
Again I was rejected, and supposedly I should have given up. To love her is to respect her, not to force her.
Who would have thought that a few days later she would offer me dinner and establish our relationship.
That day she said with tears in her eyes: Your words are right, I saw my ex-husband with the woman again, he did not repent at all, they said and laughed and went to the park. I was so stupid that I almost forgave him...
Marriage is a dilemma
Because of her words, there was finally a glimmer of light in my heart.
I told her: Yes, I said earlier that your ex-husband didn't deserve your forgiveness. Don't be sad, you'll meet someone who really loves you, and I'm the one.
She said: Thank you, I never thought that the divorce would really become forever. I wanted to start over, but I was divorced, had children, and was 4 and a half years older than you. I dare not accept you, for fear of delaying your future.
Although I was rejected again, I was in a much better mood.
The biggest regret of truly loving someone is not to be rejected, but to miss it because of silence. Even if it is really impossible, I will finish what I want to say the most.
I told her: The choice of adults is not dare or not, only willing or unwilling. A friend, to this step is also considered fate. I want you to be happy, and happiness doesn't have to choose me. If you meet someone worthy of love, I will still bless you. You can continue to speak from the heart, and I am willing to continue to be your listener...
Seeing me cry, she cried again: Have I been hurting your heart? I really didn't mean it, I was just very inferior and scared. You are far more educated than me, you have a good job, I don't, you are unmarried, I am divorced, the gap is too big, can you really be together?
I understood her last meaning, and she feared that I would regret it in the future. I'm not that kind of person, but I understand what she thinks.
She cried on my shoulder, and there was no longer any separation between us, and we became lovers. After 6 months of acquaintance and 5 and a half months of waiting, I finally got with her.
As we fall in love, real tribulations begin to follow. My only fault was not to confess to her, but to move her when she was most sad.
For more than half a year, his ex-husband went to her regularly. Not only did he pestered her, but he also threatened me at times.
In those days, whenever I saw her crying, my heart was uneasy.
After all, she is still in love with her ex-husband, how can she really forget? I could see the hesitation in her eyes, and I knew that she had quietly gone to accompany her ex-husband.
I love her deeply and can tolerate what she does. As long as she doesn't explicitly force me to break up, I don't know anything.
4 years ago, she was pregnant with a child. At first she thought it was her ex-husband's and gently begged me to break up. I didn't want her to leave the baby, but she said it was providential and we couldn't be together...
I'm heartbroken and have loved one, maybe just a cutscene.
I respect her, love really can't be forced, if it is doomed to no chance, then forget it. The one who should admit his fate, the one who should let go.
But the birth of the child was mine, and she and her ex-husband were very sad. After all, it was my child, and I couldn't ignore it, and we came together again when we should have broken up.
Talking about the later marriage, it was a dilemma. Didn't still have illusions about her ex-husband, until the child was almost 1 year old, she married me in hesitation...
Fifth, some people have no fate after all
2 years ago, we finally got married. There was a time when I was very distressed, troubled by her distress.
Since fate makes us husband and wife, we can't always be distressed. A new life had begun, and I hoped she would forget the past, and she promised me.
After 2 years of marriage, our family of three is still relatively happy. Bought a house, bought a car, and the family talked and laughed. In my personal opinion, my conditions are not good, but at least much better than her ex-husband.
I thought that as the children grew up, the relationship between husband and wife would become stronger and stronger. But marriage can't rely on feelings after all...
2 months ago, I saw the conversation between my wife and ex-husband and suddenly understood that she had never forgotten the man.
The thing I was most afraid of happened, she was worried about the family over there, often hiding from me and my ex-husband. If I had pretended not to know, maybe it would have been another outcome. But I couldn't control my emotions and got into a big fight with her.
For more than a month after that, we spoke very little. Both were tired and confused about the future.
She said to me that day: I'm sorry for you, but I can't help myself. My ex-husband repented long ago and knelt down to me, thank you for loving me. I don't want to continue to hurt your heart and I don't want to hide it from you anymore. I can't forget him, please understand me, how about we divorce?
I suppressed my sadness and had a good talk with her. Of course I wanted to keep her, but she said, we shouldn't be together in the first place.
She said a lot of things, and I was most impressed by this sentence. When she knelt down to me, what else could I do, only to show understanding.
Love once, and it came to an end. We haven't divorced yet, but that day is coming.
The other day my wife came back to my ex-husband, and when she came back again, it was time for us to divorce. Maybe she has her own dreams and persistence, there are worries that can't be put down, and there is constant family affection.
After all, she could only choose one family, but unfortunately we didn't have a fate, she chose that side...
After experiencing so much, no one needs to say apology, let alone dare to say regret. I still love her and hope she is happy...
This marriage case ends here, a case at the beginning of the year, which ended with the divorce of the husband and wife the following month. The woman returned to her ex-husband and the man raised the child.
Regarding this case, I will not express my opinion, but will just tell the truth. The article itself is the point of view, and everyone who comes over has their own opinion.
In many marriages and families, there are times when love does not dare to say right or wrong, because it is wrong in the first place.
If you like a person, you should show your attitude, dare to think and dare to do, dare to do and dare to be. However, don't forget to do what you can.
There are many things in the relationship that make people helpless, and when they are not willing, they want to try. There was still a glimmer of illusion, and after trying it, even the illusion was shattered.
So, fall in love with a woman who has a heart, don't force it. Even if she accepts you in grief, it is not necessarily because she loves you.
There are some setbacks in love, and it is not necessarily a bad thing to appear earlier. What belongs to you can't run away, what doesn't belong to you can't get, don't be difficult for yourself.
Since you can't go the same way, it's best to forget. It is also an attitude to let the memories stop here and smile at the future. Behind the high mountain road, flowing water duckweed, even if you can still see each other, you must understand that each other will not be lucky after all.
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