Some people say that marriage is like a siege, people in the city want to get out, and people outside the city want to go in.
In the TV series "The First Half of My Life", Luo Zijun before being divorced was the one who was in the siege but didn't know it, had neither long-term plans nor current thoughtfulness, like a frog at the bottom of a well, enjoying her time as a rich lady in Shanghai day after day.
As the saying goes, "People have no long-term concerns, they must have near-term worries", and this sentence is perfect to describe Luo Zijun's situation.
Luo Zijun is the person who played a good hand of cards poorly.
Luo Zijun is an authentic Shanghai girl, her appearance is not too much to describe as graceful, although the original family is not very rich, but the family atmosphere is also full of love and warmth; is not only well educated, but also has a childhood sweetheart with Chen Junsheng, and has entered the palace of marriage since graduation.
The marriage with Chen Junsheng is the starting point of Luo Zijun's happiness, and it is also the descending point of the parabola of her life.
There is nothing wrong with Chen Junsheng's promise of her sentence "I will raise you", the fault is that Luo Zijun is willing to believe in this sentence, and in the time of day after day, neither strive to improve herself, nor do she do a good job of Chen Junsheng's virtuous help, she thinks that as long as she remains young and beautiful, her marriage cage will be indestructible; She thought that a sentence of "I will raise you" would make Chen Junsheng willing to "raise her for a lifetime".
For Luo Zijun, Ling Ling's appearance did not know whether it was destruction or rebirth.
Ling Ling, who was dressed unkempt, and did not enter the flow at all in terms of appearance or dress, quietly took away everything that Luo Zijun was proud of.
But he is also married to Chen Junsheng, who has an annual salary of 1.5 million, why can Luo Zijun carry a bag of 60,000 yuan, but Ling Ling is always short of money?
If the marriage between Luo Zijun and Chen Junsheng started from love, then the marriage between Ling Ling and Chen Junsheng must be based on the original intention of "changing fate". Not only does she want to change her fate, but she also wants to provide her son Jiaqing with better material conditions. At this time, Chen Junsheng, who was under the double pressure of work pressure and Luo Zijun's gains and losses, became Ling Ling's prey.
Luo Zijun in marriage neither works nor does housework, and indulges in seemingly decent activities such as shopping, spa, and afternoon tea every day.
After marrying Chen Junsheng, although Ling Ling controlled the economic power of the family, because of the marriage she destroyed, the reorganized family suffered a lot of economic pressure.
First of all, Luo Zijun and Ping'er's child support accounted for a lot of the family's expenses; Secondly, in order to prevent Chen Junsheng's parents from living with her, she did not hesitate to spend 12,000 per month to rent a house in the same community, which successfully supported Ping'er and her in-laws, and allowed her to live a happy life of "a family of three" as she wished; The most important point is that although she is not very lascivious about her dress, she is never stingy with her son Jiaqing's needs, which can be seen from the fact that she signed up for Jiaqing's United States summer camp of 50,000 yuan.
Ling Ling's series of actions seemed shrewd, but they were all seen by Chen Junsheng. Ling Ling's scheming and calculation are in stark contrast to Luo Zijun's kindness and stupidity. At this time, did Chen Junsheng regret his original choice?
Until Ling Ling advocated that Ping'er's living expenses should be returned, Chen Junsheng's sentence "Don't be too ugly to eat" directly revealed his dislike for Ling Ling.
In such a state, how could Ling Ling and Chen Junsheng's married life be satisfactory. On the contrary, after the divorce, Luo Zijun was like a rebirth of Nirvana, with a bumper harvest in career and love, and lived an open life.
Finally, to borrow a sentence from Lin Huiyin: The cat in the alley is very free, but it has no home: the dog in the wall has a home, but it has to bow its head for life.
May we all find ordinary happiness within reach of our own day.