Young girls often ask me: How can I make men love me more?
If you feel that the man you love deeply does not love you enough, then this article hopes that you will read it carefully, and I believe it will definitely inspire you.
He has the ability to love you more, but he doesn't want to
First of all, you have to understand that "men love you more" is a matter of will, not ability.
Whether the man has money or not, whether he is introverted or extroverted, he does not lack the ability to love you more, what he lacks is the will to love you more.
Even if a man has no money, as long as he is willing to love you more, he will use his own way to treat you as much as possible within the scope of his ability. For example, taking care of you when you are sick, comforting you when you are sad, sending you an umbrella on a rainy day, and so on.
He has the ability to love you more, but he doesn't want to. Tie your heart!
So, what you have to figure out is: how can you make him willing to love you more?
Here are 2 ways of thinking to solve the problem of his will.
The first is that you become a more attractive person and make him obsessed with you
When you improve yourself, grow yourself, in the process of becoming better, more attractive, more valuable, you will exude attraction, you will attract a lot of men who love, you will also have the belief that "I am more worthy of being loved", which is very charming.
This is an inward seeking.
The second is to ask outward.
You have to understand why he doesn't want to love you more. Why?
Most likely, his needs were not being met.
Then all you have to do is meet the needs of that man. You have to act, right?
A common man, he always has seven passions and six desires, there are always some things he wants, if his needs are met, he still wants to continue to be satisfied, then he will satisfy you in turn.
For example, he is a foodie, he likes your cooking, then you cook him a delicious dish, if he wants to continue to eat your cooking, then he must be good to you, otherwise you will not continue to cook for him.
So, figure out what he wants, and then you go with the flow and give him what he wants.
Second, if you learn too many tricks and means, you will lose the really good man
I don't know if anyone has taught you some "love skills", how to adjust men, how to play some small tricks in the relationship, such as smart women will not make men too secure, to maintain a sense of mystery, freshness.
There are also some that teach you "actual combat", such as men's information can not be returned in seconds, to return at intervals, men's dating, can not be promised every time, to create their own very popular, there are signs that others chase, can not be too enthusiastic about men, otherwise he will not cherish you.
I have such a girl around me, but unfortunately, it is precisely these "tricks" of her that make her lose the object of being very good and excellent and loving him.
Xiao Tong is a girl with small hair, very cheerful and very righteous, and her boyfriend chased her for months before she agreed. The boyfriend is in good condition, elegant in temperament, looks a bit like a Korean idol, and is very sunny and handsome.
Unfortunately, they were only together for about half a year, and the man proposed to break up, saying that the two were not suitable.
On the day of the breakup, she cried so hard that she couldn't understand why she was being broken up.
Later, I met Xiaotong's ex-boyfriend, and I didn't want to pay attention to him, because I thought he had failed Xiaotong and was a scumbag. I didn't expect him to come and greet me, and I really couldn't avoid it.
I was a little angry and asked him, why did he mention breaking up, Xiao Tong was such a good girl, why did she not cherish it when she got it?
He saw that I was a little angry, so he said what he said in his heart:
Xiao Tongren is indeed very good, but in her feelings, there are too many intentions and means that should not be had, and it is not a little interesting to use these routines on me. For example, she would deliberately not answer my phone, deliberately give me a hot and cold time, and sometimes deliberately make a promise to release my pigeons.
I felt like I was being toyed with by her like a clown. I also made this clear to her when we broke up, and she said that she was just afraid that I wouldn't cherish her. To be honest, it saddened me because it showed that she didn't trust my character, and she had preconceived notions about me and some scum.
It is true that some men are like this, you deliberately ignore him, deliberately hang him, he will fart and turn to you better. But what kind of goods are such men? Most of these men are licking dogs and scumbags!
She used the means and eyes to deal with these inferior men on me, and I couldn't accept it. If your lover deliberately does not answer your phone, deliberately plays missing, deliberately releases your pigeons, is hot and cold to you, makes you suffer from loss and anxiety, how do you feel?
After listening to Xiao Tong's ex-boyfriend's words, I was silent. Heck, Kirito really lost a good man.
This remark of Xiao Tong's ex-boyfriend touched me greatly.
Women always have this misunderstanding, thinking that those careful and small means can improve their status in the minds of men, so they spend all day thinking about these "imperial arts".
However, if you want a man to love you more and more, it is useless to rely on these crooked ways. At most, the first few times have worked.
However, for those men who really have a pattern and a broad mind, mature and wise, he knows exactly what calculations you have in mind, and these tricks of yours will only make him recognize you more quickly, and when he knows that you are a woman with a shallow pattern, he will not hesitate to leave you.
Women with foresight should spend their time and energy on themselves, rather than learning a bunch of side doors and left ways, to fight with those bad men.
Now, back to the 2 strategies I mentioned at the beginning to make men love you more.
Third, ask inwardly and outwardly, which one do you choose?
You go to meet his needs, all day to ponder whether he loves you or not, pay attention to his preferences, this is the fight for probability, need luck. Because every man is different, his point of need is different, and then what if you meet a man who only enjoys your efforts but is not willing to pay for you? You're most likely going to pay for it by mistake.
Therefore, women, we must seek inward, create their own world, love themselves a little more, enhance their core values, and never be wrong.
Asking outward is a strategy of relying on others, which may lose yourself and make your bamboo basket empty. Seeking inward is to create your own world and a strategy to stick to yourself.
And a woman with an ego will not put most of her mind on whether to return the man's message in seconds.
If in your world, there are only men, you look forward to him every day to come to you, expect him to love you, and wait until you wait and deliberately ignore him, why are you so screwed? Isn't that uncomfortable?
This kind of love, which is maintained by heart and means, is ridiculous. If your love requires you to use these eyes to preserve freshness and maintain mystery, it is really sad.
Frankly to love, down-to-earth to pay, the heart and eyes and means in a short period of time has a certain role, but it can not be long- and will also let you lower your own pattern.
Author's profile: Wen Xiu Muzi (the same name on the whole network), psychological counselor, personal emotional coach, focus on marriage crisis intervention, marriage and love guidance, psychological and emotional practical dry goods sharing, gentle and firm, and convey the concept of powerful marriage and love with heart. If you are emotionally confused, you can leave me a message and I will reply to you as much as possible.