When attending the wedding ceremony, we can often hear many blessings, such as wishing the new couple a hundred years of good union, white heads and old age, eternal knots and so on.
Some men also swear at weddings that they will spoil their wives for the rest of their lives.
But so many beautiful words, saying them does not mean that they can all be fulfilled.
In a relationship, women can often hear all kinds of sweet words, if it is not the right occasion, they also think that the lover is saying the wedding confession.
However, when it comes to talking about marriage, there are many obstacles, and some men love their lovers as deeply as they say.
Let's take a look at what a "fruitless" love affair looks like nine times out of ten:
1, both parents do not agree to the two together, one of the parties is not firm enough about the feelings
Xiao Pan is 29 years old this year, and a month ago, Xiao Pan proposed to her boyfriend to break up. There are actually many reasons, among which the boyfriend's attitude towards this relationship is the most chilling to Xiao Pan.
Xiao Pan and her ex-boyfriend have been together for more than three years, and the other party has said countless times that he will be responsible for Xiao Pan and will marry Xiao Pan as a wife.
So even if his parents did not support the two of them in love, Xiao Pan still did not give up.
The ex-boyfriend's family is very bad, Xiao Pan has been to many times, each time left a deep impression on her, such as Xiao Pan wants to buy a brand-name bag, the ex-boyfriend's parents will say on the side whose daughter-in-law is a loser, whose daughter-in-law will live a life and so on.
Xiao Pan knew in his heart that those words were all said to himself.
Especially the boyfriend's parents, many times to the boyfriend to introduce the girl to know, the boyfriend in order not to make the parents sad, but also agreed.
Xiao Pan endured for too long, and finally decided to give up, after all, love needs to be reciprocal, although he also loves his parents, but on the issue of principle, he did not give in the slightest, and his boyfriend did not do this, which made Xiao Pan feel like a joke.
I believe that most parents want their children to live happily.
Therefore, some parents will set up a lot of tests after seeing their child's lover to determine whether that person is suitable for their children.
It's just that people are thoughtful, and when they fall in love with someone, the opinions of their parents are often less important.
After all, love is a matter for two people, not a matter for two families.
But if the person you like is not firm in attitude, and even does something that disgusts you, such as other women's ambiguity, you should give up or give up, so as not to be hurt more deeply later.
2, long-distance love, both are not ready to give up work
The 26-year-old Xiao Bao and her boyfriend have been in love for more than 4 years, the other party is more than 3 years older than her, and she is about to run for three years, and the family urges marriage to be strong.
Xiao Bao is very satisfied with his current job and is not ready to leave. Her boyfriend thinks the same way, so she hopes that Xiao Bao can sacrifice it.
The other party felt that Xiao Bao was also going to resign after marriage, and it was better to live in his city now, and the two people had quarreled many times on this topic.
After each quarrel, Xiao Bao was very uncomfortable inside, but he couldn't give up this relationship.
Long-distance relationships are already very tiring, Xiao Bao knows that the two are mostly fruitless, but still want to wait. Because she still has feelings for her boyfriend, after all, four years is really a long time, and she doesn't want to look back on it later with regrets.
Long-distance relationships can easily make two lovers in love become strangers, and every time they meet, they find that many things of each other are no longer familiar to themselves, and that feeling is still very unpleasant.
If two people are not ready to give up their jobs for each other, they are always in a long-distance relationship, and most of them will not have a good result.
But people are selfish, as long as the people they like do not do anything to betray themselves, do not let themselves completely disappointed, will not always think of breaking up, maybe there will be accidents.
Therefore, even if you know that there is no result, you will still think of waiting, and there is nothing wrong with this mentality.
It is a pity that only for a person who is mostly not his own, and wastes his best time.
3, like each other, but the three views are not in line
Xiaoqin is 27 years old, she and her boyfriend met during college, the two people are in the same club, from time to time there is some communication, come and go together.
After getting along for a long time, Xiaoqin found that there were many shortcomings in her boyfriend, such as being too sloppy and self-righteous.
Two people will quarrel because of a certain plot in the movie, but also because of what to eat at night, Xiaoqin can't count how many times she has quarreled with her boyfriend.
But the two also have some harmonious days, and the feeling that Xiaoqin and her boyfriend feel together is that they are in pain and happy.
Xiao Qin can rarely maintain a peaceful state of mind, if she is a cannonball, then her boyfriend is a match.
When the boyfriend proposed the request for marriage, Xiaoqin rarely hesitated, she felt that the three views of the two people did not match at all, this situation lived together, every day will be chicken flying dog jump, and finally Xiaoqin chose to let go.
Two people with three incompatible views will encounter countless problems when they fall in love together.
A girl on the Internet once shared a conversation with her boyfriend, and she said that she liked the sea very much, because the sea seemed to be able to tolerate all grievances. But the boyfriend next to her said that more people drowned in the sea than her age. Suddenly, she wasn't ready to say anything.
So is the three views incompatible doomed to not being able to play together? In fact, it is not, but after a long time, it is inevitable that there will be a large contradiction, and when no one can convince anyone, it is easy to affect feelings.
In this state, two people insist on falling in love, and nine times out of ten there will be no results. After all, love is simpler than marriage, and after marriage, in the face of bigger things, two people can no longer reach a consensus, which will affect the relationship between husband and wife.
epilogue:
Everyone is responsible for the decisions they make, knowing that the love is fruitless, or insisting on it, somewhat "don't hit the south wall and don't look back" posture.
When you can't make a decision, you can ask your heart, if you are very entangled, do not want to let go, just go with the flow, time will give the answer.
But we also need to know that a good relationship will make a person more excellent and happier.
There is nothing to look in the mirror, flip through the previous selfies in the phone, if you find that after you are in love, you have become less like yourself, you suffer from loss and loss every day, and your face is also haggard, which can explain a lot of problems.
Hopefully, we all meet the right people and become more positive.
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