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"The Godfather" says: "A person who sees the essence in one second and who spends half his life unable to see the essence of a thing will naturally not be a fate."
These words are actually worth our good taste. Why do some people see the essence of things clearly, while others just can't see through it?
In the words of the success master, the former has a large pattern and sharp thinking, while the latter pattern is not good, and the thinking is solidified.
In the words of school teachers, the former read more books, while the latter read fewer books.
In comforting terms, the former is gifted and has a good fate, while the latter is not gifted and has a bad fate.
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These words are all paradoxical clichés, but they still do not step on the point. Whether it is thinking, or pattern, or what we often say about reading, even fate, it is related to two words - human nature.
To understand human nature is to read the world. But no one will tell us the truth of human nature, because all this can only be understood, not spoken. To put it mildly, no one is going to tell us the key to unlocking the world.
Such selfish behavior, of course, is also human nature.
02
What is the purpose of our inquiry into the nature of human nature? Three purposes.
First, we must better mix in the rivers and lakes; secondly, we must change our destiny. It's really not okay, and it's also a good choice to save yourself.
Since we want to explore human nature, we must analyze our current predicament well.
In this regard, let us first consider four questions.
Question 1: Why do couples have a seven-year itch and think that someone else's wife/husband is better than their own?
Question two: Why do friends and family have a bad mentality, and don't they have a blood relationship?
Question Three: Why is your boss able to control you smoothly, even make you obedient?
Question Four: Why have you worked hard for half a lifetime, or even a lifetime, and been particularly kind, but you still can't live this life well?
The answer to these four questions is still similar, that is, "human nature".
The first point of view: human nature is like the new and tired of the old, but also fickle. The reason why the seven-year itch occurs between husband and wife is because people are too close to each other, often magnifying each other's shortcomings and not seeing each other's advantages.
Second view: Human nature is biased towards the "principle of proximity." People often like to compare with the people around them and attack the people around them. Because the risk is small, the cost is low, and the benefit is large. For outsiders, everything is reversed.
Third point of view: human nature is biased towards "blind obedience". Your boss has created a code of workplace ethics for you, so you take it as a perfect quote. As everyone knows, some people try hard to teach you to become better, that is, they work hard to become bad.
Fourth point of view: There is "self-binding" in human nature. Sometimes, what binds us is often the standards that others tell us. Then, we deify this standard in our hearts, and we cannot escape it, thus obliterating the rationality of the individual.
03
Since human nature has different characteristics, how do we break through human nature?
In the words of philosophers, in the human nature where sensibility and reason merge, it is ultimately necessary to use reason to break through human nature.
Rationality, these two words we hear a lot, in the end what is rationality?
Your colleagues do not respect you, and even push the responsibility to you, and you have a kind heart, think that good people have good rewards, and take his plate. This, which seems to be very kind, is actually a failure to live up to personal rationality.
All "good rewards" are things that arise from self-interest. That is to say, you sowed the seed and reaped the grain that belongs to you, which is your good reward.
However, if you sow seeds for others, or even become a vassal of others, then you have nothing to gain, which is the misfortune of self-perception bias.
From the perspective of human psychology, all people will think for their own interests, which dooms everyone to put only "interests" at the center. This is true of groups, and it is true of individuals.
Behind reason is profit.
04
Everything is judged from the perspective of "interest".
For example, if a stock guru shares his experience with you, why should he share it with you? Unfortunately, their purpose is to cut your leeks. Because cutting leeks is his source of profit.
For example, your boss shares with you the idea of "love to fight to win" and encourages you to continue to fight for the company and never sleep. Their purpose, which is only one, is to fight you and to enrich himself.
There's a saying that sums it up so well that no one thinks about you, and everyone thinks about themselves because it's a selfish world.
To break through the fundamentals of human nature is to analyze the "interests" of all parties from "reason", and then analyze their purposes from a macro or micro perspective.
It's so about business, it's true for work, it's true for making money, and it's true for life.
I think that if we want to change our destiny, then we must have a good understanding of the nature of the world's interests. This is the truth of human nature.
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