With the growth of experience, life is half ripe, happiness is half immature, and love has become a relationship with a particularly low fault tolerance rate.
Can adults after fading greenness still find the best state of love?
The love variety show "Semi-Acquainted Lovers" ended today, bringing together ten 30+ single men and women to discuss the appearance of love.
Through the lens, we can see their relationship in a month, from strange to familiar, and then to the process of heartbeat and holding hands.
Their stories, see the big beauty Jing Tian are all called straight up.
For two months, the three most discussed pairs of CPs on the show have been hotly discussed: Tilapia CP, Balala Energy CP and Swiss Calendar CP.
At the end of the story, once again recalling the love-chasing behavior of the three male guests, it will be found that the final scene of all feelings can be traced in the past behavior.
Regardless of age, love is always love.
Dentist Yurik
A deep warm man who pays silently
As the opening popularity king among the guests, the high emotional intelligence yuric naturally and generously controlled the whole scene as soon as he appeared, helping the semi-mature men and women who had just met to successfully break the ice.
His first impression of everyone was that he was lively and cheerful, very good at chatting, and seemed to be able to catch everyone's words.
Yurik's delicate care and attention to Lola successfully attracted her.
On the first date, Lola's stomach aches, and Yurik intimately sends her a warm baby;
When She goes to work, she will prepare breakfast in advance, becoming the first person of the opposite sex in Lola's life to make breakfast for herself;
Lola inadvertently mentioned that "if someone tells me goodnight, my heart will be very solid", and Yurik's circle of friends that night has only two words - good night;
Lola accidentally falls, and he will silently buy her medicine...
In the half-cooked hut, Yurik would silently clean up the dishes and clean up every day. In the face of such a warm man, Lola admitted that she did have a heart for him.
While everyone is optimistic about Yurik's relationship with Lola, their ambiguous relationship is high and low.
Lola gives Yuric a cup, which Helik takes with him even when he travels; but when Lola mentions her baby again on a date at the aquarium, Yurik respectfully shifts the subject and just communicates superficial things like eating and mood.
From time to time, Yurik would look at Lola affectionately, saying in an interview that he had a crush on Lola, but never expressed his liking bluntly.
When he found that the female guest Tong Tong had a good feeling for him, he would also get along with tong tong very decently, release a friendly signal, and did not take the initiative to show kindness, but also did not take the initiative to refuse.
When he learned that there were two other male guests who also liked Lola, Yurik still chose to pay silently, although he said that he wanted to be more proactive, but in the end he did not take a substantial and clear step.
As an adult male in his 30+, Yurik has always maintained his own decency and prudence, as he himself puts it: "There is no way to put aside all material things and simply talk about feelings." ”
In such a platform for chasing love, Yurik did pay a lot silently, always using reason to control his heartbeat signal, and became an overly obedient warm man.
In the love relationship of middle-aged people, in the face of heartbeat signals, do not express, do not take the initiative, do not refuse, such affection, but ineffective affection.
He seemed to say something and seemed to say nothing, obviously doing a lot but twisting and avoiding at key points, and the other party did not answer how to deliver words at important moments.
This kind of ineffective affection will eventually extinguish the two-way spark that began into an elusive sigh.
At the end of the day, it's still not enough love.
Wang Nengneng
Enthusiastic and proactive to pinch the king
Also interested in Lola, Wang Neng can catch up with his love with his strength.
At first, almost no one thought that Lola and Wang Neng would come together.
The man made it clear that he didn't like masculine women, and that was the first impression Lola made of him.
And his first impression of Lola was also extremely tragic: a puxin man in bulk English, conceited and greasy.
So, their opening words are: "Hello, unmasked brother!" ”
Their fate began with a date of natural selection, Wang Nengneng chose Lola's painting, and as soon as the two met, Wang Nengneng was attracted to the elaborately dressed Lola:
Today you really amazed me, the type I like.
In the conversation with Lola, slowly understanding Lola's personality and experience, Wang Nengneng gradually strengthened his liking.
The process of Wang Neng's ability to pursue love can be described as textbook-like excellence.
He will use sincere communication and response as a foreshadowing, let Lola relax from the state of tension, will share his little secrets, and bring the two people closer.
When Lola expressed the hope that her future partner would give herself an omelette, he immediately responded: "I will make omelette";
When Lola mentioned that her former marriage and children may affect the relationship, compared to Yurik's one-hundred-point answer of "I still like children", Wang Nengneng's firm "I, my family and my friends, don't mind at all", which is a two-hundred-point answer.
These understandings made Lola slowly shed her guard and feel at ease, even if she did not speak.
