Vanity Fair said: "In life, there are always some fragments that look insignificant at the time, but in fact affect the big picture." ”
What exactly is marriage? Thousands of people say a thousand things, but the most basic of us all know, understanding, mutual assistance, joint responsibility and management.
Before marriage is an independent individual, after marriage is an economic community. It is a very unwise idea to always regard the other half of the marriage as an outsider, and to enter the marriage with such an attitude is most likely to be a mess.
I saw a video on a certain tone, and the place of the incident was in Jiangxi:
The groom used a dowry of 380,000 to greet his relatives, and the bride's family temporarily proposed that the bride price should be added by 100,000, and after the groom's bitter persuasion was fruitless, he was ready to leave.
The groom got into the car in a negative mood, and the bride squatted on the ground in a white wedding dress, grabbed the handlebars and cried. In the end, the bride price was not added, and the bride got into the car crying and crying.
Originally it was a wedding that was running towards happiness, but I don't know whose idea it was that planted a thunder in my future life.
The bride did not succeed in adding weight, but fell behind, and even if the groom did not give more bride price, it also laid a rift for the marriage to get along.
After a farce, the couple also continued the wedding. However, there are also many newcomers, because of the sudden increase in the dowry, and are forced to beat the Mandarin duck and the Labor Swallow to fly.
Ma Lei successfully consummated his marriage a few days ago, and with the blessings of his relatives and friends, his hanging heart could be put down.
This was Ma Lei's second wedding, but it was his first marriage. The episode that occurred during the first kissing trip, Ma Lei still remembers it vividly.
The former girlfriend Xiao Yu who broke up was introduced by a friend to meet each other, the two got along for more than a year, the feelings were stable, and Ma Lei also determined that the wife he wanted to marry in this life was Xiao Yu.
Before marriage, Xiao Yu often said consciously or unconsciously that which of her sisters got a high dowry when she married, which made people envious; which woman around her got married, bought a marriage house with 200 square meters, and the location was good.
Although Ma Lei did not feel good in his heart, Xiao Yu did not say that he was not good at having a seizure. I can really say that my ability is limited, and I will give the best within my ability to Xiao Yu.
When it came time to talk about the bride price, xiao Yu, who had always been soft, was particularly determined. Ma Lei pleaded and was tough, Xiao Yu must have a dowry of 280,000 yuan, and she would not accept it for one point less.
Ma Lei's family conditions are average, and it is already under pressure to buy a house and run a banquet. In the face of this 280,000 dowry, the Ma family had to tighten their pants and belts and take out all the pension money.
Ma Lei's face began to look bad from that day, one was to let his parents empty their pensions by marrying himself, and the other was to feel guilty for not being able to make money and not being able to convince Xiao Yu.
The two people are awkward, but the time is not waiting for anyone, and in the blink of an eye, it is the day of the wedding banquet.
Ma Lei swept away the gloom before, thinking that there must be a good start. He went out with joy, picked up friends, and went to pick up the bride.
The kissing ceremony was complicated, Ma Lei passed five levels and slashed six generals, and hurriedly received the bride and rushed to the hotel. Most of the relatives and friends have arrived, and everyone is looking forward to it.
The wedding car stopped in front of the hotel, Ma Lei got out of the car and trotted to give Xiao Yu the car door, Xiao Yu was particularly beautiful today, and ma Lei smiled and held out his hand. Ma Lei went to pull Xiao Yu's hand, and Xiao Yu's face turned cold: "What about the fare?" ”
Ma Lei froze, "What fare?" Tujili, long, 90,000 9 bus fare. I haven't talked to you before, my sisters have them. ”
Ma Lei couldn't help it in his heart, but seeing that the banquet was also fixed and the guests had arrived, he could only patiently coax: "First finish the right thing, and I will give it to you later." ”
Xiao Yu said, this is where to turn back. Ma Lei said that there was really no money at home, and I would go to get it for a while and a half. Xiao Yu said, "Then you are not obviously lying to me, and you have no money to say that you will come back to me, then I have to ask for it now." ”
The groomsman saw that he had not gotten off the bus for half a day and came to ask what was going on, and also helped to persuade. Xiao Yu was indifferent and sat firmly in the car.
Ma Lei's heart was crossed, and he said to the driver: "If the marriage is not married, send it away, according to the fee I have paid, the farther away the better." ”
The wedding driver may have seen this scene and did not hesitate to step on the accelerator. Ma Lei immediately stopped him, and Xiao Yu thought that Ma Lei regretted it, and the panic in his eyes was replaced by a proud color:
Or is my mother right, suppress it before marriage, let him know that marrying me is expensive, and only after marriage can he be obedient to me.
I didn't think what Ma Lei said was: "Xiao Yu, go home and prepare the 280,000 dowry I gave, I will go and get it at night." ”
A wedding becomes a farce, a marriage becomes a sin.
After a long time, Ma Lei eased up and met his current wife. The marriage party asked for 88,000 dowry, Ma Lei gave 188,000, and his wife brought it back as the start-up capital of the small family.
When his wife got off the bus at the hotel, Ma Lei's heart was also hanging. It wasn't until the wedding ceremony ended successfully that Ma Lei was relieved, felt the joy of the new marriage well, and thought that he must treat his wife well.
Money is important in our lives, but it's not all about marriage. Do what you can, be considerate of each other, and don't be humble or overly self-important.
The bride price is high, the feelings are light, and it is really not worth it. The other half of your marriage is the person you're going to go through together for the rest of your life, not your enemy.
When marriage becomes a sale, feelings become nothingness. Marriages without feelings can be lived, but they can only be made up.
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