"The encounter between two 50-year-old friends has made me gradually depressed": Life has long been marked with a price tag

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Zweig said: "All the gifts of fate have been secretly priced." ”

Everyone's destiny has a different direction. Some people can achieve extraordinary things, and then naturally they go up. And some people are in a mess all their lives, and they are naturally busy in vain.

For the vast majority of people, life is a cultivation field, in which in addition to endless competition, there are endless battles, which makes people extremely stressed.

For everyone, life is like a test field, and those who can pass the test will eventually "pass the pass" after all. And people who can't pass the test will generally fall ahead of a certain level.

Life is never as simple as we think.

Especially after middle age, the energy of our body gradually declines, and the tests of life are increasing. Doesn't this force people into desperate situations?

Since the beginning of the mid-life crisis, the gap between people has become apparent. Rich and powerful middle-aged people can naturally be free from the impact of the mid-life crisis. But what about ordinary ordinary people? Maybe it can only live more and more awkwardly.

Sometimes, only after half a lifetime, will you fully understand that everyone's life has already been marked with a price tag.

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"The encounter between two 50-year-old friends made me gradually depressed."

Half a month ago, a reader left a message in the background and said such a thing.

Reader Mr. Zhang has two friends, Lao Li and Lao Chen. However, the encounter between these two people made Mr. Zhang, as a friend, gradually think about life and become depressed.

The 50-year-old Li, a fellow villager of Mr. Zhang, went to work in a big city. Although he is under a lot of pressure, with his physical strength and ability, he can still earn enough money.

However, Lao Li was injured in an accident and left with a lifelong disability. Today's old Li, not only can not work, but also needs to be taken care of by his family, which is particularly unfortunate.

It is not so much the misfortune of old Li as it is the misfortune of the whole family. Because Old Li's son is studying in college, he still needs his support; his parents are also older, and they also need him to spend money on pensions; his wife's little salary is simply not enough to spend.....

The pressure of the whole family was pressed on Old Li's body. However, the old Li who encountered an accident could not bear such pressure anymore, and could only find someone to borrow money everywhere, and he was embarrassed to the extreme.

And 50-year-old Chen, after an operation at the age of 45, has been in poor health, either going to the hospital today for examination or going to the hospital tomorrow.

In the past few years, Lao Chen's condition has been repeated, minor surgeries have been performed several times, and money has been spent a lot, but it has not improved.

Once, Mr. Zhang went to the hospital to visit Lao Chen, and Lao Chen only said this to Mr. Zhang: "Old Zhang, if it weren't for his family, I really don't want to stick with it." This process is too bitter. What is the meaning of this life all the time? ”

After listening to Lao Chen's words, Lao Zhang could only say a few words of comfort. Because he himself knows that some pain is difficult for ordinary people to bear after all.

Old Li's accident made Old Zhang feel that things were uncertain. Lao Chen's torture in the pain of illness made Lao Zhang think about the value of life.

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Life is made up of impermanence and helplessness.

What is "impermanence"? That is, we don't know when accidents and luck will come. Perhaps, just the accident of this level has caused many people to fall.

What is "helplessness"? That is, ordinary people try their best to live, but they still can't live this life. Luck seems to have become a luxury. And helplessness has become a reality.

When we are young, we always feel that we can change our destiny and change the world. Later, I learned that what changes fate and what changes the world is difficult to become a reality.

Just like the old Li above, he supported a family by the struggle of one person. But now, he has an accident, is disabled, can not take care of his family, children and the elderly need money, so what can he do?

It is difficult for people to change the world, but it is too simple for reality to change a person. This is the tragedy.

Just like lao Chen above, he also wants to live in good health. However, what is the meaning of this life of having to take medicine and do surgery at every turn? Perhaps, pain will only accompany us to old age.

If we are middle-aged people, or the elderly who are almost retired, we will naturally understand that people have already marked the price tag in this life. Whether it is a hard life or a rich life, it is destined to be good.

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We may wish to think about the question, what is the purpose of people coming into this world?

I think it's just to have some experience. A small number of people experience a smooth and luxurious life, while the vast majority experience a life full of twists and turns and pains.

When people reach middle age, we may as well look back at the first half of life, our parents gave birth to us, hoping that we can be happy. Then we had the baby and hoped the child could be happy.

Parents have given a lifetime for us, we have given a lifetime for our children, and a child will also give a lifetime for his children... This cycle goes on and on, and which generation is happy?

Wang Xiaobo wrote in the Golden Age: "Man lives in the world in order to endure destruction until he dies. ”

When we are young, we need to endure the ravages of reality; in middle age, we need to endure the ravages of life; in old age, we need to endure the ravages of illness.

Doesn't this become an "endless cycle"?

I think that the greatest meaning of life is to survive in continuous pain, and then continue to endure pain and taste everything in the world. That's all.

Wen/Shushan has deer