Between the opposite sex, sharing these things is crossing the line

Wen \ such as water Jiang Zuo Mei Niang

As the old saying goes:

"Men and women do not receive kisses, and so do they."

Nowadays, the interaction between adults pays attention to the sense of proportion and boundary, and grasps these two points well in order to maintain a safe distance between people.

On the contrary, especially between the opposite sex, if there is no sense of proportion, there is a danger of crossing the line, which is easy to cause misunderstanding.

If the opposite sex has shared these three things, there is no doubt that it is a cross-line, and it is not far from the accident.

01. Shared cutlery

Chinese since ancient times, love reunion, love to share, everyone eats the same dish, drink the same bowl of soup, it is perfectly normal.

However, with the smaller and smaller family population, people have higher requirements for dietary hygiene, public chopsticks, meal sharing gradually prevailed, shared tableware only exists in intimate relationships, either husband and wife, couples, or girlfriends.

If the opposite sex in a non-intimate relationship shares tableware, it will undoubtedly trigger a war of words.

The famous "Peppery Soup" incident in the entertainment industry was due to the cross-border sharing of tableware by the opposite sex before, which led to a sharp decline in the popularity of both sides.

The protagonists of the incident are actors Zhang Xueying and Qin Junjie, who shared a bowl of peppery soup when filming "Summer of Bubbles" together, and at that time, Qin Junjie's girlfriend was Yang Zi.

As soon as the video was exposed, the Internet exploded. In particular, Yang Zi's fans were very dissatisfied, scolding Qin Junjie as a scumbag and Zhang Xueying as green tea. Later, Yang Ziqin Junjie officially announced the breakup, and netizens pointed out that Zhang Xueying was "Little Three". Although the crew explained that the bowl prepared at that time was not enough, there was a situation where two people shared a bowl of peppery soup, but the fans did not buy it. This incident also directly hindered Zhang Xueying and Qin Junjie's acting careers, which shows the harm caused by cross-border behavior.

Even if Qin Junjie does not have a girlfriend, as a public figure, he should also grasp the measure when getting along with the opposite sex, and the public's recognized transgression should of course be avoided.

There are no secrets in the entertainment industry, only the speed and slowness of exposure.

Sharing tableware of the opposite sex is a cross-border, which is an indisputable fact. Later, a photo of Zhou Wei and his female assistant sharing a straw for milk tea pushed him and his wife Zhu Dan to the cusp of the storm.

Soon, netizens pulled out several "evidences" that they did not love Zhu Dan on Monday and labeled him a "scumbag". Although after the incident, Monday Wei deliberately kept a distance from the female assistant and showed a full desire to survive, but netizens did not intend to let him go, for a time, the major self-media were full of articles such as "Monday Wei did not love Zhu Dan" and "Zhu Dan loved humblely". Since then, Monday Wai can be said to have lost the popularity of passers-by.

In short, regardless of whether the two people who share the tableware have ambiguous feelings, this is beyond the boundaries of ordinary friends, because in the public perception, the non-intimate relationship of the opposite sex to share the tableware is to cross the line.

02. Share secrets

Secrets, like a person's inner stone, even if it is very heavy and depressing, will not be easily handed over to others for "safekeeping".

If there is a secret shared between the opposite sex, it means that the relationship between the two is not ordinary. Because, not being defensive, not distinguishing between you and me, is itself the greatest preference.

Friend Xiao Ai was irritable for a while, often quarreling with her husband, and later suffered from mild depression. But with my understanding of her, she has a hot temper, often just finished arguing with her husband, after a while it is as sweet as ever, she will not remember revenge at all, and how can she be depressed because of the quarrel?

Xiao Ai said that she got depression because her husband had signs of a GUI.

It turned out that during that time, her husband could not stand Xiao Ai's violent temper, and complained with a female colleague, who was also their common friend, and she found weChat chat records. Female colleagues are very understanding in the chat, constantly comforting Xiao Ai's husband, which makes him feel that his wife is very "done", and said to female colleagues, "If only my wife had half of your understanding." ”

Xiao Ai saw this, immediately called the female colleague to declare sovereignty, and agreed with her husband that there would be contradictions in the future to communicate in time, even if looking for someone to talk to, she could not find the opposite sex.

