Text: Cradle of Love
Use the simplest words to give you warmth, give you companionship, lead you to grow, and help you be strong.
Li Gang, 40 years old this year, because of the epidemic, the hotel can not continue to operate, had to close its doors.
But behind the closure of the door, he has tried to struggle countless times, and in the case of losing money, he has stood up for more than a year.
Over the past year, he has lost a lot of money, and the funds have fallen into a poor turnover.
He remembered vividly the decision of his friends when he borrowed money from his friends; the indifference of his relatives when he borrowed money from his relatives.
He suddenly understood that it turned out that a friend who called himself a brother was only a hypocrite, and would not really insert a knife in both ribs, but did not care about himself and hung high.
Once, when he was rich, the people around him were very close to him, deliberately approaching him and taking the initiative to win over the relationship.
But now, as far as you can go, you can get as far away as you can. I heard that he had no money, did not reply to his messages, did not answer his phone, even if he came to visit, he would resolutely refuse.
As a famous person once said, "When you have money, you have more friends around you; when you don't have money, you have fewer friends around you." ”
How heartfelt, but how realistic, this is the cruelty of society.
Between people, there is less sincerity and more use.
Therefore, at any time, do not overestimate human nature, let alone overestimate the relationship between people and people.
The friends you think, maybe just for a while, are friends when you have money, friends when you have use value, not necessarily real friends, and friends who can help you when you need them.
It seems that only when a person is poor will he really discover that there is only one person who is truly reliable, and that is himself.
It is better to rely on others than on oneself
No relationship will be eternal, whether it is love or friendship.
All relationships will change over time, they will change with events, and even with your rich and poor.
When you have money, surround yourself with a group of people; when you are poor, you will be surrounded by another group of people.
A person's best chip should not be in the hands of others, but in his own hands.
As the saying goes: "The mountain will fall, and everyone will run." ”
Don't think that some people will rely on it for a lifetime, and what you think is reliable is your overly beautiful expectation.
Even some people, who say they won't betray you, will stick knives in both ribs at any time.
However, when you are down, when you have difficulties, those people will take the initiative to forget what they have said, and even take the initiative to keep a distance from you.
The best thing to rely on is yourself, only you will not betray yourself, you will not abandon yourself.
Only being strong is the best thing to rely on, and only you can give yourself the life you want.
It is better to ask for people than to accumulate strength
Many times, the greater the expectations of others, the more disappointed and chilled they are.
When you have difficulties, no one will really sympathize with you, really understand you, really stand up for the first time, and help you solve the problem.
Everything still needs to be faced by yourself and solved by yourself.
When you think about who to ask for in the future, it is better to accumulate more strength and save more money for yourself.
As the saying goes, really smart people know how to leave a way back for themselves, know how to leave a hand for themselves, even if they fail, they have the ability to make a comeback with capital.
Your life is your own, and the people around you are just bystanders.
It cannot be denied the fact that some people, just want to see your jokes, just waiting for you to be ugly, waiting to see your hilarity.
So, when you go to someone, he won't help you, he'll just be happy.
Only when you accumulate strength can you have the ability and strength to rise in place and truly save yourself.
When you encounter setbacks, you must grit your teeth and persevere
In this life, it is inevitable that there will be times of distress, and no one will be smooth sailing.
Others can't point fingers, and they must not give up, and they must learn to grit their teeth and persevere.
Even if human nature is thin, you experience the thin coolness, it is not a reason for you to give up on yourself.
No matter what difficulties you encounter, you must strengthen your heart, do not escape, do not shrink back, and bravely persevere.
It is also a good thing to fall down once, at the very least, to let you see people's hearts and puncture those real relationships.
Perhaps, after experiencing disappointment and coldness, your heart will be stronger, and in setbacks, you can also get a quick baptism and tempering.
You will eventually understand that the only way out of all the difficulties of the world is self-transit.
When you encounter setbacks, you really have no choice but to slowly survive.
Only by surviving the darkness can we usher in the dawn; only by holding everything can we wait until the willows are dark and bright.
In this life, there are some roads that you can only walk alone.
When you try to rely on others, your wings will slowly degenerate and eventually lose the ability to fly alone.
Therefore, no matter when, you can't count on others and bet on others, but you must know how to rely on yourself and strengthen yourself.
When you are poor, the most test is a relationship after a relationship, see clearly, and give it up, and those who are not worthy of contact will resolutely break off.
For the rest of your life, no matter how difficult it is to walk, you must grit your teeth and go on, and live yourself well.
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Author: Love to read, love to write, love to think, dare to love and dare to hate the northern girl. A freelance writer, an emotional mentor who has helped countless people out of psychological difficulties.