When "Ode to Joy 3" first started, I was always annoyed about how He Yihong did this, but along the way to the finale, my mentality gradually changed to "I also want to see what behavior Ms. He can do that is different from ordinary people's brain circuits".
When it came to "Ode to Joy 4", I actually began to worry about Ho Yihong. She fell into the pit and fell into the pit again!!! It may be because of this pit, many girls will step on:
Heaven descended from the sky to be rich and handsome (regardless of whether he is a pig-killing plate or not), are you really not moved?
Encouraging PUA, dedicated to clean high women?
As soon as "Ode to Joy 4" began, Ho Yihong finally managed to do his work as expected. And at this time, Qi Mu, a divorced, somewhat rich, good career, and good-looking male friend of Sister Zhu, one of 2202's good roommates, began to extend his dog's paw to He Yihong.
This time, I really don't blame Ho Yihong. Not to mention, there are still mature men with two brushes, and the following routines are really difficult to bear for the average young girl who has just graduated. After the divorced man added VX, he first grasped the compliments of the key points, and then a series of subwoofer + bubble tone recommendation work.
For rookies in the workplace who have just entered the society, this temptation to be affirmed for work ability and recommended for job opportunities by people is really super great, and there is a sense of satisfaction from standing in the C position to shine.
Then he crossed the middleman and asked his little sister to talk in a very cultural café. While showing off coffee knowledge, he showed off his cultural confidence. Zhang Huiwen's soft and cute face really looks very good (crossed out).
Insert a sentence, Jing Chao, how are you again, how are you swaggering and cheating in the play with an elite face.
In addition to showing the high-quality male style of human beings, he taught his little sister how to revise the public relations draft. This kind of calmness of saying (good) (for) having (people) things (teachers) is often very useful for little girls.
When life is at a loss, a man who is above average in all aspects appears, affirms his ability to work, calms his mental state, cares about his food, clothing, housing and transportation, and gives some clear-sounding suggestions for his future.
Even if he is not a destined husband, he is at least a nobleman.
I felt that I had finally pulled up a good confidant's little sister, and quickly shook my social circle, work status, and interpersonal contacts with this man. But the mature man who knew that the little sister was not right here and there was not right did not directly point out the mistake, but began to kill:
It's not entirely your fault, you have to discover your strengths. Carefully taste the words of the divorced man, or it is very logical——
You make colleagues unhappy because of work mistakes, this is a group phenomenon of newcomers in the workplace, not unique to you; You hit nails everywhere in your relationships because you have an attachment to morality; I admire you because none of those mistakes came from you.
And I, I admire your purity, integrity, and uncleaned out of the mud, and I want to believe you.
The little sister is in trouble, and the mature man sends his own lawyer to help; The little sister has no job, and the mature man asks her if she wants to come to her side store to work part-time.
This set of combination punches takes care of the woman's self-esteem, emotions, needs and IQ, will there really be a little girl who is not moved at all!
The lethality of encouraging PUA is much higher than that of demeaning PUA. The lower limit of self-esteem of many only daughters is relatively high, so they will not be discouraged by the number of two sentences, but after being counted down by others in two sentences, it is difficult not to be recruited when they encounter an all-round warmth.
The point is, the words of encouraging PUA often really sound very reasonable. So, as the sisters around He Yihong, how did they see the tricks?
22nd floor battle plan
Between girls and girls, there is a social relationship that only girls can understand: if you find that the other party is suspected of encountering a scumbag, even if it is a relationship that you don't usually deal with, you will keep an extra eye for her.
This unwritten rule is like meeting a strange girl and asking if she has a sanitary napkin, as long as she has it on herself, she will definitely take a piece to the other party.
Yu Chuhui, who has been chattering with He Yihong since the last season, directly added He Yihong VX when he learned that Qi Mu met for the first time, and bypassed the middleman Zhu Zhe to send a job invitation to He Yihong, and began to tofu heart to remind He Yihong:
Seeing the courier from He Yihong's home, take advantage of her unprepared to take a picture of the contact information, in case of emergency, you can contact her family in time.
When Dr. Hao Hao, who had been in contact with enough high-end people, and Sister Zhu, who knew Qi Mu well, were present, Ah Chu also put forward his own conjecture, letting the two sisters judge whether they thought too much or knocked He Yihong more if necessary.
Ye Hao Hao, who seemed to remain absolutely neutral, gave He Yihong the opposite advice to Qi Mu - if he refused to communicate with others because of unsmooth interpersonal communication, it would make people very passive.
From the reactions of the sisters, the following points can be analyzed:
1. If a man who looks like a high-quality man praises you and does not directly reveal what he expects and needs, but first sets your trust, the mentality is very suspicious.
