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The ancients believed that the good feng shui of the family is, the more blessed the family.
At that time, people pinned their hopes on the good and bad of Feng Shui, so that they could bless us with blessings in the heavenly spirits.
However, we all know that our ancestors can't bless us, only ourselves can bless us.
The quality of family feng shui is actually cultivated and maintained by us.
The ancestors said, "There are four immovable in the family, and the more you move, the more you are blessed", do you know which "four immovables" are? Blessed are families who can do it.
1. Don't be angry
I once read such a sentence, tantrums are instinctive, and controlling tempers is the ability.
In daily life, we often lose our temper because of some incidents, and once we can't control our temper, it will cause irreparable consequences.
I once saw a piece of news.
Deng's mother, who lives in Tongling City, was tutoring her son in online classes, but no one expected that an online class would cause a bloody case.
The son is addicted to video games, and no matter how much Deng's mother tries to persuade him, he ignores it and insists on opening the game window.
Faced with this situation, Deng's mother felt both helpless and anxious, and the atmosphere between the two became more and more tense, and finally Deng's mother did not control her temper and slapped her son.
At this time, the grandmother saw her grandson being beaten, and she was very distressed, so she protected her grandson in her arms and accused her daughter-in-law, can't you say something well? You have to do it.
In Deng's mother's view, there is nothing wrong with educating her children, but her mother-in-law not only does not support herself, but also says me in front of her children, which can only make children misunderstand themselves and disobey discipline.
When the son saw his grandmother defending himself, he became more and more unscrupulous, and he made a face at his mother.
The mother-in-law's incomprehension and her son's naughty mischief made Deng's mother's anger rise sharply, and in the end, she saw the fruit knife on the table and stabbed herself 7 times.
Seeing this scene, the family was frightened, and quickly dissuaded and dialed the 120 emergency number.
Napoleon once said, "A man who can control his emotions is greater than a general who takes a city." ”
For a family, the more the family can control their emotions and not be angry, the better and blessed the family's feng shui will be.
After being angry like Deng's mother, not only did she not solve the problem of her son not learning to play games, but she hurt herself.
Therefore, if you don't get angry when you encounter something, you can keep yourself sober and better solve family conflicts and family problems.
Those who are calm and do not move their anger will naturally be blessed, but on the contrary, those who are short-tempered will achieve nothing, so how can there be any blessing at all.
2. Don't be greedy
A young Zen monk once said, "Not all stories have to be fulfilled. ”
The same is true of family life, if everything is perfect, it is greed, and excessive greed among family members can lead to quarrels, conflicts, and disharmony.
On the contrary, if there is no greed, the family will have a better understanding of what contentment is, and the family atmosphere will be more harmonious and happy.
Some time ago, after Wang Shuo had appendicitis surgery, high school classmate Si Jingyi would come to see him every day and chat with him.
Later, the two talked about making money, Wang Shuo said that he had recently undergone surgery, and he couldn't go to work, and he needed money for the mortgage and children's tuition, and he was really short of money.
Si Jingyi said that she had a way to make money and asked Wang Shuo if she wanted to give it a try.
Wang Shuo was instantly interested, it turned out that the way to make money that Si Jingyi said was to buy stocks.
I heard Si Jingyi say that she has a friend who specializes in stocks, and if she buys it with him, she will not be able to lose money.
Wang Shuo knows that stocks are a thing, and the money comes quickly, but if he loses it, he may go bankrupt.
At the instigation of Si Jingyi, Wang Shuo said that he only had 10,000 yuan, so he should try it.
In the first month, Wang Shuo saw the return money, and made an extra 2,000 yuan after returning the capital.
Later, Wang Shuo invested 12,000 yuan, but this time he only kept the capital and did not make any money.
Seeing this, Wang Shuo told Si Jingyi that he had recovered and would be able to go back to work immediately, and he didn't want to do stocks.
Half a year later, Wang Shuo learned from other high school classmates that Si Jingyi lost more than 100,000 yuan, and her husband divorced her.
Wang Shuo was very glad that he had withdrawn earlier, otherwise he might have ended up with her.
This incident made Wang Shuo understand that only by not being greedy can he keep his home and his wealth.
In this materialistic era, not being greedy is also the greatest blessing of a person and a family.
People who believe in Buddhism know that Buddhism has "three poisons" and "greed and hatred", among which greed ranks first, which shows how great the poison of greed is to people.
There are so many fulfilling things in life, and many times, the reason why people feel unhappy is actually because they are greedy and want too much.
Greed will give birth to desires, and people will do stupid things to satisfy their desires, so only by not moving greed can we keep our hearts and keep our blessings.
