Hello everyone, I'm Sylvie.
As a person who loves to be in love, you naturally will not miss any opportunity to watch people fall in love.
A few days ago, I chased a newly broadcast reality SHOW love variety show - "Semi-Familiar Lovers".
Without further ado, I'll give 2G surfers a quick overview.
"Semi-mature Lovers" is a light mature age vegetarian love variety show, the guests of the show are older, basically over 30 years old, and some are divorced with babies, so it is also known as a "middle-aged" love variety show.
As soon as the show was broadcast, it attracted a lot of hot discussions, among which the most concerned female guest was Lola, who was called "Funny Girl" by netizens, she is a food blogger and a single mother.
Unlike other glittering heroines in the love roundup, Lola holds a counterattack script.
From the single in the first program, no one to choose, to being pursued by three male guests at the same time, it should be known that there are only five male guests in the program.
Therefore, some netizens laughed and said that they could directly change the name of the program to "After the divorce, I became the object of pursuit of the three big guys".
So why is Lola so popular? What are the shining points in her body, and the love ideas that are worth learning from ordinary girls, let's learn it together!
1. Be true to yourself
Many girls in marriage and love, there will be a flattering personality, feel "what type of girl boys like, then I will follow the change, so that there will be a lot of people pursuing me." ”
Remember, before we can love others, we first have to learn to be true to ourselves.
On the first day of Lola's participation in the show, she worked hard to make everyone happy, took on the responsibility of enlivening the atmosphere, and also became a small host.
As a result, in the end, no one chose her, which made her full of frustration.
This single thing made Lola particularly unconfident, began to worry about whether she was not good enough, and also called the male girlfriend for help, trying to find a way to improve herself.
But the guest wang ziwen commented on this move:
"Don't think about it so much, you just have to be yourself, why adjust because of others?"
This is true, and we all know that in relationships between the sexes, it is up to each other to attract each other, not to blindly pander.
Therefore, everyone must show their original side in their own comfortable state, whether it is lively or introverted, provided that it is their true state.
2. Take the initiative to show your heart
Most people have a common misconception:
"In the relationship, it must be the male initiative." Once the girl takes the initiative, it will appear to be cheap. ”
In fact, this is a very outdated concept.
If women are always in a passive state, waiting for men to chase, it is easy to attract men whose conditions are completely inferior to their own, and even be targeted by scumbag Neptune.
Therefore, we must learn to take the initiative to show our hearts to the object of our choice.
To draw the point, the expression here ≠ confession, but an act of releasing ambiguous signals to attract the attention of the other party.
When Lola was sure that she was interested in Yu Yue, she knocked on his door that night and asked:
"Will anyone make an appointment tomorrow?"
Seeing this, many girls will have concerns:
"Wouldn't it be a shame if I was rejected?"
It doesn't matter, just like Lola, generously add a sentence: "No problem", it is enough.
When you release the ambiguous signal, the other party is easy to have emotional fluctuations, Yu Yue will look at Lola's circle of friends after Lola knocked on, and transfer the object of interest.
3. Specific needs are proposed during the ambiguous period
The ambiguous period is a very critical stage, and if you want the boy to be impressed with you, you have to strengthen the interaction.
The easiest way to interact is to offer specific needs.
On the show, Lola said in a joking tone:
"I eat two poached eggs every morning, so make sure you fry them for me!"
This small request was responded to by three male guests, and the next morning, Lola ate six eggs.
Look, one trick to get three crushes to the surface.
On a date with Yu Yue, Lola said:
"If someone says goodnight to me, I may feel very grounded and want to go to bed early, but when it's late at night, no one pays attention to me."
This sentence not only shows their sense of vulnerability and pulls in the distance between each other, but also puts forward the small request of "wanting someone to say goodnight to me" to increase interactivity.
As a result, in the next few days, Yu Yue really insisted on saying goodnight to her, and unconsciously, she was thinking about her every day.
In the ambiguous period, many girls love to make abstract and heavy requirements, to feel safe, to have unique love, to be romantic, boys often can't find a direction, thereby reducing the desire to continue to approach you.
On the contrary, Lola's requests are simple and specific, not only can the boy respond to her quickly, but also create a sense of satisfaction, and the distance between the two people will be pulled in.
Finally, I would like to say that although I have taught you a lot of love skills, girls, self-confidence is the strongest weapon.
As Wang Ziwen mentioned in the show:
"Seeing this show, I think there's also a clear difference. Even when boys face emotional setbacks, they will not deny themselves. But girls often feel that I am not doing something wrong, whether I am not good enough, from Lola to Zhou Nan have had this problem. ”
I hope that people will not judge whether they are good or not by the likes of men.
When you are rejected, do not rush to deny yourself, but meditate in your heart:
"I'm good, I'm good, I deserve to be loved."