Wang Nengneng is a very determined person, and his firmness has encouraged me a lot.
"I never thought someone would love me so much." Taking Wang Nengneng's flower, Lola said with a smile.
With the success of "Barala Energy", the three-month "Semi-Mature Lover" officially ended. In the past three months, Wang Nengneng and Lola's CP have become the "top stream" in this love complex focusing on 30+ men and women. The number of CP super talkers on Weibo exceeded 170,000, and the super talk ranking even exceeded the ranking of the "Semi-Familiar Lovers" program, ranking first in the variety list.
In fact, before participating in "Semi-Acquainted Lovers", Lola was already a "famous vegetarian". Audiences who know her well know that she has participated in many variety shows such as "Please The Refrigerator" and "Can't Forget the Restaurant", and has also joined papitube as a food blogger. These experiences in front of the camera made Lola instinctively take on the responsibility of warming up when they first met with everyone.
In the first episode, she will move the process forward and move the atmosphere like a host. It's just a pity that her thoughtfulness and enthusiasm did not help her in the subsequent mutual selection link. As in past life, Lola was left alone on the first date. Lola was a little upset when she stayed in the cabin, saying, "Everyone likes you, but everyone doesn't love you." ”
This sentence resonated with many viewers, and everyone discussed on social media, is it that "funny women" are doomed to have no love? Later, Lola achieved a "counterattack" with her good personality and won the favor of three male guests in the show. Some netizens joked that "this show should be called the world of Roche women".
Unlike the "self-familiarity" that she first showed, Lola is an extremely slow and hot person inside. Past experiences have made her cautious about her feelings, and it is difficult to believe the friendships and feelings that she has established in a short period of time, but Wang Nengneng and the sincerity of the other guests in the cottage have touched her. In less than 20 days together, Lola began to slowly open herself up and express herself.
The day before the night of the confession, Lola called her brother. Her brother told her: "Feelings need to be experienced with the heart, the second is to observe with the eyes, and finally to listen with the ears." Lola also chose to follow her inner feelings and bravely embrace the "new life".
For Lola, in the ten days of the recording of the show, the harvest is not only an emotion, but also the opportunity to re-recognize herself and find the courage to fall in love. What we are curious about is that in a variety show with the theme of love, what is the distance between love and the camera and reality that Lola feels?
Before the end of Half-Baked Lovers, Poison Eye (ID: Domore Dumou) has a conversation with Lola about the story in the cabin. Here's what she said:
At the beginning, the casting director of "Semi-Familiar Lovers" came to ask for information, and I also expressed to them at the time that I really wanted to fall in love, but then I didn't receive news, and I thought that the show might have begun to record and didn't look for me. Later, a friend helped me match and met with the director team in Shanghai. As a result, I was not expected to be notified to enter the cabin soon after the conversation, which was only about two or three days, very fast, so I was also very confused.
Before going on the show, there will be some concerns, afraid of affecting the family and children. And after the program was broadcast, the exposure was higher than I thought, there were many program-related videos on the short video platform, and later the baby also saw it, and I still had to explain this matter to him haha.
I had never watched love in the past, and I had no concept of love, so the moment I was told to go into the cabin to fall in love, I was completely overwhelmed and not ready to fall in love. And the show doesn't have a script, just some simple guidelines. For example, on the first day of going in, we will be told that we are almost going to choose a room, almost going to dinner, and this kind of basic guidance.
Later, everyone got used to living in the house, and they wanted to do what they wanted to do. And after getting familiar with it, you will find that the love variety show is no different from other variety shows, but more daily. Because of recording other variety shows, you may have to consider the feelings of other guests present, or give the opportunity to speak to others.
But the love story is really living in it, and you may occasionally suddenly remember that there is a camera shooting, but after a while you forget it haha. I think the experience of recording a love variety show is a little more interesting than recording a variety show. Because it's helping me in recording life, it's kind of like I'm shooting my own Vlog.
However, because at first everyone was confused and did not know what to do. So I still go to enliven the atmosphere and contact with everyone like I did in the past when recording variety shows. Even at that time, there was a little bit of complacency, thinking that only I had the experience of recording variety shows, and I had to open this situation haha.
Because people who have had experience in variety shows know that recording variety shows is most afraid of cold scenes or the pace is very slow, I want to make the occasion as lively as possible. It wouldn't have even been realized that going in really wanted to be in love, and it turned out to be counterproductive, and no one was candidate for me on the first day of dating.
In the past, in the occasion of contact with the opposite sex, I also did things to mobilize the atmosphere, and then those of the opposite sex chose my friends, and at that time I also hoped that the friends around me could get happiness, but I encountered the same situation in the show that day, and it was false to say that it was not uncomfortable at all. So I would say the phrase "everyone likes you, but people don't love you."
However, it was the first day after all, and the dating choice made without knowing each other very well, I think is reasonable. It's just that it does feel a little lost, and there are some doubts about yourself, wondering if you are really unattractive?
That day I asked two friends for help and asked them if I needed to change. The advice of the two of them was different, but both were right. Female friends want me to firmly believe in my own confidence and must be myself, so that the other party can see the complete me. The opinion of male friends is to adjust appropriately on the basis of being yourself, and not to expose all of yourself at the beginning. At the moment, I am more receptive to the advice of male friends, because I have tried to "be myself", but I have failed, and I want to adjust to the next state.
