Human exchanges, inevitably mutual communication, you encounter difficulties others to help you, others suffer changes, you also help others.
Feelings are closer to each other, and strangers at a distance;
Regardless of distance, interpersonal communication, we must remember to "be familiar with it";
Your own things, you enjoy the right to use and dispose of them, do not let others easily possess;
Don't test human nature, and don't lend these 4 things to others, otherwise you may regret it.
Own house
In the high-scoring suspense drama "Secret Matter No. 9", such a story is told.
Tom, who wants to become a writer, meets MiG, a homeless man who takes the initiative to go upstairs and return his wallet;
After opening the door to the other party and entering the house, the cunning and astute MiG manipulates Tom's life step by step;
He discovers that the writers to Whom Tom likes have also been tramps, and Tom himself seems to be a little distracted by some kind of blow, good in nature and does not know how to refuse;
Therefore, Mig took advantage of Tom's curiosity and good feelings for himself to take the opportunity to close the relationship;
Privately he erased all of Tom's phone messages, hid Tom's mobile phone under the sofa, and became the owner of the house himself, making Tom, the dove occupy the magpie's nest....
In real life, the residence and house are the foundation of our settlement;
It exposes our privacy and is a dwelling place for our character and habits.
If you easily let others live in, or even be good to each other without asking for returns, so that the other party forms dependence, you may eventually end up with a "please God easy to send God difficult" end.
Moreover, others have lived in their own residences for a long time, and to a lesser extent, there will be "bumps and bumps" of various lifestyles;
To a large extent, in case the other party's virtue is at a loss, anti-customer-oriented, take your "home" as his territory, and bring people to this party at will, it will affect the rhythm of your own life, and even damage your own personal and property safety.
Therefore, it is okay to help people, but don't lend each other a house for a long time, it depends on specific things and specific people.
Own credit
The word credit, in the eyes of most people, is a noun.
However, in the book "A Brief History of Mankind", the elaboration of money can make people feel awe of integrity and credit.
Throughout the history of finance, people have used shells and gold coins for exchange and payment.
The reason is that everyone believes.
"Trust" is the most basic raw material in all forms of money. Money is the most pervasive and effective system of mutual trust ever built.
It can be seen that no one can stand without faith.
People work together, cooperate, communicate, rely on credit, it can be said that credit is the link between human relations to maintain and operate benignly.
When you ignore your credit and do something that undermines your integrity, your financial path is blocked.
Therefore, if you do not know the character of the other party very well and are not sure, do not easily lend credit to others, such as endorsing others, making guarantees, or finding cooperation with each other.
Because in the end things suddenly change, it affects your credit and fortune.
His own lover
In the Book of Rites, it is said: Desire cannot be followed, and pride cannot be long.
This means that desires should not be indulged, and ambition should not be complacent.
Mention that people should understand self-cultivation, but people are complex, and in different situations, human nature is not easily transferred by their own expectations;
In the drama "The First Half of My Life" that was a few years ago, Luo Zijun's life was hopeless after being "divorced", luo's girlfriend Tang Jing was busy with work, and when she went to a different place for work, she "entrusted" her best friend Zijun to Tang's boyfriend.
In the end, in the frequent help and exchanges between Zijun and the congratulatory letter, the two secretly had a relationship;
Tang Jing was very painful after finding out, and felt the hurt of being betrayed by her friend and lover together, and the relationship between the three of them never returned to the past.
Love is "selfish" and requires loyalty and single-mindedness, not being able to share it with others, and not challenging the dark side of human nature for any reason.
Often lending their lovers to others, invisibly, is to "lay mines" for their own happiness, in this world there are many love at first sight, and there are not a few who have long-term love;
For the sake of prudence and unnecessary "testing", please do not easily lend your lover to others, even if it is your own family and friends.
Own time
Zeng Guofan once said: "The sky can be replenished, the sea can be filled, the South Mountain can be moved, and the sun and moon are in the past, and cannot be traced back."
It means that you can make up the sky, you can reclaim the sea, you can move the South Mountain, that is, time can never be chased back.
Classmate Su Su said that when she was in college, one of her female classmates, because of the problem of lost love, was always entangled with her boyfriend and repeatedly tossed.
And Su Su is a person who accompanies female classmates to make trouble every day, sometimes goes to the train station to "block" the boyfriend of female classmates, sometimes accompanies female classmates to buy drunks, stays up late K songs, and sometimes accompanies her and her boyfriend to "negotiate".
At the end of the semester, Su Su, who won the scholarship for the second time, actually "lit up the red light" in two homework, while the female classmate was plagued by the loss of love, but the results were very good.
Su Su sighed that it was fortunate that she had a boyfriend, helped her analyze her distress and confusion, and resolutely stayed away from female classmates, so that she could graduate normally.
Some people, just your "acquaintances", they don't mind your embarrassment, don't care about your feelings, don't consider your difficulties;
Just so that you can be a companion for her, when they vent their emotions, there is someone around who can "listen".
Life may be unequal for everyone, but time is equal and precious, don't lend your own time to others to "waste" and "consume".
Life is difficult, not everyone is worthy of your help, and not all "exclusive property" can be lent to others at will.
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