Love or not love, should be honest
The relationship between people and people is like knitting a sweater.
Knitted too loosely, sweaters are difficult to mold.
The knitting is too dense, and the sweater is too solid to breathe.
People's feelings are also, do not communicate, do not operate, will fade.
However, if the traffic is too frequent and the grasp is not balanced, it will also become a disaster.
Especially when chatting on a daily basis, even if the relationship is good, try not to talk like this.
Too cold and perfunctory
I've heard a quote like this:
"The farthest distance in the world is that I give you my enthusiasm and care, and you laugh at me on the other end of the screen."
The human heart cannot withstand temptation, and the feelings cannot withstand indifference and perfunctory.
People who have tasted grievances and disappointments in the snub and perfunctory will never come back once they leave.
If the reply received is always "oh", "um", "ah", "ah", then the desire to speak, the enthusiasm to share, will instantly cool down.
The loss of the desire to share means that a relationship is about to begin to end.
As Teacher He said:
"In a relationship, the most important thing is not appearance, nor bread, not even loyalty or not, but sharing.
The end of a relationship often begins with two people having nothing to say.
When one party loses the desire to share, the words naturally become less. There is no longer communication, and it becomes a stranger. ”
Therefore, even if it is a close and seamless relationship, do not be too indifferent and perfunctory when chatting with each other.
Don't use "busy" as an excuse to deliberately ignore the other party.
People who don't love enough will always have a reason.
If you really have a ta in your heart, you can also take time out of your busy schedule.
You know, if the feelings are not seriously maintained, walking and walking, people will disperse.
Walking too close, there is no sense of proportion
Teacher Zhou Guoping once said:
"A sense of proportion is a sign of mature love, and interpersonal communication must know how to respect the necessary distance between people."
Because too much force, it will cause pressure on people.
Especially between friends, even if the relationship is good, we must pay attention to proportions.
There are some things that should not be asked, so it is best not to ask.
There are some things that should not be said, so it is best not to open them.
There are some things that should not be managed, so it is best not to interfere.
If you lose your balance and cross the line, the relationship will change.
In the TV series "The First Half of My Life", Luo Zijun and Tang Jing are like this.
They were originally good girlfriends who had nothing to say, and in the days when Luo Zijun was divorced, Tang Jing was always on call to Luo Zijun like a sister.
She shared her life and love with Luo Zijun in every detail, and Luo Zijun did not shy away from interfering with her privacy.
Even Tang Jing's most caring lover, He Han, Luo Zijun met and contacted him from time to time.
In the end, because of Luo Zijun, He Han gave up Tang Jing.
People get too close to each other, and sometimes the relationship turns into disaster.
Only by knowing how to grasp the measure and see the boundaries clearly can we get along without getting tired and let the friendship last for a long time and steadily.
The speech is ambiguous and the chat is too frequent
There is a saying:
"Maintaining a sense of boundaries with the opposite sex is a protective wall of feelings."
Deeply.
Especially when friends of the opposite sex chat, it is even more important to avoid being too ambiguous in words and deeds.
Like the story that netizens called carved into DNA, the library blackout for 30 seconds.
In the story, the boy is carrying his girlfriend and frequent contact with the same door master and sister.
Sometimes the content of the chat is also ambiguous and ambiguous.
Shi Jie often shares his daily life with him, and he will also share his own song list with Shi Jie from time to time.
If they are all single, such behavior is understandable.
However, boys are people with girlfriends, and doing so violates the basic principles of loyalty and single-mindedness in love.
The chat exchanges of friends of the opposite sex must be clearly demarcated.
If it is ambiguous, it will not only affect each other, but also cause irreparable harm to their respective partners.
Love is an exclusive thing, and its field is so narrow that it can only accommodate two people who love each other, and there can be no third party.
Therefore, between friends of the opposite sex, even if the relationship is close, we must pay attention to proportions when chatting, keep a distance, and must not foul the line.
Chat with lovers, it is best not to perfunctory each other and snub each other.
Chat with friends, it's best not to ask about anything, get too close.
Chat with the opposite sex, it is best not to be ambiguous and unclear.
Even if the relationship is good, we must learn to operate, distinguish between Jingwei and Wei, and know how to divide inches.
I hope that we can all refrain from self-denial, be strict with ourselves, and be lenient with others.
No matter what kind of relationship, you can be free and consistent.
Neither offend the other person, nor hurt the other party, nor lose yourself.
Interpersonal communication is a long practice, and may we all finally succeed in our practice and cross ourselves.
Encourage it.
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Author: Tea Tea, Source: Little Tea Night Reading (vipyq95), please contact the original author for authorization.