In addition to clear communication, Wang Nengneng will take the initiative to invite Lola to deepen their understanding of the two people through contact.
When everyone gathered to set off fireworks, he noticed that Lola in the crowd was a little sentimental because the fireworks sticks were not bright enough, and immediately patted Lola's shoulder to tell her not to be depressed, and secretly resolved - "This girl must be cared for";
When four single men and women in the cabin were exercising together, Lola accidentally fell, and he would use his hands to polish the soles of Lola's shoes to prevent slipping again;
When he skis with Lola, he protects the whole time, with the phrase "I won't let go", a pun.
Step by step, Wang Nengneng's concern became instinctive, and before he woke up, he still remembered to cover Lola with a blanket in a daze.
These proactive overtures not only touched Lola, but also infected their partners.
What's more, wang Nengneng's generous confession gives Lola enough security.
Facing the camera and his surrounding partners, he would firmly say, "What I've always liked is Lola, and it hasn't changed." ”
In the face of other women's overtures, he will explicitly avoid it, and if he can't avoid it, he will bluntly refuse.
In the face of other men's pursuit of Lola, he can also express his feelings frankly:
Happiness is real, discomfort is also real, seeing you and Yurik actually makes me feel bad, in fact, your personality is what I like.
Faced with a semi-mature date that was coming to an end, he would make it clear to Lola: "I hope not to be a passer-by for each other." ”
Balala Energy CP, from "looking at each other and getting bored" to holding hands successfully, proves a sentence:
Courage is the magic weapon of love.
Ryan Wong
Naked straight balls favor
If Balala Energy CP is a model of love that can be emulated, huang Ryan and Luo Ying's two-way rush is enviable.
At the beginning, Huang Ryan, who spoke less gentlemanly, always made people feel a little cold, and after meeting Luo Ying, he immediately transformed into an obsessive big brother who exported love words anytime and anywhere, and it would not make people feel greasy at all, and even a little humorous.
I usually think this road is very long, how can I arrive so quickly today.
You ask me out, one phone call I'll pass, no appearance fee.
Although the wind is very strong, I want to keep watching you.
Referring to the slightly older age difference between the two, he said: "It's a reality, but it's not a problem. ”
When other guests were still hesitating to think about who to date, Huang Ryan had already confessed in the circle of friends:
Huang Ryan circle of friends picture
And caption: Please take pictures of your favorite people
The first thing Huang Ryan did when he got up every day was to look for Luo Ying, and when he couldn't find it, he was in a depressed mood, and after seeing Luo Ying, the corners of his mouth would not stop rising.
Seeing that Luo Ying had to work overtime every day, he quietly bought her a neck rest.
When traveling to the island, you will consider the temperature and weather in advance and prepare a warm blanket for Luo Ying.
The explosion of hormones between the two of them, making the partners around them prostrate their heads.
With the same phone case, with the same stereo, listening to similar songs, as the tacit understanding increased little by little, he knew what the other party wanted to do with one look.
As long as two people stand together, the frequency is right, and there is always a steady sense of happiness.
Huang Ryan knows how to pay silently and express bravely, and there is a middle-aged man's rare straight ball preference in the face of feelings:
I just like her, I don't know why, what reason is it needed to like it?
When there are new female guests chatting with him, Huang Ryan will immediately share the chat content with Luo Ying.
From time to time, she will also send surprises to Luo Ying, showing another side of herself, so that she can understand herself more fully.
Just a few days after knowing each other, the two people began to get along like "old husbands and wives":
Luo Ying worked, huang Ryan lay on her bed silently accompanied, that posture, more comfortable than lying on his own bed.
They were the first pair of lovers to hold hands in the cottage, the first pair of lovers to meet their parents, and Huang Ryan even took Luo Ying to his work place to share his daily life with her.
This efficient speed of love makes people shout directly: where is love, this is a proper married life.
The existence of the Rayleigh CP seems to be to prove that all the misses and waits are for each other's encounters.
In addition to the variety show, the Ruili CP official announced
Write at the end:
What exactly is love?
Among the many answers, the simplest answer of the American psychologist Robert Steinberg is that love is a story.
The best way to understand a couple's thoughts and behaviors is to appreciate their story.
In the story of "Please Answer 1988", Deshan repeatedly affirms his sincerity.
In the end, Aze, who can play straight balls, will not be illuminated by love.
In the story of "Half-Acquainted Lover", Yurik's regret teaches us warmth, Wang Nengneng's counterattack encourages us to be brave, and Huang Ryan's straight ball preference is even more enviable.
May everyone who bravely pursues love reap their own straight ball preferences.