Recently, he was planted with a love variety show "Semi-Familiar Lover".
Before I read it, I was a little disgusted with it, "Don't be a script again?" A group of unpretentious young men and women were there to tempt and tempt. Say it's love, or reality..."
At first glance, it's on top. People, it still looks like acting, after all, it is a variety show. The "plot" is much more delicate and tangled than the real idol drama. From time to time, a large-scale love scene is staged. Just like the whistling sea breeze, it disturbed the men's and women's well-groomed hairstyles and wrinkled their hearts.
Looking at it in one breath, I have to admit that "love" is still very fascinating even if it is put under the lens to observe, examine and discuss. However, looking back, I feel that everything has traces to follow.
01How long does it take to fall in love with someone?
How long do you think it takes to fall in love with someone?
A psychological study showed that it only takes 0.2 seconds. When you see a very special and exciting opposite sex, the brain will secrete dopamine wildly, making you feel very happy.
In that instant, you'll know you're in love.
But before that, it often brewed for a long time, and some of these standards are conscious, and more are subconscious.
For example, Huang Ryan and Luo Ying.
Two people who have been tumbling in the red dust for nearly 40 years always have a lot to expect from their other half. In Ryan Huang's words, we are actually relatively niche. If you don't look at each other, it's almost impossible to interact with other people. Especially Ryan Huang, even the most lively and outgoing Lola can't talk to him.
However, the two of them together, even if they say very ordinary things, it feels very sweet. You will find that once you meet someone you really love, you will become a master of love. Love and sincerity in themselves are the most moving love words.
"I'm used to finding out where you are every morning as soon as I open my eyes."
"I'll come to Shanghai more in the future, but not for work."
"You were an accident, and I'm unlikely to interact with anyone else if I hadn't met you."
"The camera's camera function is to take pictures of the people you like."
But the most touching thing is the sense of certainty, once the heart is moved, I will not look at other people. He would seek every opportunity to be alone with her. Therefore, in just ten days, the feelings have heated up rapidly.
When they are together, they are like Ruoxi and the fourth master in "Step by Step", often sitting quietly, talking quietly, and looking at each other and smiling from time to time.
Zhou Jinshun's love for Luo Ying is no less than Huang Ruien.com. He always carefully planned every time he spent with Luo Ying. Luo Ying's state when he was with him was obviously more lively. They played naturally and laughed loudly.
Everything looked fine, but Luo Ying never hesitated. Both of them can bring him pleasure, but she prefers Huang Ryan's tone in her bones. And this, she did not realize until she met Huang Ryan.
"I used to think it was okay to find the right person to marry, but now I start to feel that there must be love." 」
For her, Zhou Jinshun is the right person, and Huang Ryan is the one who feels more. And Huang Ryan gave her the feeling of being more of a deep inner attraction, which was unexpected. Looking at it this way, many times, what you think is appropriate may just not meet someone who is really heartwarming.
02How can we stand the test?
Compared with Luo Ying's determination, another "fragrant food" Lola is much more entangled. Lola is the only divorced woman with a child among the female guests.
After she openly admitted that she had children, Wang Nengneng and Yu Yue fell in love with her at the same time, and Wang Yucheng, an Internet engineer who later joined, also expressed his good feelings for her.
One is the business elite who drives Tesla.
One is a genius dentist who uses Maserati as a car.
One is offensive, as he is, tall and tough.
Lola slipped while playing, and he immediately walked over, lowered his head, and naturally wiped the soles of her shoes with his hands.
When Lola was doing things, he was always ready to help.
Lola was bitten by a mosquito, and he immediately took the repellent and patiently applied it.
In the face of other overtures from the opposite sex, he resolutely refused and clearly expressed his heart.
He said: "When I was with Lola, I got a lot of companionship. ”
One is passive.
He would silently follow Lola's every move. When she spoke, he would always listen patiently. Not many words, but every sentence can poke Lola's heart just right. He gave her a feeling that I understand very well with you. In the beginning, Lola had the most feelings for him. As I chatted with him one-on-one, there were noticeably more stars flashing in my eyes.
And later joined Wang Yucheng, this pair of sister-brother love also makes people call sweet.