The husband also realized that his approach was inappropriate, and said that he would not make the same mistake again, but Xiao Ai suffered from loss for a long time and eventually suffered from mild depression.

Sharing secrets is to share the happy and sad emotions in their hearts with each other, so that the two will inevitably comfort, encourage and support each other, and over time, they will rely on each other, and the natural relationship will become closer and closer.

When you are single, if you can't help but want to share secrets with a member of the opposite sex, it actually means that you already like him in your heart;

In the case of already having a significant other half, if you still want to share secrets with other members of the opposite sex, you need to be alert, which may be a precursor to the GUI, and you must turn back in time.

A person who can share secrets with himself already represents trust and difference, and if he is of the opposite sex, he naturally adds an element of ambiguity.

Therefore, you must be cautious about sharing secrets, and do not easily accept the sharing of other people's secrets. Because while being a "different" person, you may also be subject to different moral pressures.

03. Share private time

In this fast-paced era, it is not easy to have someone to chat with you, and if you are willing to free up a lot of time to get together, the relationship can be seen.

If the opposite sex has too much personal interaction time, it may be that the relationship between the two has undergone subtle changes.

In "The First Half of My Life", Luo Zijun and He Han originally couldn't fight together with eight poles, but they often met because one was Tang Jing's girlfriend and the other was Tang Jing's boyfriend.

At first, the two did not like each other, He Han hated Luo Zijun's temperament, and Luo Zijun was not accustomed to He Han's good teacher. If it weren't for Tang Jing's frequent requests for He Han to help Luo Zijun, 80% of these two people would have gone farther and farther on the road of old and dead.

At first, He Han was only helpless, at Tang Jing's request, to help Luo Zijun a little, with pity and obedience to his girlfriend.

But after a long time, He Han unconsciously developed love for Luo Zijun from pity.

In order to appease Luo Zijun's children, he left his work to play and disappeared, leaving time for her and the child; Luo Zijun was on a business trip and encountered rain, and He Han actually ghostly sent God thousands of miles to send umbrellas.

If He Han just wants to help a bunch of her friends out of love for his girlfriend, he can completely solve it with money, or find someone else to replace it, there is no need to do everything himself. But just when he was willing to spend time with Luo Zijun's son to assemble robots and naturally accompany them to dinner, his behavior had crossed the line and betrayed Tang Jing.

When a person is willing to spend personal time with the opposite sex in an ordinary relationship, it shows that he already has different feelings for him in his heart.

For example, if a person spends 8 hours a day on work, no one will say that he loves work, and if he spends 8 hours to do something else, it must be his interest and true love.

In "Thirty Only", the scumbag Xu Huanshan is the same. At first, he and Lin had a just ordinary working relationship, and she was the guide assigned to him by Party A. But after work, they also lined up together to buy ice cream and went to the football field to play crazy together. Having shared so much private time, their intimacy has long since surpassed that of ordinary partner relationships.

Therefore, a colleague in the office, or a classmate in a class, if the two often make private appointments, then their relationship must be extraordinary, the opposite sex is either a couple, or a male-female relationship in an ambiguous period.

If you don't want to cross the line with the opposite sex, you should avoid being alone with each other in private time, which is also a way to grasp the sense of proportion.

04. Mei Niang said

Sanmao once said:

"If what you give me is the same as what you give to others, then I don't want it; if what I give you and what others give you, you want, then I won't give it."

In just one sentence, it is said that two people in an intimate relationship must be unique in the eyes of each other. Many things, only couples and couples can share, ordinary heterosexual relationships once shared, is beyond the line.

When getting along with the opposite sex, we must always grasp the sense of proportion and boundary, and maintain a safe distance, so that the friendship can be pure for a long time.

Tableware, which is a personal item, to some extent, sharing tableware is equivalent to indirect kissing, and if you understand this, you will not share it without scruples;

Willingness to share secrets with one person means that in some corner, there are only two people's private worlds, others can't enter, before the opposite sex, only intimate relationships can be so;

In today's time is as expensive as gold, those who are willing to spend time with company are undoubtedly true love, and spending too much time on the opposite sex other than family and lovers is undoubtedly out of proportion.

Between the opposite sex, if you share these three things, 80% are in an ambiguous period, if you do not want to develop an intimate relationship, you must grasp the measure, maintain a safe distance, try to avoid misunderstandings and rumors, and also reflect a person's good character.

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