2. If a divorced man is in a hurry to remarry, but does not disclose why he is in a hurry to remarry, but puts on a romantic tendency with high humanistic attributes, this idea is inconsistent.
3. His entry point into your life is to be a life mentor, and he intends to support you to leave work and disconnect from relationships, then the authenticity of his other suggestions should also be discounted.
The sisters on the 22nd floor, although they could not bypass Qi Mu's output and directly influence He Yihong's thinking, but they gave us a lot of valuable suggestions to the audience.
There is an old saying that wealth is not revealed in vain. When a successful man deliberately wants to show his white in front of you, even if he is Jack Horse or the father of penguins, think about why he has to show his hand in front of you.
Although for people like He Yihong who are addicted to the spiritual world and can't extricate themselves, oil and salt are the essence of life, but the mutual maintenance between girls is natural, even if the other party does not listen, their own words have been brought to them, it can be regarded as a clear conscience.
The law of sending warmth to sisters
Different from the opening methods of the first and second seasons, the third and fourth seasons of "Ode to Joy" are more likely to be encountered by ordinary people, and they are more in line with the definition of social distance of contemporary people.
In a big city, you may live under the same roof with people who do not know their roots and are not related by blood, eat and drink together, see each other's plain appearance, and even spy on each other's life circle.
But when it comes to the field of "private affairs", most people will choose to carefully withdraw their hands and feet, for fear of touching the bottom line of others and causing everyone to be unhappy. Even if you know something, you won't actively cross the line.
The existence of He Yihong is only a more extreme representative of the 22nd floor ecosystem, but it is also her existence that embodies some basic principles in the principle of sister socialization:
If she is as gentle and perceptive as Sister Zhu, she will talk carefully when she has questions, listen to everyone's opinions, and make the best choice from them, and she will be very happy for her as a friend; If it is like Lucy, strong ability, will not take the initiative to ask for people, and acts safely enough, then waiting until she takes the initiative to discuss is the best choice.
Yu Chuhui, a little girl with sharp teeth and sharp mouth, but knows that there is something to say, when she throws out the big problem of the century that the scumbag father is difficult, the sisters will analyze which solution is the most feasible for her one by one like a night talk around the fire.
Other times, I don't give advice at will, and many children who grow up in chaotic families have stronger personalities.
And He Yihong, even if you find a lot of solutions for her, she still has to pick and choose from them, find the one that best suits her three views, then don't care whether she will definitely choose your solution, just tell her that there is such a solution.
Many times between neighbors, friends, and relatives, the two kinds of people who "remember to eat or not to fight" and "can't tell the difference between good people" are always more speechless than pure villains and pure fools, but in most cases, the most likely to encounter is this kind of occasional brain and emotional intelligence out of line, and other times can remain normal.
They often don't know how to take the initiative to ask for help, finally open their mouths, and express their own needs that they don't understand; I expressed my needs, and I couldn't figure out whether to listen to your advice. Many people will also feel very embarrassed in the face of this situation -
If you don't help him, it feels morally unreasonable, and when you really get into big trouble, you will have to come and ask yourself; To help him, but it is difficult to actually help the other party.
Like Ah Chu and Sister Zhu, they all thought of many ways to keep He Yihong's job, but as a result, He Yihong did not adopt a single opinion, not only naked but also ugly. Later, the company said whether it could let her settle the dispute and was willing to give money, but she did not accept the price negotiated by her roommates.
Although annoying, please remember that with the help of neighbors and friends, you will never be the savior of the other party, so don't put too much psychological pressure on yourself, and feel that the other party can't help but be annoyed if they don't adopt their opinions.
The other party will not fall directly into the abyss because you don't help, nor will he turn his whole life around because he helped once.
If everyone is quiet and peaceful together, it is naturally best; If there is a spirit that jumps off, sometimes the spearhead inward, sometimes the spearhead outward, then there is no need to rush ahead of her and shield her from the wind and rain, but when she is about to fall off the cliff, pull a hand.
Sister E's epilogue
In reality, most smart girlfriends will not manage their lives like He Yihong, although we can't help but say two words when we look at her, but more often they remind themselves not to do the same stupid things.
After all, there are too few people who can have mines at home like Ye Hao Hao and can freely avoid worldly troubles through wealth.
For people who neither break the jar and break it, nor have the ability to sweep everything with a banknote, it is more practical to learn how to face emotionally unstable people and keep themselves from being taken astray.
Ode to Joy 4 currently looks a lot like a book of answers. Although the story of the new Wumei does not provide guiding opinions, it provides a lot of ideas for solving problems, especially those that can solve things with less money.
But I have to ask a question, does Dou Xiao get this color shade, does it mean that he will maintain this skin tone with contouring in the future? Every shot he appears in can set off Jiang Shuying to the point of reflection.
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