Such a reality is more difficult than a beautiful love drama. The male one man and the two male three are very good, all are obsessed, and each can meet some needs of the female protagonist. Just like vanilla ice cream and strawberry ice cream are as delicious, many times you can't tell which one you like the most.
How do you decide?
In television, there will always be one special test after another. After experiencing some things, the heroine will slowly figure out what she wants most.
The same is true in reality. Until Lola figured out what she really wanted, she had a hard time deciding. However, most people tend not to be so lucky. It's nice to meet one, let alone two?
Even Lola, if she did not come to the show, she would face such embarrassment.
When Daishan traveled, he talked about why he came to this show. She said: "My circle is too small, and there are many people of the opposite sex who accidentally become brothers. ”
Circle restrictions, and lack of time to reach out to new people, are the reasons why many people are left behind. Encountered, whether it can go on, but it is difficult to say. After all, many problems will only appear in real time.
More critically, it's only after experiencing something that we know what we really want. Until then, the so-called standard was nothing more than a restrictive idea.
03 Where does the spark of love come from?
According to the current development trend, among the 5 girls, only Luo Ying and Lola are expected to get off the list. Tong Yao, Bai Fumei Zhou Nan and Yang Mengjing are more like accompanying runners. Obviously, it is the free love of 10 people, but it becomes a love triangle of 2 people. The Brownian movement of love is also quite dramatic.
When she saw Yang Mengjing, who was stupid and infatuated, carrying a bottle of wine close to Wang Nengneng but was ruthlessly snubbed, her heart couldn't help but twitch.
Love is a double-edged sword, protecting the people you love, and mercilessly stabbing the people you don't love. Even the cold-faced Xue Zhaofeng felt that Wang Nengneng was too cold, but the female observer felt that if Wang Nengneng could do it, she would do so. She thinks so, mostly because as a woman, she hopes that men who like her can do what Wang Nengneng does.
When thinking rationally, we can't help but set one "should or should not" standard for love. When you fall into feelings, many times you are actually emotional.
Especially when I first fell in love, it was extremely exclusive. This is also doomed, in such a large free love shura field, sweetness and heartache are always dependent on each other.
Those who can't ask for it are sad and lost, and those who get what they want are happy. People who are snubbed can't help but have self-doubt, and those who are sought after are inevitably embarrassed. No one is at ease.
However, no matter what, everyone deserves a two-way love. Whether it's sweet or bitter, it's more about fate than whether you're good enough. Whether it is frustration or pride, it is more about whether the person you meet is suitable, without having to worry about whether love really exists.
In the eyes of the social talent Lola, Huang Ryan is a particularly difficult person to communicate, but in front of Luo Ying, his love words naturally pop out from time to time.
Just as loving someone cannot be hidden, it is impossible to pretend to like a person without loving someone. However, as Xue Zhaofeng said, the greatest sorrow of modern people is not that there is no love, but that they do not know what they really want. Moreover, under the brainwashing of mixed information, many people have many misunderstandings about love.
Or feel that only what makes you feel excited is true love. Or feel that there is no true love in this world, but it is just an instant impulse.
More and more people are not even sure if they really need a partner. It is conceivable that there is no expectation of love, and even despair, what kind of attitude will be taken to face the people around you. Not to mention, it's time to face a dilemma.
So, at the end of the day, there are a lot of men on the road, but none of them are women's. There are a lot of women on the road, but none of them are men's. Love is always such a thing that people are both yearning and frightening.
However, looking deeper, whether it is yearning or fear, it is that we have not experienced love well, but just blindly live in our own inherent cognition.
Just like Luo Ying, she realized that she needed love in the show.
Like Lola, she has a lingering feeling for men, always worried that they say and do differently. However, when you really speak your inner feelings, you find that it is not a big deal.
Love sprouts in such moments when vulnerabilities and dreams are allowed to be revealed.
So, how do you find your own spark of love?
Go out the door and get to know more people, open your heart to feel and express, that's all. It's not something that happens overnight. Allow yourself to experience it, and you may find it. Because of choking and forgetting to eat, you can only lose your arms.
In the new year, for love, is your mind open or closed?