From a man's point of view, I summarized with you that there are generally the following four situations, and your ex-boyfriend may find you to compound.
The first: After the breakup, he contacted other new people, but in comparison, he found that you were better.
This point does not need me to emphasize more, if after you break up, he met a new partner who is better than you in all aspects, and he likes his new love, then he will most likely not come back to you, this is very understandable, such as after the breakup, if Peng Yuyan and Wu Yanzu come to confess to you at the same time, then you must be entangled in which is better to choose, how can you still consider whether to reunite with your ex?
So it's the same for men to fall in love, after a breakup, he will contact new people, but for a period of time, if the optional objects around him are not as good as you, then he will not easily disconnect from you, and even after the breakup, he will still maintain a friendly relationship, just to leave opportunities for himself at any time.
The second one: After the breakup, he was frustrated outside, experienced a lot of things, figured it out, and looked at things more maturely.
It is said that men mature later than women, it is true, some men will continue to reflect after breaking up with you, and even analyze their own problems in this relationship, after all, when you are together, he is dominated by emotion, so when considering the problem, he is more considering his own feelings.
After breaking up with you, he may have experienced several fast food relationships, or encountered some major setbacks, so that he has a new understanding and understanding of himself, so he thought of the time when he was with you before, and also realized that he had some problems in his previous relationship, and it was not simply your fault, so he came back to you.
For example, I had a friend before, her boyfriend talked about a new relationship after breaking up with her, but it didn't take long to come back to her, the reason is because her ex-boyfriend suddenly opened up, saying that he was too immature to cherish her good, so now he wants to start over with her.
Third: Your emotional value is particularly high, and he wants to continue to get that emotional value, so go back.
As I said before, the essence of the choice between the sexes is value exchange, you can bring value to the other party, and this value is irreplaceable by others, then he will be mentally inseparable from you.
For example, if you have provided the other party with a very pleasant emotional experience in the past and met his long-missing emotional needs, then when he returns to a single state, it will be difficult to adapt to a person's life, and if in the short term, he can't find a substitute, or he finds that no one can replace you and continue to meet his emotional needs, he will come back to you.
So why did he come back to you, and why did you have to? The deep reason must be because the state you present to the other person is what he needs most at the moment, and no one else can replace it.
Fourth: In the relationship with you, the sunk cost he invested was too high, and out of consideration for reality, he felt that your value was higher, so he turned back.
To put it simply, in the early stage of getting along with you, he paid too much money, emotion and time, he can't give up the cost he has already paid, and compared to spending time, money, and energy to pursue a new joy, he feels that it is more realistic and cost-effective to reunite with you.
Usually in this case, your breakup is generally not a matter of principle, most of them can be resolved, so he will feel that the cost of compounding with you is less than the cost of pursuing a new love.
After all, people die for money, birds die for food, this "wealth" not only refers to material benefits, but also emotional interests, so he chooses to turn back and reunite with you, but it is based on the optimal choice in a rational state, because he thinks that it will be better to be with you, and losing you will make him lose a lot, then he is bound to not end this relationship easily.
So got it? If you satisfy any of the above four points, or all four are satisfied, the other party will come to you to compound, but if not, it is nothing more than two reasons, either he has a more valuable woman outside, or he can't control you.
Psychological test: Test the sentence your ex most wants to say to you
1. Do you argue over small things when you're together?
Yes, I often feel tired —2
Rarely quarrel over small things—2
Occasionally, but soon reconciled —3
2. Do you think you are a person who likes to self-reflect and is willing to correct mistakes?
Yes —3
Not —4
3. Will he or she take the initiative to tell you his troubles?
It is often said that -5
Not much to say —4
4. Would you tell your parents about the process of your relationship?
Everything is too big or small, and I often complain to my parents -6
Occasionally they ask and say —5
Hardly to say, nothing to say —5
5. Faced with what you want, how much energy are you willing to put into acquiring it?
Everything follows fate, and it is mine in the end--7
Try hard, maybe you can succeed - 6
Do my best, I want to get --B
6. Did you break up because of a third party?
Yes—A
No —7
7. Did the other party take the initiative to contact you after the breakup?
Yes—D
No—C