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Zhou Guoping wrote in "The Capacity of Love": "Good love has resilience, can be pulled open, and pulled continuously, and the lovers do not bind each other, which is a manifestation of their confidence in love." No one restricts anyone, and in the end no one can do without anyone, which is true love. ”
Maybe men and women have a good feeling for each other, but men always feel that women are not easy to chase, because it is difficult to stir her heart.
In fact, when a woman is more mature, the more she will not be easily moved, because a simple "like" in the adult world actually needs to contain a lot of things.
A woman will consider a lot of things before she moves her heart, and she also has a lot of concerns in her heart, if the man can eliminate the worries in her heart, so that she can let go of herself and slowly fall in love with a man.
And if men want to stir a woman's heart, they need to understand these three points, which are very important.
1, men should know how to give women a sense of security.
In fact, every woman is prone to insecurity, especially before a relationship begins, she will not easily agree to you, it is because she feels insecure, suffers from loss and loss, afraid of paying by mistake, especially she understands that you are not local, then start a relationship, that is, a long-distance relationship, especially insecure, so it will not start easily.
When a man gives a woman a sense of security, so that she does not have too much concern, then she likes you and will try to start with you.
Just like Luo Ying in "Semi-Acquainted Lover", between her and Huang Ryan, the two people have a good feeling for each other, but Luo Ying has not opened herself all, because considering that after the end of the show, Huang Ryan is not in Shanghai, which means that the two people will be in a long-distance relationship, so they feel insecure.
In particular, Luo Ying's previous emotional experience told her that she could not easily fall into it, because her previous feelings were like this, for the sake of the other party, she always gave up everything she had, and went to his city, and finally the other party came to say "We are not suitable", perfunctory.
Therefore, Luo Ying was insecure in her heart. When she and Huang Ryan were eating together, she asked him about this topic and how to deal with the matter of different places, of course, Luo Ying also knew that different places could not be solved in a moment and a half, but she cared more about Huang Ryan's answer.
So Huang Ryan said, "I will come here often, but not because of the work relationship, but I never ask the other party to make changes for me, she just do herself, I try to go." ”
So this sentence comes out, it is very weighty, he can often come to accompany her for Luo Ying, and then try to solve this matter, try to eliminate Luo Ying's concerns, is to give Luo Ying a sense of security.
If a man has just been with you and asks you to give up everything to come to him, it is unreliable, true love, or to maintain a little self. When a man takes the initiative to rush to you, it is the initiative to give you a sense of security.
When you know how to give a woman a sense of security, she will be relieved to give her heart to you.
2, men should take the initiative to pay, and be inclusive of women.
In fact, before women consider accepting a man, they mainly look at the man's character and performance.
A man's character is good, there is a pattern, he will be inclusive of women, if he really loves a woman, he will take the initiative to pay and actively perform.
In fact, women are passive a lot of times, and need a man to take the initiative, so that she will see the man's sincerity, and gradually take the initiative to respond.
Lola in "Half-Acquainted Lover" has not been able to respond to Wang Neng, that is, everything about herself, thinking: If the man she meets is still the same as before, then she will be hurt again.
Women actually need a very inclusive man, so that they feel very happy, and they feel very secure when they feel favored.
Lola didn't respond to Wang Nengneng before, she just didn't know what was in his heart, and when she decided to tell her about her own experience, Wang Nengneng was very tolerant of both words and performances.
He doesn't mind her past, tolerates her children, and will hurt her and resonate with her, so Lola feels that this man is really good to him, so in the future, she will slowly lean towards him.
If a man doesn't know how to be tolerant, hears that she has a child, and leaves immediately, then the woman will be very disappointed.
And a man's tolerance is because he loves her as a person, he will tolerate everything about her, then a woman will be happy with him.
Men want to get a woman's heart, don't chase it too tightly.
In fact, many women are slow heat type, want to get a woman's heart, you must have patience with her, can not be anxious, can not chase too tightly, otherwise, she will feel a sense of oppression, will want to withdraw.
My girlfriend is a girl with this personality, there is a boy who likes her, the two people are blind dated, introduced by the family, and at the beginning, after the boy saw the girlfriend for the first time, he felt moved, so he began to contact her frequently, and the girlfriend was very resistant, and even felt that it was not good to go out to meet many times before he was familiar with it.
Therefore, at that time, the girlfriend thought about giving up, because the man chased too tightly, which made her feel disgusted.
Later she made it clear to him that she was a very slow and hot person, didn't like the pace too fast, if you wanted, we would slowly get along and go with the flow.
So the man also realized, so, following her rhythm, everything was very patient with her, but also respect her ideas, so the girlfriend was touched by his enthusiasm.
In fact, men have patience with women, but also a kind of sincerity, so that she can gradually break the defense of you, accept your confession, and be with you, but you always force her to accept you, and repeatedly ask her what she thinks of you, which will scare women away.
And you have to continue to be good to her, don't be too anxious, be patient, and she will be touched by you.
Men who want to stir a woman's heart also need certain prerequisites and skills. If you understand these three points, then you can most likely get her affirmation and get her sincerity.
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