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"Men are afraid of entering the wrong line, women are afraid of marrying the wrong man", the quality of marriage determines the fate of a woman. Good men will give women a good home, and women who marry the wrong men have only countless grievances and tribulations in marriage.
Love is not the same as marriage, many lovers are only suitable for love, but not suitable for accompanying each other until old age. Marriage is the result of two people's serious consideration after having enough running-in and tacit understanding. Therefore, women should carefully consider whether the man they love is worth marrying before marriage.
Especially, when you accidentally fall in love with a divorced man, that's a little more careful. Women have to remember that if you decide to marry a second-married man, please think carefully about these points.
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Whether to determine whether his character is good or bad
A failed marriage is certainly not a unilateral result, no matter in the marriage, who has more faults, when you can't live, choose to divorce, you also have to bear a certain responsibility.
So, when you fall in love with a divorced man, you have to make sure there is something wrong with his character. If he always says it's his ex-wife's fault and never reflects on his own problems, it means he's not a responsible man.
Many people say that divorced men know how to take care of women, but how many people really care? If a man is simply relying on "failed experience" to run a marriage, it means that he is not sincerely dealing with you.
A man of good character, he will treat marriage with his heart, rather than irresponsibly cheating on you and making you die for him.
Whether he can accept his past and present
If two people are just in a relationship, after breaking up, time will let each other let go of each other. But divorce is different, marriage is to unite two people into one, divorce is equivalent to cutting off a part of the body, this kind of pain will make it difficult for the right person to put down for life.
So, if you fall in love with a divorced man and accept his past, he may never be able to get rid of his ex-wife's harassment, can you accept that? If he still has a child, can you accept the reality and be a stepmother?
When you talk about marriage, no matter what, you must carefully consider the environment in which this man is located, which may be a knot that cannot be avoided in a lifetime.
Whether there is enough faith to run your marriage
The man who married for the second time has had a failed marriage, so for him, the marriage has more or less left a shadow on him. If you decide to marry him, consider the possibility that one day he will give up on marriage again.
This is not to say how bad he is, maybe he is not confident enough, maybe he is weak in his ability to resist pressure, in short, there has been a first failure, there is a possibility of a second giving up.
So, if you're going to marry him, consider whether you have enough faith to run your marriage. When he wants to escape, take the initiative to save him.
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The man who marries for the second time has his advantages and disadvantages, which are very obvious. Women have to understand whether you are aware of his shortcomings when you enjoy his good time.
It's always easy to fall in love, but it's always hard to get along. Before you decide to marry a second-married man, think carefully about the above points.
Of course, second marriage does not mean that there is no right to have love or marriage, but such a marriage should be treated carefully and cautiously, and women should understand.