"What do I do to you children... Say I'm a embezzler, I didn't embezzle a penny! Stink don't face you guys! ”
On August 1, 2015, Gao Yanmin rushed to the village square and scolded a group of villagers who were nagging and playing mahjong.
Q Who is Gao Yanmin?
She is a dark and rough-skinned village woman who looks unremarkable;
She is the "Top Ten NewsMakers Who Moved Hebei" in 2006;
She is the "Most Beautiful Rural Female Teacher" in 2013;
She is also the daughter-in-law that her husband bought for 2700 yuan.
Before that confrontation, Gao Yanmin in the eyes of the villagers was a cultural person in the village, a teacher of the child, and when they met, they had to shout "Teacher Gao".
After the confrontation, the villagers whispered in private: "She may really be driven crazy." ”
Gao Yanmin was driven crazy because the villagers gossiped about her, that she had poor teaching standards, that she had embezzled public funds, and that she had smeared the village.
Seeing this, there may still be people who do not know who Gao Yanmin is.
In fact, this "most beautiful rural female teacher" was once famous throughout the country. She is the prototype of the protagonist of the movie "The Woman Who Married the Mountain", the female teacher who chose to stay behind after being sold to a remote mountain village.
The plot of this movie is quite the main theme. When the 18-year-old girl Shanju was looking for a job, she was unfortunately abducted by human traffickers in the mountains, and fortunately, she met a kind uncle. After the uncle had drained the family and borrowed it all over the village, he bought the mountain chrysanthemum from the traffickers.
After that, Shanju was cared for by the uncle's family and helped her contact her family. Her mother and boyfriend came to pick her up together, but Shanju was impressed by the kindness and simplicity of the uncle and resolutely decided to stay in the mountain and become a substitute teacher.
The key words in this film are the "kindness" of the villagers and the "voluntariness" of the mountain chrysanthemum.
The villagers did not think about buying and selling people, and the son of the uncle did not infringe on the mountain chrysanthemum. The stay of the mountain chrysanthemum is actively chosen, and it is a noble act of pursuing a higher value of life.
In this movie, it is full of kindness and warmth from beginning to end; outside the movie, Gao Yanmin's real life is full of blood and tears.
01 was kidnapped and raped
In 1994, 18-year-old Gao Yanmin worked in a wool factory. Since she was a child who loved to read, because her family was poor, she took the initiative to drop out of school and enter the factory.
On the first day of the fifth month of the lunar calendar, when it was the season of harvesting wheat, Gao Yanmin decided to go home to help her parents. While queuing up at Shijiazhuang Railway Station to buy tickets, she met two "enthusiastic" women.
The woman said that there is a factory near Shijiazhuang that is recruiting workers, with a salary of more than a thousand per month, and suggested that she go to see it, and if she likes it, she will stay, and if she does not like it, she can also not do it.
This salary made Gao Yanmin's heart move. She followed the woman to the car almost defenselessly, and when she saw the woman helping her with her bag, she even said "thank you big sister" several times.
The car was halfway through, and the woman pulled Gao Yanmin out of the car. But there was no imaginary factory in front of her, but a silent forest, and Gao Yanmin felt that something was wrong.
But this vigilance came too late.
Three tall men suddenly burst out of the woods, and at the same time, the two enthusiastic women ran back with Gao Yanmin's bag.
Gao Yanmin asked, "Sister, what are you going to do?" Why did you leave me behind? ”
The woman said as she ran, "They want you, not us." ”
The three traffickers easily controlled Gao Yanmin, and while they were holding her neck with their hands, they pointed a knife at her and asked:
"Do you want to live, or do you want to die?"
If you want to live, you just obey and wait to be sold to someone else.
Gao Yanmin was confused. It was getting dark and she was being held hostage to a wooden house.
There was no light in the house, it was pitch black. A trafficker lit a candle, and the room instantly brightened. But Gao Yanmin was even more frightened, because she saw blood everywhere on the bed.
Bloodstained, it was all left by girls who had been spoiled by human traffickers.
Gao Yanmin knelt on the ground and cried and begged the traffickers to let her go. But her tears and her pleas were worthless in the eyes of the traffickers. She became one of countless girls who were raped.
