"I'm going to have a handsome son and be a thunderbolt mother."
Jing Tian grinned loudly in the program "Semi-Mature Lover" and talked about the plan of "having a son as a mother".
And Jing Tian is just one of the onlookers of this variety show "Bold Speech".
This show that focuses on 30+ light mature men and women in love, at the moment when many love complexes make people gradually tired, unexpectedly "kill a blood road", and also expose the love brain of onlookers Jing Tian.
Watching mature men and women fall in love is too much fun.
"It's elegant to be single"
Accustomed to watching the love variety show with "young handsome men and beautiful women" as the selling point, this show that uses "half-familiar" as the name at the beginning accurately pokes at the part of the crowd that is most likely to fall into anxiety.
As soon as the opening scene, the lineup of ordinary guests was eye-catching.
There is Luo Ying, a strong financial woman who has recently returned from studying abroad, Yu Yue, a senior doctor who runs a dental clinic, Huang Ryan, the owner of a couture suit studio who has dreamed of fashion design since childhood, and Wang Nengneng, director of advertising planning...
Several of the guests were neatly dressed and well-dressed.
Although their work is different and their experiences are different, the light that flashes in their eyes cannot be ignored when they introduce their work and life.
One of the most impressive guests was Luo Ying.
When she joined the show, she had just crossed the threshold of 31 years old.
Different from other guests who open their own stores and do their own bloggers, the title of "International Institutional Financing Consultant" makes Luo Ying have a very high-level workplace aura as soon as she appears.
One of the things she did the most on the show was working overtime.
Unlike the bright and beautiful appearance of the imaginary "workplace beauty", Luo Ying is often chatting with other people one second ago, and the next second she has quietly taken her laptop to work in the corner.
This contrast is not annoying, but makes people feel that she is down-to-earth and hardworking.
When she first started recording the program, Luo Ying carefully listed a form for everyone to help her remember, and everyone's age, hometown, educational background, and personal living habits were all sorted out by her.
This is also the deep imprint of her long-term pursuit of efficiency and organization.
In Luo Ying's confession, she was once a "love brain" who could abandon her studies and work for love.
After thirty years of age, she has understood what is indispensable in life and what must be firmly grasped in her hands.
Rather than feelings, she chose to do her job well first, even if the favorite male guest proposed to drink coffee together, she also said simply and neatly, "Tomorrow overtime, after the end can be done."
When she wears professional clothes and delicate makeup, her aura is fully open, as if releasing the signal of "no one is close to you".
But when asked "Do you think it's going to be hard to love someone right now?" ”
She would smile slightly and instantly transform into a "soft sister", shake her head and say, "No, I am only three points familiar." ”
Another female guest, Zhou Nan, as a physical teacher at the Shanghai Theater Academy, her elegant posture attracted the attention of many people as soon as she appeared, but she was quietly doing her own thing in the corner from beginning to end.
Because of the work arrangement, she went to bed early and got up early every day, rushed to school for morning classes, and sometimes inevitably had a "jet lag" with other people recording the cabin.
Someone asked her if she had ever considered going to bed later and mingling with everyone. She smiled and said, "No demand."
Although his speech is soft and weak, he does not seem to have much "sense of existence", but Zhou Nan's core is very tough.
When mentioning the past with the male guests, she lightly said:
"I've been practicing dance since I was a child, and I've been injured everywhere you see, so the injuries outside the body are not worth mentioning."
Later in the show, she was unable to get together with the male guests she liked, but she and Zhou Jinshun and Yang Mengjing, who were "also fallen people in the end of the world", formed a "single brother and sister group" to participate in the fashion week.
Throughout, the state of the guests on the show has been very relaxed.
Men and women, regardless of age, everyone continues to work hard in their own world, as if to say with practical action:
Single life can also be elegant.
"Showing love is not showing weakness"
"Whoever loves first loses"
All along, this has been the "proverb of love" that countless people believe in.
At the age of 30+, between youth and maturity, many people yearn for love and marriage, but also inevitably have hesitation and doubt, afraid that their initiative is exchanged for an empty.
But the guests on this show let people see another form of love.
The audience's most optimistic "big brother and sister-in-law" combination Huang Ruien and Luo Ying.
They looked at each other early on and did not hide their good feelings in their interactions.
On the way home from the first two-person date, the two sat in the back seat of the car.
Huang Ryan took the initiative to share the Bluetooth headset and asked Luo Ying to listen to the music, which she gladly accepted.
Huang Ryan inadvertently said that he was worried that the headphones would leak electricity after soaking in water, and Luo Ying immediately took up this sentence and joked:
"Then be careful of getting electrified."
This sentence does not say love and love, but it makes the atmosphere instantly sweet and ambiguous.
During the invitation stage, Luo Ying opened the door and saw her favorite Huang Ryan, and without hesitation, she agreed to the other party.
Her cheerfulness also surprised the other party: "I didn't expect her to agree so quickly." ”
There are not so many gains and losses, like to fight.
The decency of female guest Yang Mengjing also made many people sigh.