3. Don't move evil thoughts
Don't take the good as small, don't take the evil as small. This is the principle that the ancients taught us to behave in the world.
In family life, we should also not have evil thoughts, otherwise it will bring endless disasters to the family.
During college, I met a senior, because we are both from the Northeast, so we added WeChat to each other.
After graduating from college, we didn't have much contact, but some time ago, the senior suddenly asked me if I knew a single beauty and wanted me to introduce one to him.
When I was in school, I didn't have much contact with my seniors, but I thought that the seniors had good looks and a good personality, so I told my colleague Lily about it.
Lily didn't object, so I pushed Lily's WeChat to the seniors and asked them to add friends to fall in love.
A few minutes later, the senior sent me a message and said:
People who use this kind of avatar, I still don't add it, I feel that she is a bit of a money worshipper.
I looked at Lily's avatar, which was a selfie of her wearing a jackpot necklace, and I thought there was nothing wrong with it.
But I don't understand why the seniors misunderstand Lily Baijin.
Listen to the senior's explanation, even the avatar has to show off his necklace, most of this kind of girls are greedy for vanity, they must always compare gifts from their boyfriends with others, I don't like such girls.
Looking at the senior's reason, I suddenly felt speechless, and maliciously speculated about Lily based on just one avatar, this kind of person is really hateful.
I didn't explain to him that the necklace was a birthday present from Lily's grandmother on her birthday.
It's just that her grandmother passed away due to illness two years ago, and Lily changed this avatar in order to miss her grandmother.
Later, I stopped introducing partners to my seniors, because in my opinion, a malicious person like him is destined to be single, and whoever marries him is the misfortune of the other party.
In life, there are always some people who look at others with malicious eyes, such as seeing the love of sisters and brothers, speculating that men are greedy for women's money and eat soft rice; When you see a fat man, you speculate that he is a foodie......
A person who has malice in his heart, who thinks of himself as his critic, sees nothing but the evil in his heart.
As the saying goes, if you do too much injustice, you will kill yourself. If a person often has evil thoughts, he will do evil deeds and consume his blessings, and he will not have a happy family.
On the contrary, a person with good intentions, they are kind to others, know to be good to their families, and good to the people around them, so that they can accumulate good popularity and good fortune for themselves.
4. Don't move grievances
Have you ever resented the unfairness of fate, whether you have resented that others are not good enough for you, when you are always resentful, you will feel that life is all bad.
If a person has frequent resentment, then he and his family will not be happy, because he will put himself in the shadows and cannot see the beauty of life.
Grandma's neighbor, Uncle Wang, is a well-known carpenter in the village, and his carpentry skills are very good.
When business is good, Uncle Wang can earn more than 10,000 yuan a month, but despite this, Uncle Wang is still not satisfied and complains every day that he has no money.
Sometimes sitting at the door chatting, Uncle Wang complains about the unfairness of fate in and out of his words, blames his parents for not giving him thousands of family wealth, blames his wife for divorcing him, and blames the people around him for hating the poor and loving the rich, and looking down on him.
In fact, Uncle Wang made a lot of money or not, and he did it himself.
As soon as Uncle Wang had a little money in his hand, he went to play mahjong, and almost all the money he earned was lost at the gambling table, and his wife and children talked about him, but he didn't listen.
Later, Uncle Wang's wife couldn't stand him, so she divorced him and left with the children.
Uncle Wang, who is divorced, is even more unscrupulous, gambling when he has money, and taking carpenter work when he has no money.
When he was working, Uncle Wang was still picky, he didn't do the heavy work, he didn't do the little money, he didn't do it in the hot weather, he didn't do it in the cold, and later, the people in the village were reluctant to find him to work.
Uncle Wang doesn't think it's his own problem to get to this point, but complains about the tricks of fate, which is really ridiculous!
When a person has resentment, he is full of negative energy, and this negative emotion will greatly affect his words and deeds.
He will become negative, pessimistic, lose enthusiasm and confidence in life, he will also constantly complain and blame others, shift the responsibility to others, and ignore his own problems.
This negative attitude will not only affect his own life, but also negatively affect the people around him.
If you have frequent resentment, the resentment will turn into a black hole, sucking away your blessings and filling your life with misfortune.
On the contrary, a grateful person will be grateful for everything in life, even if he is in a difficult situation, he can face it positively and optimistically, and bring him a turnaround.
If the heart is sunny, life is sunny everywhere, and if the heart is yin, life is full of wind and rain.
The truly blessed are not given by God, but created by themselves.
For the happiness of the family, remember the "four immobility", as long as you can do it, the family will be blessed! Do you guys have that over there? Welcome to see the fans and friends, leave a message in the message area below~