I suddenly realized that I really wanted to fall in love with others when I came to the cottage, so when I communicated with everyone later, I let myself not be so outward. Because it is too outward,there is no way to have a deeper level of communication with others. I should have communicated in a way that would have become more intimate with another person, and that was a little bit of a change for me.
Later, Wang Nengyou told me that when he first saw my state, he felt that it was not very right, and he felt that my state of extroversion was not the real self. So on the first date, he tried to make me relax, and that day he took the initiative to tell some of his own stories so that I could communicate better with him.
If it wasn't for Wang Nengneng, I wouldn't have said so much about the first date, but he had channeled my words. When I talk to him, I'm really comfortable and comfortable. In this society, it's too hard to find someone to communicate with you, and he still happens to be growing up in your aesthetic.
In fact, when I first came into contact with Wang Nengneng, my impression of him was not very good hahaha. First of all, his appearance is the most outstanding of several boys, which allows me to see him at once. But it also made me feel that he was quite confident in himself, a little self-righteous, plus he had a little stinky fart, I didn't really want to have too much contact with this person at the time, but then I found out that it was completely different.
Especially after the first date, there was a relatively large change in his impression. But then there was not much contact, because at that time I did not feel his like, I think he should not like me like this. And I'm very slow and hot inside, and on the surface I may soon be able to become friends with everyone, but I can't get to know too much.
Maybe it's because I have friends who have been together for a long time, about ten years or so, and they give me a very big sense of security, so I tend to use them to compare with new friends, including lovers. Before I had no way to adjust my mentality, I later met Nengneng and everyone, and found that as long as the other party is sincere enough, your feelings are the same.
I'm a guy who cares a lot about guys' empathy in a relationship because I've been through a lot of things myself, and if the other person has a strong empathy and he can understand me, I'll be comfortable with him. Wang Nengneng is a person with great empathy and empathy, which is his strong advantage.
On this basis, he also has an ability that many boys do not have, that is, he is very good at expressing. He can even help me sort out the things I want to say very clearly, and he is also very willing to listen and accept your opinions, which is his unique charm.
Although I have entered the "semi-mature" stage, the concept of love is not much different from that of 20 years old, and it will still be very popular to fall in love. I am a giving type in my relationship, some people are happy to accept the love of others, some people are happy to give more, I may be more inclined to the latter.
Although sometimes, paying will be more hurtful, but this is a person's nature, it is difficult to change. But I will now restrain my emotions a little and try not to release them too quickly as possible.
Including in the next few episodes, people have some doubts about my performance in the show, thinking that I am a little hesitant between the two people, but in fact, because of my past experience, I am more cautious about feelings. After all, the time of real acquaintance is only a little more than half a month, and it is still in a variety show with exposure, as a person who has tasted the famous "sweetness", I will be afraid that other people are not coming with this purpose, and I need time to distinguish whether the other party is sincere enough.
At that time, I would have a little doubt about these feelings, because it was too "unreal". The show brings everyone together in one space, with love as the goal of life, and all the rhythms are accelerated.
In a given space, a person's state is different from returning to real life. At that time, I just wanted to slow myself down and calmly analyze whether this feeling was limited to this space, and whether this space would be so beautiful.
Including the fact that I have children, not everyone can accept it, it does affect the state of the two people getting along, but also to take into account the opinions of both family and friends. And it was only very late in the show that I had the opportunity to confess this to everyone, which was also a pressure for me.
Because if I had been in private, I would have said it very early. After all, everyone comes with the purpose of falling in love, so the sooner you say it, the better. But because of the setting of the program group at that time, I held back for a long time in the early stage. There are also many people who come to question me, saying why didn't you tell others about this situation earlier, and I was quite helpless.
However, although there will be misunderstood grievances, it also proves that everyone is seriously watching the show and seriously discussing the relationship between the sexes in love, which is a good thing. I think it's good to look at our relationship from another perspective, to pick out the reasonable and unreasonable parts to discuss, or to share some of their own ideas about falling in love.
And to my surprise, many viewers saw my whole person completely. I feel that the friends who are very close to me do not know me so well, but some of the audience's analysis has interpreted my whole person thoroughly, and even if the camera does not fully present me, they can understand and say a lot of inner thoughts for me.
I remember we used to play fairy sticks in the hut, and the two sticks I played with got wet and the fireworks were small. I kept thinking, "It's over, isn't it my luck that I'm not doing well," but I didn't say it. As a result, that day I saw an audience member write, "The last time I saw her fireworks, I was thinking, other people's fireworks are so brilliant, if I get that small, I will feel that I am not lucky?" 」 ”
I will find that someone has the same feelings as me, which is a rare coincidence, and it will make me feel that there is another person in the world who is not familiar with me.
All in all, I gained a lot in the cottage. Everyone in the hut comes from different fields and sees the world differently, they bring me a lot of inspiration and change, which is where I gain more in the hut.
For myself, I am also in a very comfortable state at this stage, and I like this stage very much. In many ways, I couldn't accept myself and tried to avoid my shortcomings, but now I can face them very calmly and the whole person becomes very comfortable. I even think this state came a little late, and if I had been in the current state a few years ago, maybe it would have been better.
Text | Li Qingli
Edit | Zhang Youfa