It is said that because of her short stature, Gao Yanmin has not been sold for a long time. Later, she was resold twice, during which time she suffered countless abuses and violence.
The inhuman torture made Gao Yanmin fearful and desperate, and she felt that she would not be able to survive.
Until the first buyer, her later father-in-law, appeared.
For 2700 yuan (of which 50 yuan is still Gao Yanmin's own), the father-in-law took the money he had pieced together and took Gao Yanmin out of the small black house.
At that moment, Gao Yanmin was grateful. She saw him as a savior, not knowing that he was actually looking at her womb.
02 was beaten and used
Xia'an Village, a mountain village located at the foot of the Taihang Mountains. Isolation, poverty, and backwardness are its labels, and there is not even a road to the outside world in the village.
No girl wanted to marry here for decades. Later, "buying a daughter-in-law" became a tacit tradition of the villagers. There are more than 400 people in the village, and there are more than 30 daughters-in-law who have been bought.
Gao Yanmin remembered that the day she followed her father-in-law to Xia'an Village was the Dragon Boat Festival. It was raining heavily that day, and Gao Yanmin, who was overwhelmed, relied on her survival instinct to follow her father-in-law. At that moment, she didn't know whether to blame herself for being too simple or for the world being too sinister.
That night, she met her "husband", Liu Laosan. It was a sheep 6 years older than her, who had only been in the third grade of elementary school, did not like to talk, and was very silent.
Two strangers who had never met before hurriedly opened the "wedding night". Gao Yanmin originally refused, but the father-in-law said, "If you don't obey, you will be sent back to the traffickers", which made her have to submit.
Later, she ran once and was beaten up by her husband. She committed suicide three times, once by diving, once by sleeping pills, and once by rat poison. But the sky did not go according to people's wishes, and every time she was rescued.
The husband had a bad temper, so he drank some wine and started to work. Gao Yanmin, who lives in the haze of domestic violence, feels that she has been abandoned by the world.
Later, she had two children and went to work in the brick kiln, but giving birth and working hard to make money did not make her situation better.
Until the principal of the elementary school came to the door and asked her to teach. It turned out that Gao Yanmin, who graduated from junior high school, was the most educated person in the whole village.
Because of the low salary, Gao Yanmin rejected the principal's proposal. Later, the people of the village took the children who dropped out of school and begged her several times.
The soft-hearted Gao Yanmin agreed.
In the process of teaching the children, she learned that the mothers of several children in the class had been abducted and sold, and some of the children's mothers had run away.
If they don't go to school, these children are either wandering, playing wildly, or herding sheep.
The cycle of dropping out of school, being poor, buying a daughter-in-law, repeats itself from generation to generation in the village.
Gao Yanmin decided to end the tragedy. So she worked at this teaching point for seventeen years, during which time she was responsible for teaching all subjects in the first and second grades, and she also opened literacy classes in the village, teaching the children of the poorest families for free.
Listening to the children's "teacher, teacher" shouting, Gao Yanmin, who had been numb for a long time, "came alive". The children put their hopes in her, and she found her hope in the children, and a little bit of dignity that had been long awaited.
Gao Yanmin became the most respected person in the village, and later even her in-laws and husband called her "Teacher Gao". The only telephone in the village was also installed in her bedroom.
But this respect is too fragile.
03 Disliked, packaged
The change of events occurred after Gao Yanmin became famous.
In 2005, Gao Yanmin's story was discovered by a photographer and posted online. Her tortuous experience quickly attracted media attention.
In January 2007, Gao Yanmin was named "2006 Hebei Top Ten Moving Figures". In the same year, film "The Woman Who Married the Mountain" based on her began filming. In 2009, the film was released.
If you think that these attentions can bring a huge turning point to Gao Yanmin's life, I am afraid that you will be disappointed.
All this hilarity has nothing to do with Gao Yanmin. There is a head and a face at the award ceremony, and the people who live a decent, safe and prosperous life have nothing to do with her, and the kindness and warmth that the heroine encounters along the way in the movie have nothing to do with her.
