Men must understand that there is a truth in love:
Men can't forget a woman, nothing more than these 2 points of "commonality".
Many men think that two people once loved each other so much, went shopping together, ate together, promised the future together, and spent countless sleepless nights together, these are "precious memories", which can "forget and forget".
However, the truth you don't know is that "forgetting" is actually a false proposition in feelings. People's greed is actually much greater than you think.
Therefore, after the beloved woman leaves, the man will be sad and want to let go in his heart, but it is difficult to put it into action.
Whenever the feelings reach this point, it is the man who has trapped himself in the past and cannot completely escape.
At this time, some men regard this "stupid obsession" as love.
Thinking that it is love makes the other party irreplaceable; thinking that it is love, he cannot forget her.
But is this really the case?
The answer must be no, because from a psychological and emotional point of view, when you can't let go of a woman, it's often because of love.
Well, I, who have been engaged in emotional counseling for many years, will tell you the real reason:
01. "Withdrawal reaction" is causing trouble
In feelings, this situation often happens.
In an irreparable relationship, men often know that the relationship has broken down and they should let go, but they can't get out of the sweet memories.
Every time I wanted to put it down, I felt that her figure was constantly haunting, making it particularly difficult for her to calm her heart.
Men who have smoked understand that this feeling is like a very addicted to smoking, they know that smoking is harmful to the body, and they also know that they are good for themselves and their families after quitting, but they can't control the hand that holds the cigarette.
A similar phenomenon, known in medicine as a "withdrawal reaction", refers to: "a special psychological reaction that occurs after abrupt discontinuation of the drug or reduction of the dose of the drug occupies the receptor".
If you put it in a relationship, it is the psychological discomfort that arises when you suddenly lose someone after getting used to her company.
The point is: although this withdrawal reaction is a feeling of adaptation, it can greatly interfere with a man's emotions, thus affecting his normal life.
After all, losing a person's company, even men need a period of time to heal themselves.
Only men, accustomed to this time without each other, can survive the "withdrawal" reaction, which is a kind of suffering that ordinary people must experience after the breakup.
02. "Sunk cost" is at work
I need to explain first, what is the "sunk cost"?
To put it simply: when you have to give up something or a person, the first consideration is not the matter or whether the person is worth giving up on yourself; but how much you have invested in the matter.
And these irrevocable expenditures and cost inputs, such as: time, money, energy, etc., we collectively call them "sunk costs".
And this irreparable payment, placed in the feelings, has become the "reluctance" of some people.
When a man pays a lot in the process of love in order to pursue a woman, he will be reluctant to let go of the other party because he is reluctant to pay what he once paid.
For example, many women hope to bind men through sky-high bride price, so that even if they are unreasonable after marriage, men do not dare to easily mention divorce, because men are reluctant to pay the huge bride price they have paid.
Although women know that this reluctance is not because of love, but because of unwillingness, it can at least help herself control the man and his family.
Therefore, sometimes men can't forget a woman, really don't necessarily love each other, and may not be willing to put in their own investment, in fact, they are not willing to be weird.
And some women desperately ask for a bride price to get married, which is actually the standard performance of the "sunk cost" effect.
After summarizing the reasons above, I will talk about how to completely forget a person.
How to completely let go of a person?
No matter which of the above reasons a man cannot let go of that she, he must understand:
"The best way to forget a relationship is time and new love.
As the saying goes, "What can be changed, we must also accept what cannot be changed." "Living a good life in the moment is the best choice.
If time and new love can't make you forget that her, then there are two reasons: time is not long enough, and new love is not good enough. ”
Time can both help you get out of the "withdrawal reaction" and help you eliminate the "sunk cost". When you get used to life without each other, it is equivalent to getting out of the haze of lost love.
Whether you use time to heal yourself or rely on Xinhuan to heal yourself, it will take a long time.
After all, people who have really loved, or who have really invested, cannot be easily erased.
At the same time, men must understand that the matter of feelings cannot be promoted by the efforts of one person, of course, it is not easy to put it down easily.
You need to constantly warn yourself that the past has been turned over, that the lovers of the past can no longer turn back, and that you do not need to use the name of love to make yourself depressed again.
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