Many people think that men propose to break up because they don't love, but in fact, adult love has so much love and no love.
According to my years of experience, the reason why most men will propose to break up is not because they don't love, but because they feel uncomfortable in their feelings, for example, you always quarrel because of some trivial things, and he doesn't want to face your unreasonable teasing all the time, don't want to always argue with you, there is no way, you can only choose to use the breakup to solve all problems.
So don't think that men mention breaking up, just don't love you, or have a new love, want to reunite with each other is not as difficult as you think, most of the breakups can be recovered, but you did not succeed, because you do not understand the psychological state of men, and you complicate simple things.
If you can understand the real psychological changes of boys after the breakup, then you can grasp the best time for two people to reunite, so today, I will talk to you about the four psychological stages that men must go through after breaking up:
Don't think that when you just break up, the boy will be as depressed and depressed as you, and it is impossible to think about tea! The boy will only feel that he is finally out of the sea of suffering, do not have to be managed by his girlfriend, and do not have to argue with his girlfriend, at this time he is full of words: I am free.
He wants to go out and drink, play games when he wants to play games, do whatever he wants, just like a wild horse that is out of control, and girls are completely different performances, so at this time he will not think about compound things at all, he is now eager to get out of this relationship, the pursuit of freedom, whatever you want If you go to talk to him at this time, he will not only ignore you, but also cause him to fiercely resist.
In fact, many girls do not know that most boys will have an inexplicable sense of guilt in their hearts after proposing to break up, because he feels that he has failed your feelings for him and does not know how to face you, so at this time, he will choose to use an evasive attitude to cut off contact and contact with you.
In the face of this situation, the average girl will be very anxious, and even pestering the boy after the breakup, asking the other party why they are breaking up, whether they can get back together, and even questioning each other, is there someone outside. In short, it is to keep asking questions and trying to find specific reasons to break up.
But friends, you have all broken up, think about it in a different position, others are pestering you all day long, are you bothered? So don't ask the other party why you want to delete and block you, think for yourself, are you forcing it?
At this time, men will feel the emptiness and loneliness of a person, especially when he has enjoyed the good time of being single and has not entered a new relationship for a long time, then he will definitely enter a stage of inadaptability.
At this stage, he will begin to think back to the good times when he was with you, and will also begin to recall your kindness to him, which is well understood, because everyone has needs, all need to be loved and cared for, so once there is no sense of belonging and love, he will definitely feel empty and lonely.
Because he felt empty and lonely in the previous stage, many boys will begin to seek the next relationship, find a spiritual dependence and emotional sustenance, but do not worry too much, because the process of finding a new love is not so easy, and in a short period of time, it is difficult for boys to find a very satisfactory new love, unless he has never loved you at all.
Therefore, most boys will be more willing to consider whether to reunite with their ex at this stage.
Because of this stage, the boy's state has also been relatively sober, he does not hate you as much as the second stage, nor misses you as much as the third stage, but will begin to combine realistic considerations to determine the next emotional direction.
He will pay attention to your circle of friends and space dynamics, give you a thumbs up from time to time, and sometimes have some interaction with you. But don't think that's the signal that he's proposing to you to compound, it's just that he's testing you, on the one hand they want to get back together with you, but on the other hand, he doesn't want to repeat the same mistakes, so they'll start to observe you, see your social dynamics, and even talk to you.
This stage is very important, because if you use it well, then there is a great chance that you can repair your feelings, see?
Psychological test: Test the sentence your ex most wants to say to you
1. Do you argue over small things when you're together?
Yes, I often feel tired —2
Rarely quarrel over small things—2
Occasionally, but soon reconciled —3
2. Do you think you are a person who likes to self-reflect and is willing to correct mistakes?
Yes —3
Not —4
3. Will he or she take the initiative to tell you his troubles?
It is often said that -5
Not much to say —4
4. Would you tell your parents about the process of your relationship?
Everything is too big or small, and I often complain to my parents -6
Occasionally they ask and say —5
Hardly to say, nothing to say —5
5. Faced with what you want, how much energy are you willing to put into acquiring it?
Everything follows fate, and it is mine in the end--7
Try hard, maybe you can succeed - 6
Do my best, I want to get --B
6. Did you break up because of a third party?
Yes—A
No —7
7. Did the other party take the initiative to contact you after the breakup?
Yes—D
No—C