She was still a weak woman with nowhere to hide, abducted, and she could only return to the poor ravine alone with the trophy. Her life was business as usual, the local government did not even have a greeting call, the donations received went to the county foundation, the school was still in tatters, and the children were still poor.
The only thing that can be called "improved" is that her husband does not dare to hit her easily.
The local villagers began to dislike her.
They said that she always publicized the backward and poor side of the village, ruined the reputation of the village, and the women were even more reluctant to marry into the village in the future.
They also said that she was corrupt and had received so many donations, why didn't the school and the village improve?
They exchanged heads and ears at the mouth of the village, saying bad things about her, and using the dirtiest words on her.
At that moment, they all forgot how they had worked together to put this woman to death in the village, raped and beaten, taken away her dignity, trampled on her personality, strangled her enthusiasm and hope, and how they had pleaded with this woman to teach her children to read.
Once, they used this woman to achieve the reproduction of the village; now, they hope to borrow this woman to change the old appearance of the village.
When the purpose is achieved, it is good to speak well, but if the purpose is not achieved, it will be evil to the other side.
In their eyes, Gao Yanmin was no different from a tool. They never treated her as a person and respected her.
"The traffickers used her to make money, her husband relied on her to pass on the generations, and the crew took her story", leaving her with only endless pressure and criticism.
As a result, Gao Yanmin was "crazy". She ran to the square and began a half-hour-long insult, sometimes sobbing, sometimes crying, and almost fainting several times.
It was the first time she had torn her face with the villagers, and the first time she had expressed her resentment against the village so fiercely.
Although she has received honor and attention, although she is already considered the "lucky one" among the abducted women, the sadness and helplessness of that fate have never disappeared.
The reason why I want to tell Gao Yanmin's story today is because in the "FengXian Eight-Child Woman" incident, from time to time, I can see someone speaking for the perpetrator, and even some people regard the woman's husband's family (in my heart, he is more suitable for the title of rapist) as a savior:
"How can a mentally ill person in a poor area be arranged to marry a 'good family'?"
"After being abducted, most people live a good life."
In their eyes, it seems that this inhuman and absurd encounter is the blessing of this woman.
In this regard, I just want to say that if Gao Yanmin's experience will make you can't help but feel heartache and fear, then you can also feel that the woman who has lost her teeth, crawled on the ground all day, and wears a rope around her neck has been living in what kind of human purgatory.
Don't give these women any aura, don't sing their forbearance and kindness, no matter what you say, they are naked victims, their lives are destroyed.
The latest findings on the Fengxian woman have been released, and as the mystery of her life is revealed little by little, we are also getting closer to the bloody tragedies of life.
In addition to her mental condition, she has given birth to several children, and what we should pay more attention to is that she is in a desperate situation where she is imprisoned and raped and has nowhere to turn to.
If we allow this desperate situation to exist, if we believe that certain groups can be bullied, imprisoned, and harmed, it means that each of us may become a party to the enslavement, including our children.
Stills from the movie "Blind Mountain"
There is only one slap between a promising female college student and a trafficked woman; between a young man who is looking forward to trying to change his life and a blood slave, there is only one recruitment.
The distance between us and Gao Yanmin, the eight-child woman in Feng County, and the Cambodian blood slave is not far, and giving up our rescue for them is equivalent to blocking our way to help.
The strength of a country is not the luxury of the rich, but also the dignity of the weak.
The little pigeons that did not give up at the Winter Olympics should not give up on anyone who were left behind, and the team that is prosperous in the country and the happiness of the people should not give up anyone. Because the strength of the country not only refers to being able to host such a grand event as the Olympic Games, which can make foreigners look up to the Chinese, but more importantly, it is necessary to establish an orderly social system, protect the basic rights of people, and let every ordinary person live with dignity, dignity and security.
We are now in the transitional stage of bidding farewell to poverty and weakness and building a modern civilized society, and anyone who is educated and sincerely hopes that the country will get better and better should "do things and speak out", go forward without looking back, and turn their backs on the darkness to the light.
Hemingway once said: All people are a whole, and the misfortune of others is your misfortune. So don't ask who the death knell is for, it's for you.
This is the responsibility and responsibility entrusted to us by history, and none of us can fail to live up to it.