Love miscarriage 2 times a year, only to learn that the boyfriend is a "scumbag": a woman's marriage, can not tolerate children's play

Wen | Purple Leaf Girl

Xi Murong once wrote in "Transparent Sorrow":

"Happy love is a kind of appearance, while unhappy love has its own causes, the most common of which are two reasons: too early, or too late."

Meeting too early and understanding too late is the main reason why love fails, why say so? Because, today's young people are too open to falling in love, they have known each other for a few days, they don't even have a marriage license, and they have learned to "roll the sheets".

Elders often say that marriage, can not tolerate children's play, love is the same, young people in love, most of them are too blind, completely by feeling together, like to be together, there are contradictions to break up, but forget the phrase "see people's hearts for a long time". Just by feeling together, and ignoring each other's character, girls prematurely "agree with each other" in the way of love, will eventually lose very badly.

23-year-old Lu Qi (pseudonym), beautiful looking, family wealth, a year ago, after graduating from college, she met her boyfriend Yang Ming (pseudonym) who was 6 years older than her on the dating software, and the two did not know each other for a long time, and then fell in love and became a couple.

Lu Qi's family lives in Yueyang, boyfriend Yang Ming's family lives in Changsha, during the love, Yang Ming claimed that his family was a levy household, compensated four suites, even so, Lu Qi's family conditions are still much better than Yang Ming.

Because the family conditions of both sides are good, Lu Qi has no intention of engaging in work, considering starting a business together, and letting her boyfriend Yang Ming open a restaurant; after a year of love, just when Lu Qi is ready to entrust her life and marry Yang Ming, there are strange women appearing one after another to persuade Lu Qi and her boyfriend Yang Ming to break up, so what is the matter?

For the strange woman's call, aroused Lu Qi's curiosity, so Lu Qi added the other party's WeChat through the mobile phone number, and under some questioning, Lu Qi got something that made her both angry and shocked.

It turned out that the strange women who repeatedly advised Lu Qi, one of whom was the ex-girlfriend of her boyfriend Yang Ming, named Li Wenli (pseudonym), told Lu Qi not to believe any sweet words from Yang Ming, she fell in love with Yang Ming, and was killed by Yang Ming.

Li Wenli told Lu Qi that Yang Ming let her borrow a sum of money online, looking for him many times, Yang Ming was unwilling to repay, and secondly, Yang Ming also stepped on more job hopping, claiming that "Yang Ming opened a house with others, also bought contraceptives, a lot of relationships, unclear,"

More importantly, Yang Ming was married, divorced, and had a daughter.

At first, Lu Qi did not believe much, after all, Li Wenli was an ex-girlfriend, worried that the other party was a love enemy, was for an ulterior motive, and wanted to break up the two of them.

However, under Li Wenli's kind reminder and patient persuasion, Lu Qi personally investigated, and sure enough, what Li Wenli said was true.

In love for a year, Yang Ming once told Lu Qi that he had not been in love for three years, and the number of times he had fallen in love in the past was only two or three times, at that time, Lu Qi believed that it was true, for this reason, he also became pregnant twice for her boyfriend Yang Ming, although unfortunately because of ectopic pregnancy miscarriage, but it was enough to show that she really wanted to marry Yang Ming.

Lu Qi revealed that in fact, during the middle of the love between the two, Lu Qi found that her boyfriend Yang Ming and other women were ambiguous, but at that time, Yang Ming admitted his mistake and was sincere, and directly knelt down to her and slapped her for forgiveness, and the two were reunited.

Now, knowing that her boyfriend Yang Ming concealed her marriage history and stepped on multiple boats, Lu Qi proposed to ask Yang Ming for a final question, and at the same time, asked for an explanation, then, is Yang Ming really playing with her feelings?

When Lu Qi came to Yang Ming's home and asked for an explanation, only Yang Ming's parents were at home, and the second elder revealed that the two sides as adults, the problems in love, can only blame themselves, and also claimed that Lu Qi came to the door to ask for explanations, has come three or four times, nothing more than want money.

As for Yang Ming's act of concealing the history of marriage, the two elderly people directly defended: "Is it illegal to conceal the history of marriage?" ”

In the hearts of Yang Ming's parents, they only recognize the former daughter-in-law, and have been hoping that their son and the former daughter-in-law will remarry, Lu Qi will interact with his son, and the two old people have not known.

Subsequently, we met Yang Ming himself downstairs, talking about his feelings, Yang Ming did not deny it, saying that he was indeed married, and did not tell his girlfriend Lu Qi about his marriage.

When we asked his girlfriend Lu Qi why Yang Ming hid his marriage history from Lu Qi since he was sincerely engaged, yang Ming claimed to know Lu Qi, and his girlfriend Lu Qi had just lost love and was looking for Yang Ming to fall in love, that is, to use him and want to quickly walk out of the substitute for the last failed relationship: I am just a substitute.

At the same time, Yang Ming also explained that his girlfriend Lu Qi was lazy and lazy, and the two fell in love with each other, all of which he was paying, and as for the matter of pedaling multiple boats, he also admitted.

However, his girlfriend Lu Qi has also done the same thing, yang Ming revealed that Lu Qi has also taken other men home, he is just one eye open, one eye closed.

However, what is confusing is that the two broke up in the middle of the way, why did they get back together?

Talking about this issue, and why he slapped himself and asked for forgiveness, Yang Ming claimed that all this was after he broke up with Lu Qi, he was pestering himself and taking the initiative to find him to compound:

"I was looking for a woman outside, and then she didn't want to go, and then she asked me to go to her house, and then she said that she couldn't sleep alone, and asked me to accompany her."

Yang Ming's statement is diametrically opposed to Lu Qi's, is it that the past deep love is all hypocrisy, or is it that Yang Ming knows that the lie has been exposed, in order to escape responsibility and can no longer redeem this relationship, he pretends to be dismissive and thin??

When we asked Yang Ming whether he had ever loved Lu Qi, Yang Ming's answer made people think that Yang Ming was very ruthless, after all, Lu Qi had been pregnant twice, yang Ming said:

"She has never loved me, how can I love her, she is true to me, I am true to her, she is fake to me, I am fake to her, you want to pretend, then I also pretend, you pretend to be affectionate, I am more affectionate than you, people want to play games, I will accompany her to play." 」

Speaking of this, Lu Qi could only admit that he was unlucky, his feelings were wrong, and he could only complain that he had not polished his eyes at the beginning and believed too much in Yang Ming's personality.

The young female writer Suzen said:

"Don't just be obsessed with love, character is more important than this." Love is temporary, character is eternal. When love slowly fades, the relationship between two people is maintained by kindness. ”

Men and women in love, do not be too emotional, a momentary impulse, may not regret at first, but from the perspective of past failed love, there are few girls who do not regret their behavior that they have easily agreed to, especially on the night of the wedding night, they feel deep guilt for their husbands.

At first sight, it is the norm when in love, and there are very few people who can do it for a long time.

A happy love must be inseparable from a good spouse, therefore, the choice of mate is crucial; when it comes to love, don't lose your love, every inch is chaotic, sensibility exceeds reason, ignoring the importance of character, how can you ensure that love will be successful?

Lu Qi met too early, understood too late, resulting in being injured by Yang Ming's body scales, as a girl, should be taken as a warning.