At first, she said that she had been proposed on the Tokyo Tower, but she rejected the other party because she was afraid of marriage.
Between the words, she did not regard these pasts as "failures" and "shames".
In the course of the show, she has always shown a clear good feeling for male guest Wang Nengneng.
On the first date, they shot arrows together, had dinner together, and talked happily.
Between meals, the other party was holding food in both hands, and his head was slightly sweating.
Yang Mengjing naturally picked up a paper towel and wiped the sweat for the other party, while also jokingly "wipe off your powder, wipe off your eyebrows."
Natural physical contact, subtle timing, in the 30+ women here just handy, this bold, probably young and shy little girls can not do naturally.
When Wang Nengneng had a heart and began to pursue another female guest, Yang Mengjing did not give up, but continued to fight for her love.
She made a ring for Wang Nengneng herself, and specially chose the other party's favorite blue cake to celebrate his birthday.
Some people say that she is "not funny" and "not self-aware", but she just did what a brave girl who chased love wanted to do.
At the end of the show, she solemnly asked Wang Nengneng for the last time to "showdown".
Although the other party failed to respond to her pursuit, Yang Mengjing still chose to give her heart a complete end.
Seeing a lot of "you guess me, I guess you" push and pull routines in many love roundups, men and women over thirty years old are straightforward, dare to love and dare to hate the way of communication makes people feel more comfortable.
Showing love is not a sign of weakness, but a kind of bravery.
Urban men and women do not need to show their strong side by shouting the slogan of "treating love as dung".
Excessive rejection of love is a manifestation of vulnerability.
Dare to take the initiative, dare to refuse, love when you meet what you like, and deal with the emotions that are running inside you when you leave.
The strength of contemporary women is shown here, but it is far more than that.
"The more people grow, the simpler love"
The traditional "thirty and standing" saying is no longer quite suitable for contemporary people.
Most thirty-year-old urbanites are still wandering in the labyrinth of life.
The dilemma of urging love, marriage, and giving birth to a baby makes people tired of running for their lives.
"How can the worlds of 30+ and 20+ be different?"
"What will happen to the 30+ women's view of feelings?"
Guest Wang Ziwen gave a very interesting answer.
She said that when she was 20 years old, she was "empty" and most of the relationships were "ok".
At that time, she was in love with outward demand, needed companionship, and needed emotion.
At the present age, life has a fulcrum, whether it is a career, a family or a child, she has it.
Affection or marriage is the icing on the cake for her.
At this stage, she is more concerned about the fit of the soul, and will not pay so much attention to the so-called external conditions:
"But if there's a little bit of discomfort to me, it probably doesn't matter."
These words can just explain the reason why the eldest "big brother" Huang Ryan, the eldest of the guests, has always been unmarried.
39 years old, seven times in love, but never married.
It's a prohibitive backdrop, As Ryan himself explains:
"If I'm going to find the right person, I actually list the conditions I want, I can find it, I don't think it's that hard."
But do you like this guy? not necessarily. ”
I used to think that attaching more conditions to love would be able to accurately match the person I was destined for.
Later, I realized that a simple heartbeat is the most rare, and "love" is the basis of a relationship.
In the show, Lola, a single mother, was the least optimistic female guest at the beginning.
I remember that when the first episode first appeared, the other female guests were either fully open or graceful.
Only Lola, a single mother, dragged her suitcase like a little girl and ran quickly to the meeting place.
When she introduced herself, she told everyone about her marriage history and children at the first time, and her grinning personality made people feel like friends, but not like lovers.
But the deeper the contact, the more popular she became.
When everyone was embarrassed because they were strangers to each other, she intimately took the initiative to break the ice;
When her invitation to the guest of her choice was rejected, she still smiled and left;
When mentioning the past, there is no evaluation of the ex, just a faint sentence: "I was still young at that time and didn't know what marriage was".
People who are not deeply involved in the world always think that with materials, they can keep love from dying, so they add more and more accessories to love and marriage.
On the contrary, it makes life more and more complicated.
Back to the beginning of the relationship, the simplest principle may be only one -
Whether the heart is moving.
Brushing aside the fog to see the truth, is love really as complicated as we think?
There is a sentence at the beginning of the show that is unforgettable:
"Together, we are on a spiritually door-to-door, emotionally evenly matched love adventure."
"Door-to-door pair" and "equal strength", such words have nothing to do with age, but with the heart.
Yishu said: "Self-love, calmness, and then love others." ”
I have always felt that the name "Half-Acquaintance Lover" has achieved a very good job, thirty-year-old life, half mature and half young.
Still full of expectations for love, still willing to believe, this is a beautiful thing.
"If love does not come, love yourself well, look forward to seeing each other at the peak; when the heartbeat comes, express it bravely, leave no regrets, even if you say goodbye, you can be frank." 」
No matter how old we are and how much experience we have, we still have to live seriously, laugh to the fullest, and love purely.
Author | Ju Xiaoxiao, I would like to see the vast world with you. This article was first published by Ten Point Video Original.
Anchor | Yi Fan, radio host, sound temperature explorer.
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