We will find that every time the kindergarten starts, there are always some children who cry into tears, and that pitiful appearance can break the hearts of parents.
But some children, as soon as they heard that they were going to kindergarten, left happily and without looking back, leaving their old mother at the door.
What's going on?
I also asked a kindergarten teacher friend this question, and she revealed that most of the children who don't cry on the first day of kindergarten come from these three types of families.
1. Early education for families
My cousin's child was sent to early education when he was more than 2 years old. By the time he was more than 3 years old and went to kindergarten, he was already familiar with the road, separated from his family, and did not cry at all.
When a child who has been taught in advance goes to kindergarten, he will not feel unfamiliar and afraid of the group environment, but will already be accustomed to the classroom environment.
When he played and studied with the teachers, he immediately adapted to it.
Because for him, there is no difference between kindergarten and the previous early education life, so he will not panic.
Moreover, children who have been taught in the early years know the rules and discipline of the classroom early on, such as sitting obediently on the stool, engaging in games, calling the teacher when going to the toilet, going to bed at noon, and so on.
These rules are already familiar to the child, and when he goes to kindergarten, he can accept them immediately.
And the child who goes to kindergarten for the first time at the age of 3 will inevitably panic when he leaves the familiar family environment for the first time and comes to an unfamiliar group.
Moreover, it is inevitable that children will find it difficult to get used to coming to a kindergarten that requires rules and discipline from their families.
Children can be spoiled at home, but at school, teachers are likely to not take care of them.
A series of feelings such as loss, strangeness, nervousness, fear, etc., may lead to a cry for a few days before school starts.
However, I do not recommend that parents send their children to early education.
On the contrary, children should play more carefree and spend more time with their families, especially their mothers, before going to kindergarten.
Only when a child develops a greater sense of trust and security at home can he develop a stronger ability to adapt.
It's normal to feel sad to be separated from your family. And children with strong adaptability can come out faster and transition from family life to school life earlier.
2. Families that cultivate children's ability to be independent
One of my daughter's classmates, she never cried when she was in kindergarten.
The classmate's mother said that the child has a strong ability to be independent since he was a child.
In order to cultivate her daughter's independence, her mother will let her tidy up her toys, dress herself, and eat by herself.
Although her daughter was slow at first and sometimes made a mess, her mother always patiently encouraged her and let her solve the problem on her own.
By the age of 3, my daughter is able to do many things on her own.
On the first day of kindergarten, my daughter did not show any fear, despite the unfamiliar environment. She knows how to turn to her teacher when she is in trouble. When you wake up from a nap, you can dress and fold quilts by yourself.
Because of their strong independence, children are able to cope with the new environment of the kindergarten with confidence. Coupled with the teacher's praise, she has more confidence and likes to go to kindergarten.
Therefore, even on the first day of kindergarten, she did not cry and quickly adapted.
We can also cultivate more independence before the child enters the kindergarten. This allows children to face new environments and challenges with confidence and calm.
Three: Families where the child has an estranged relationship with the mother
There is also a situation where the child will not cry on the first day of kindergarten.
That is, the relationship between the child and the mother is relatively estranged.
Those children who are particularly close to their mothers, when they are separated from their mothers for the first time, will definitely feel uncomfortable and reluctant. And being apart for a day is really long for a little kid.
And in order to protest, he will express it by crying.
The child is crying, not only to relieve the anxiety of separation, but also to retain it in this way - what if the mother relents and takes me home?
And those children who are more estranged from their mothers, he has become accustomed to being "separated" from his mother in space and mind.
So if he doesn't go to kindergarten and can't be separated from his mother, it's no different for him.
On the contrary, there are children, teachers, and fun in the kindergarten, but he feels that it is more fun in the kindergarten.
So, even on the first day of kindergarten, he behaved calmly, what to do, and he didn't cry at all.
If the child does not cry because of this situation, we must not rejoice, think that our child is sensible, and we don't want the mother to worry too much.
We need to get closer to our children and communicate with them more. Listen to them more and accompany them more.
In this way, when the children grow up, they will be close to us.
The child does not cry on the first day of kindergarten, generally because of the above 3 situations.
Did your child cry when he went to kindergarten?
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