Do you have a couple around you who are divorced and choose to remarry?
What will life be like after they remarry? Happier than before, or is it still full of chicken feathers?
In the case of my divorced friends, among the two options of "remarriage" and "remarriage", according to my observation, they are generally more inclined to "remarry".
Perhaps in their view, if they want to continue to have a marriage, then it is meaningless to choose divorce in the first place.
What does real life look like after remarriage? Take a look at the story of Mr. Chen, 46.
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Mr. Chen said: After remarriage, I felt sick every time I had contact with my wife.
Why is that?
Mr. Chen, a 46-year-old man living in Guangxi Province, is a middle-level manager of a company, and in the eyes of friends around him, Mr. Chen is also a figure with a head and a face.
Although Mr. Chen has a successful career, his family life can be described as a "mess";
According to Mr. Chen, he filed a divorce lawsuit with his wife 2 years ago, and after leaving his wife, Mr. Chen wanted to start a new life, but he did not expect that after 1 and a half years, he asked his ex-wife to remarry;
Today, Mr. Chen has no way to face his wife, he said that he feels disgusted when he sees his wife, but the family and children are inseparable from his wife;
Now he didn't know what to do.
In the conversation with me, Mr. Chen seemed to be very anxious, and when I asked them why they divorced, Mr. Chen was silent;
After a while, he breathed a long sigh of relief and told me the answer, "Because I cheated.".
Although I don't know the original situation, I am also shocked, my husband cheated and led to divorce, shouldn't I feel guilty?
Since they choose to remarry, there should still be feelings between them, right?
But as it turned out, my thinking was wrong.
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"Although I chose to cheat, it is not entirely my fault, after my wife gave birth, I slowly got tired of her", this is Mr. Chen's original words.
Mr. Chen and his wife are free love, and their marriage has been blessed by everyone around them.
But after the wife gave birth to the child, all this was messed up;
The wife changes greatly during pregnancy, originally the wife is a very dignified and reserved person, but after pregnancy, the stomach is often flatulent, and always constipated;
As a husband, Mr. Chen also takes care of his wife's food and drink every day when he comes home from work, and even helps her squeeze "Kaiselu";
Mr. Chen is a person with a habit of cleanliness, and he always minds every time he does these things, but he also feels that his wife is pregnant, and he should take more responsibility.
It was not until the time of the birth that Mr. Chen knew that a wife who was solemn and heavy in the front end could also have such a wretched side;
The wife is very painful, but Mr. Chen can no longer take care of the pain of his wife, because of constipation during pregnancy, so on the day of delivery, the wife defecated on the delivery bed;
His wife was sweating profusely in pain, but Mr. Chen felt embarrassed to see the nurses dealing with his wife's excrement over and over again.
Mr. Chen said this, although I feel that he is very unqualified as a husband, but as a normal person, it is understandable to have such a reaction in this situation.
Mr. Chen said: "In fact, what makes me most unbearable is that during my wife's confinement period, her pajamas have not been changed for a whole month, obviously she loved to be clean before, but now she only knows to complain about a chicken nest every day." ”
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Mr. Chen: The child is so small, and I still need her to do housework, so I remarried
Hearing that Mr. Chen counted his wife one by one, although what his wife experienced was indeed some very unsightly scenes, it was a special period of giving birth to a child;
Is it too much to complain about a woman who wanders on the "ghost door"?
I couldn't help but interrupt Mr. Chen and asked, "Since you hate her so much, why do you choose to remarry?" ”
Originally, I thought that Mr. Chen still had a little affection for his wife, but he said: Originally, I did not think about divorce, the child is so small, we must raise it together.
I was puzzled, and Mr. Chen continued: "After she gave birth to a child, her personality also changed, she was dirty, she had milk stains on her body, and she would only complain to me every day, so I cheated." ”
Mr. Chen believes that it is impossible for a lover to marry home, because that would ruin the beautiful side of this woman, but at the same time, as a man, he needs a woman to sacrifice herself to be a "housewife".
After the remarriage, Mr. Chen's rejection of his wife has never decreased, and even as soon as he saw her, he began to feel nauseous and feel physically uncomfortable;
So, the two of them have begun to sleep in separate rooms, they are still so young, when is it a head?
Is all this really fair to Mr. Chen's wife?
Perhaps Mr. Chen's wife also knows her husband's thoughts about herself, and the reason why she chose to remarry is probably so that her children can have a complete and beautiful childhood.
Sure enough, the matter of pregnancy and childbirth, only women are harmed;
Is there any hope for Mr. Chen's marriage?