Today's discussion on the topic of academic qualifications, recently talked to a customer about the topic of academic qualifications, probably the girl's mother, bent on letting this girl find an object with a relatively high education, for this she used all her abilities and connections, to find a blind date for the girl A high education, public service ape, stable salary and quite old age and other objects in the eyes of most parents for "Jackie Chan Express", but after meeting, the girl decisively rejected this object, for this mother was angry, asked the reason, the girl answered: bad character, As a result, the mother refuted: The other party graduated from a certain hua and became a public ape at a young age, how could he have a bad character! Don't pick and choose!
So there was a big quarrel and broke up unhappily.
The girl asked me, eggshell, in your experience, a high education and a high position must be a good character?
In fact, everyone knows the answer in their hearts, but even if they know that they involve themselves in many cases, they can't help but look up at people who meet the above three conditions. Later, this girl looked at her positive appearance, and the final object was a businessman, so I didn't mention it here!
This topic leads to another case, and what I want to share today, is the things about a little princess and a highly educated husband. That's another story
The little princess is a girl who looks ordinary in her student days, her family is on the upper side, but because she looks too ordinary, coupled with her parents are low-key, none of her classmates in her student years found that her family was rich, naturally, she also spent a peaceful youth that no one sought after (the plot here needs to clarify the background as a foreshadowing, not to say that no one likes it in general) and then came to the university ignorantly, suddenly opened her mind, her appearance counterattacked, and then coupled with the family's paving and good luck , Confused to start an online store, and because of the good personality and many customers, the online store business is booming.
So immediately began to fall in love, did not expect to meet an extremely good object on the first blind date, a boy with high education, a well-known 985 school science and engineering man, looks polite, modest, gentle and considerate and very knowledgeable. Moreover, the family has a medium and stable job, and there are two sets of houses, which simply meets the conditions of a good son-in-law recognized by all parents, so after meeting, the boy is also satisfied with her, and the two fall in love.
In the process of falling in love, she also observed all the details of the boys, such as whether the mood is stable (excluding the possibility of domestic violence), such as whether they treat their parents filial piety (see if they will be good to themselves in the future) and for example, whether they are willing to spend money on themselves, whether they are trying to make their own money (this she thought was almost impossible at the time, because the boys' own conditions were good, two local apartments) to see whether they preferred sons to women, anyway, it was the sisters in a red book to investigate the strategy of supporting the recruits one by one, She felt as if she had picked up a big bargain, and finally got married after a year of getting along.
After marriage, life is unremarkable, she also gradually trusts her husband, and also manages the online store with her, and also plans to open an online store for him (the level of the little princess's online store was about one million a year at that time), and her husband's performance was also very good, simple, stable, down-to-earth, and respectful of women
Then, the turning point came, when the marriage entered the fifth year, they had already conceived a child, accidentally found that the husband split his legs, and one day she caught a appearance, from this incident the whole incident entered a reversal, the boy first denied that he split his legs, and then began to cry and make a fuss, slandering the girl for being emotionally unstable, having depression, asking for the division of marital property (common real estate and online store), and three days after the splitting was found, while sweetly talking to the girl and messing with a third party. Trying to trick a girl into giving up the online store that she has made by herself.
Moreover, the attitude of the originally good in-laws also changed, and they began to rely on the old and sell the old to embarrass the girls where they worked, and then the girls gradually understood that the boy in the early stage was pretending to be good to her, because he had already inquired about the girl's small assets in the family, and he earned good work and gained the girl's trust step by step, wanting more money, he understood that the girl's psychology came from many previous love experiences, and the girl's love experience was zero (as mentioned earlier, because of the plain appearance of childhood, and not considered rich by others, so they have little experience in love) and are trapped like this
The development of the whole incident is comparable to a TV series, when the girl looked for me, the two were already preparing to face Bo Gong in court, she asked me to see the plate, just look at the development of this marriage, she said, she has never understood what is going on with this boy, obviously the front is very good, is he changed, or is his nature so, is he blind, or is the boy too sophisticated?
So I also showed them the marriage development and conjunction, and the conclusion was that boys are so natural, boys Neptune conjunction Jupiter, and fall in the marriage palace, is an extremely good at relying on partners, by falling in love to get rich, especially his own IQ and emotional quotient is also very high, and good at lies and deception, so he took this step by step, almost all of them were calculated and planned by himself.
The girl said to me with a wry smile, it's good to know you early, it's good to look at the astrolabe early, and I won't come to this day
But where did you know it earlier?
The end of this matter must be separated and cannot end, but even if they are separated, this girl's hard-earned money will have to be peeled off a layer of skin,
Eggshell said, I have always disagreed with the education and origin to judge a person's good or bad, people's educational IQ or have three, six or nine, but character can never be measured by education, many parents still have more old-school thinking, looking for a son-in-law is the same as letting people find a job, to be stable, to be a civil servant, to have a high education, this is for the child to marry the past without hardship, not to seek great wealth and evil to have a shelter from the wind and rain, just like parents always choose a major for girls, the general selection of teachers, accountants, state-owned enterprise administration, Although preschool education will not make a fortune, it will not go too far from the road. In fact, many people fold on top of this, or the knife handed by their parents.
In this world, whether marriage, work, life, there is no road that is completely stable, most people think that good things may not be really good, eating may be choked, staying at home may also collapse, and finally the object that can rely on is only themselves, choose what suits you, do not be influenced by others, if you have doubts, you can identify the astrolabe, do not rely on others, and eventually rely on yourself to overcome the thorns