Middle-aged, the biggest ignorance: overestimating pillow people!

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When people reach middle age, it is an extremely embarrassing age!

Say old, a little early; say small, and no longer young! At such an age of not being up and down, it is also biased to meet all kinds of pressures. A little carelessness can only add more regrets for the rest of your life.

People are not as good as dogs when they reach middle age! I don't know what mistakes dogs have made, and they want middle-aged people to make comparisons!

Middle-aged people, old at the top and small at the bottom, work conscientiously and carefully in interpersonal relationships. These painstaking efforts are a necessity. If there is a warm home behind you, no matter how tired you are, it is worth it and can be soothed.

Afraid of fear, middle-aged people's overestimation of the pillow side has become the greatest sad urge in life.

The marriage relationship of middle-aged people is the most difficult relationship to manage.

The marriage and love life in middle age has been a long time away from the passion it once had, and it has been accompanied by blandness for a long time.

In the relationship between the left hand and the right hand, when all the trivialities are mixed together and put together into chicken feathers in one place after another, the "I love you" of the two people is replaced by countless cold wars and quarrels!

In addition, there are people who face the betrayal of the people in front of them, and the struggle for interests between the people in front of them... Piece by piece, how can one "exhausted"?

Mrs. Song in "Snail Residence", in order to achieve the peak life of a man, is willing to become the virtuous wife behind Song Siming.

Song Siming, having such a wife, should have been grateful. However, the eminent nobleMan Song Siming, when he became famous, he betrayed his wife.

At first, Song Siming also deliberately hid some behavior.

Before long, he divided his energy and time in two with great fanfare, and between the third party seaweed and his wife, he enjoyed the pleasure of being pleased while enjoying the steadfastness of his wife as a backing.

Mrs. Song, who has walked with Song Siming from the most beautiful years, has seen the sorrows of countless middle-aged people, seen the trivial contradictions of countless middle-aged people, and never thought that her husband who trusted so much would one day do something to betray himself.

Song Siming, before his future and life were nearing the end, left the 5 million that his wife had made to save him to seaweed. But he entrusted his children with seaweed to his wife. The only person I can trust is you!

If only people had the ability to see into the future! That way, everyone can know who to make the right investment in. Thus, it is not necessary to be like Mrs. Song, after selflessly paying, to cultivate her husband into a "contrarian son".

The cruelty of real life is always more vividly reflected in middle-aged people. And overestimating the pillow people is exactly the problem that most middle-aged people are facing.

In the center of the red dust, too many middle-aged people are experiencing the torment of internal and external troubles.

It is not that anyone's pressure is too weak, but the moment of desire, ease or pressure will become a force that pushes people to forget their past kindness with the person in front of them and go the wrong way.

Some middle-aged people are hurt by the pillow person to the skin, and the pillow person who hurts him never has to have half a point of guilt!

Love or no love, how many sea oaths have been made, in the world of middle-aged people, are rare objects.

Probably, there is a sentence that will attract too much insult, but I still have to say:

There doesn't seem to be any relationship in the world that can be truly stable! In the face of interests and desires, even middle-aged couples who have experienced too many storms and even the test of life and death together are still "unreliable"!

Many middle-aged people have been stabbed, betrayed, and even ended their lives by the pillow people, all of which are the ugliness of human hearts and human nature!

People to middle age, the biggest ignorance, overestimating pillow people!

If you have entered middle age, I advise you not to overestimate the pillow person! Don't underestimate human nature, there are benefits! In particular, the following things must be treated rationally:

1: In any case, you must have the ability to be financially independent

Luo Zijun in "The First Half of My Life", if she did not completely voluntarily be imprisoned by the family for Chen Junsheng's "I raise you". Then, she must know how to be a person with her own circle and economic independence in the face of reality.

An economically independent person means that she can have a sharper perception and understanding of the human heart and human nature in the reality outside of the home.

Although Luo Zijun is not short of money, she has lost the ability to recognize human nature because she has not experienced the ugliness of human nature in the circle of survival without the Eight Classics.

Luo Zijun thought that as long as she was as beautiful as a flower at all times, she could do it. However, the real life circle determines that the growth of two people is a contrast between heaven and earth.

Chen Junsheng betrayed Luo Zijun and, in Chen Junsheng's words, fell in love with Ling Ling uncontrollably- a yellow-faced woman and a big mother!

In the operation of the marriage relationship, money determines whether you want to live with the other half, and economic independence determines that you can see the world through the circle outside the home.

First, you don't derail from society. Second, you don't depend on anyone because of money.

Being able to grow up continuously, being able to have the ability to be economically independent, and facing the sudden changes brought to him by the pillow people, he will not be as helpless as Luo Zijun.

Luo Zijun, who left Chen Junsheng, if there was no girlfriend Tang Jing and congratulatory letters, she must be the most sloppy woman, there is no one!

In the real marriage relationship, both men and women must have their own indispensable self-worth in the marriage relationship!

Don't forget: the ability to be financially independent is a person's greatest confidence!

2: Don't take the other half as the only "center of gravity" in your life

In middle age, some marriage and love relationships that cannot be lived and cannot be separated are mostly because of economic or spiritual independence.

As for some people who move their children and the elderly out and do the biggest restriction on marriage and love relations, they are all making excuses for themselves.

Can't go on and can't be separated, it proves that separation is the best ending! However, talking to the elderly and children is nothing more than "not wanting to leave".

The people who really want to go can't stay, can they?

I don't want all marriages facing problems to care about men and women, and must choose divorce. Rather, it is necessary for all those who are suffering to understand what the real reason is inseparable!

The real reason why they can't go on is that they are mostly disappointed in the expectations and disappointments of the pillow people. This is the result of the continuous superposition of business problems!

When people reach middle age, they can no longer be "brainless" like people in their 20s. The most undesirable behavior for the pillow person is to expect too much, trust too much, and rely too much!

Everything, as long as you use too much force, you will suffer from it!

The marriage and love relationship of middle-aged people knows how to leave a blank space for themselves more than in their previous lives. Although people should live with good expectations for the future, they must always have the other half ready to withdraw from themselves at any time.

Only such a "crisis" mentality will make you more aware of how to manage your life in case of emergencies.

When people reach middle age, they must learn to face all realities in real life, acknowledge reality, and recognize reality.

After experiencing betrayal, stop dwelling on love and non-love, and weigh how to obtain your greatest benefits;

After experiencing cruel and unfortunate treatment, we must know how to stop losses in time, rather than still having attachments to the wrong relationship;

After experiencing violence such as language and physical violence, we must learn to say no to such "fate"!

People reach middle age, although mentality is very important! But don't be a person who is injured and comforts himself with "no heart and no lungs"!

In this life, people must understand that the most reliable person is themselves, and the most loyal friend is themselves.

When people reach middle age, they are lucky to meet a pillow person who is harmonious with themselves to be old, which is the luck of three lifetimes. In this moment of rampant desire and inherent evil in human nature, only by strengthening oneself can oneself be free from the suffering of eternal disaster!

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Love is man's purgatory in the world. Love or friendship, the right time meets the right person to cultivate the right results!

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