One girl told me that her boyfriend wanted to work in a serious form and that his personal abilities were not very strong. He himself regrets that when he went to college, he chose the wrong major and has been in a very low mood lately. She comforted her boyfriend and said, I will always be with you. When he was irritable, she gave her boyfriend space, but in the end it didn't work. So how can you comfort your boyfriend?
First, girls empathize, and cannot use female thinking to comfort boys
Girls have a strong ability to empathize, when the boyfriend is unhappy and encounters setbacks, they want to comfort the boyfriend at the first time. Whether from the point of view of boys or girls, this behavior is very good. When you want to comfort the boy, your idea is already a great comfort. But for comfort to work, it's important to understand the male mind. Generally speaking, the biggest feature of women's thinking is that they have good emotional awareness. Therefore, when comforting a woman, it is most effective to help her channel her emotions. It is precisely because women have strong empathy ability that when girls comfort people's first feelings, they also use emotions to comfort each other. But comforting emotions is of no use to men. Sometimes even, the more comforting you are, the sadder he is. This is the typical result of using the female mind to comfort men.
Second, the best way to comfort men is to use male thinking to comfort boys
The biggest feature of male thinking is to have a result, that is, a solution to things. Therefore, using female thinking to comfort a man will only channel his emotions, not solve the problem. For the boyfriend's employment difficulties, let him know that the purpose of the boss to recruit an employee is to help the boss solve the problem, and the boss pays him a salary based on how many problems he has solved, not because of how highly educated he is.
For him to be annoyed by choosing the wrong major, let him know that when the boss recruits people, first look at the academic qualifications, in order to reduce the risk, and the higher the academic qualifications, the more majors are met. Therefore, when the boss recruited people, he initially still attached great importance to this academic qualification. And if he helps the boss solve the problem, and the boss is willing to hire him, then choosing the wrong major is not too big a problem.
In this way, he has self-confidence, determines the direction of finding a job, and then studies it carefully, what ability is needed to enter the position, and then spend a little time to cultivate this ability, as long as he has the ability to solve some problems, it is easy to be recruited. That's what men want.
I believe that if you use such a man's thinking to comfort him, it will definitely have a different effect!