In addition to Valentine's Day in February, there are many days when couples commemorate the "all love" of their romance.
And just in this February full of love flavor, a reporter photographed Chen Yanxi filming "Warm and Sweet", Chen Xiao appeared near the filming location to visit the class.
Maybe she didn't expect her husband to come to visit the class, so that she was too surprised, and Chen Yanxi couldn't help but shake happily when she saw Chen Xiao, which was very cute.
When Chen Xiao saw Chen Yanxi, her husband was full of strength and tightly held Chen Yanxi in his arms, which was very sweet.
After that, Chen Xiao took Chen Yanxi's hand and entered the hotel together, holding a hot water bottle in the other hand, which seemed particularly considerate, really a loving husband.
For the two couples, who have always been low-key, the relationship between Chen Xiao and Chen Yanxi has always been speculated by outsiders.
Because since the two people got married, Chen Yanxi's pure image has been affected by a succession of negative scandals, so that Chen Xiao's fans have a lot of criticism of Chen Yanxi.
Chen Yanxi's previous image to many people is pure and sunny, but her every scandal is discrediting her image.
Chen Yanxi released a solo album in 2013, with a song called "Sorry", which was rumored to have been written for her first boyfriend.
But the ex-boyfriend was later sentenced to 16 years for serious violations of the law, and his character was very bad.
Immediately after being exposed, it was exposed that he and his apprentice Lin Dexin's intimate embrace in Hong Kong and his underground love affair with Ke Youlun were exposed.
On Zheng Yuanchang's birthday, Chen Yanxi made a public ambiguous speech on Weibo and so on.
Even many male actors who have worked with him have had rumors.
There are many scandals, it is inevitable that it will be difficult for uninformed people to distinguish between true and false, and over time it will produce a bad impression.
In addition to the negative scandals, Chen Xiao's fans also pay special attention to Chen Xiao's status.
They have always believed that Chen Xiao was getting more and more unhappy after marrying Chen Yanxi, because Chen Yanxi's scandal made Chen Xiao angry.
Because two people rarely show affection in public, and intimate actions are rare.
Fans also feel that Chen Xiao is not as lively and cheerful as before, and has become more and more calm.
The expressionless look made fans feel that Chen Xiao was becoming more and more cold to Chen Yanxi.
At the time of the most heated discussion, there were also fans who sent a long article analyzing how Chen Xiao was angry with Chen Yanxi to blackface.
Immediately after, the rumors of the marriage of the two people began to spread one after another.
And now after eight years of marriage, Chen Xiao and Chen Yanxi can still be as sweet as newlywed lovers, and the marriage between them is not as simple as outsiders look.
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Discern the two faces of a man in love
Many people who stumble will find a phenomenon that after a couple is officially announced for a period of time, the male will be the same as Chen Xiao, obviously not as active and enthusiastic as before.
Especially men with true temperament and feelings are more hanging on their faces.
Just like in the recent love variety show "Semi-Mature Lovers", the handsome overseas Chinese Huang Ryan is also the same.
When he first started pursuing Luo Ying, he often had a smile on his face.
After gradually determining the relationship, fans found that the smile shifted from Ryan's face to Luo Ying's body, and Ryan was unusually calm.
Some fans even worried that Luo Ying was deceived, denouncing on the Internet, telling Luo Ying to be careful with the other party.
In fact, people like Huang Ryan and Chen Xiao, who are straight and masculine personalities, neglect to manage their own expressions, and when they relax, they have no expression, making people look serious and angry.
When you are nervous, you will have a rich expression and make people look proactive.
Men generally have four states in a relationship.
In the first stage, play the most perfect self, and in the second stage, relax and wander, and gradually reveal the true self;
The third stage reveals the true self and requires the other to adapt, and the fourth stage seeks coexistence.
A man's lack of previous enthusiasm after establishing a relationship is a process of gradually revealing his true self.
Whether two people can get along for a long time mainly depends on whether they can be run-in in the third and fourth stages to the point that both sides can accept it.
A relationship is tight and loose, if it has been tight, both people will be consumed by their own excessive enthusiasm, and always loose, the feelings of the two people will become more and more weak.
Relaxation and moderation, giving each other more understanding and space, is a comfortable relationship.
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The details of the friendship between lovers cannot be hidden
In addition to Chen Xiao's fans have been digging up Chen Xiao's blackface activity photos, speculating that Chen Xiao had a bad life after marriage.
In fact, most of the interactions between Chen Xiao and Chen Yanxi are full of sugar details.
In the husband and wife interview, Chen Xiao and Chen Yanxi kept praising each other, and the rainbow fart continued.
Chen Yanxi praised her husband for being gentle, kind, and filial, while Chen Xiao said that her wife had wisdom, open-mindedness, and courage.
When Chen Yanxi praised him for being considerate and caring for his family, and was a good and good man, Chen Xiao danced happily.
Hearing the praise, the two people also inadvertently hooked each other's fingers with their fingers, and the body language was particularly sweet.
When Chen Xiao was filming, Chen Yanxi would tirelessly take her son Xiaoxing and her in-laws to visit the class.
Mainly to let Chen Xiao feel the love of his family, the happy Chen Xiao took Chen Yanxi every step of the way.
At the end of the year, when he has a lot of leisure time, Chen Xiao will bring Chen Yanxi and his friends to gather, declare his sovereign status in front of outsiders, and chat with his wife in his arms the whole time.
Their way of getting along is not to show love in public, but to give each other the most natural and comfortable way to get along when they get along in private.
Long-term relationships can not just be immersed in high-sugar performances, but it is the advanced law of getting along that can make ordinary life feel happy every day.
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A good parent-child relationship promotes feelings
In many families that can be warm for a long time, one of the most obvious signs is that parents have a high sense of happiness in the parent-child relationship.
Parents who cannot accompany them at all times can get positive energy in briefly accompanying their children and videos, and such couples will have a higher sense of responsibility for the family.
Just like Chen Yanxi took her son to participate in the recording of new songs, Chen Xiao would actively encourage and cheer on the side.
Seeing his wife come to visit the class with her children, she happily showed off everywhere.
Sometimes, there are always moments of cold quarrels between husband and wife because of different opinions.
When neither person wants to bow down to the other, the contradiction is easy to pull longer and longer, and the gap increases.
And because there are children sandwiched between the two, sometimes in order to keep their children from being affected, the two people will temporarily put aside their resentment and let life return to normal.
Sometimes it even accelerates the forgetting of some small contradictions and quickly transitions to normal mode of getting along.
Happy times with children are more likely to infect parents, transmit happy emotions, and over time forget the reasons for quarrels.
For the sake of the child's growth, both parents will make more concessions and further run-in.
Over time, mutual efforts have produced a tacit understanding, and small misunderstandings between each other are not important.
After all, they all see each other's efforts and will work towards a common goal.
Author | Yu Bing graduated from Beijing Normal University majoring in finance, has been engaged in the financial industry, and then transferred to the media industry for 3 years, a domestic and foreign film and television analysis researcher, good at thinking about life from watching dramas, as well as exploring realistic emotional values from the current situation of women's existence at home and abroad, deeply inspiring many women to marry and self-improvement.